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Clementine85
06-09-2011, 23:23
Let me try to shorten a long drawn out story...

I've been seeing someone for over a couple of months. We aren't official as such but we kind of are.. (like an unspoken thing.) Anyway.. We've been using contraceptive methods and a couple of times i used the morning after pill. It messed with my hormones so much i went to the doctors to get a script for the pill. I got the script straight away waiting for my period to come, but alas it was over a week or so late (5 weeks). So i took a home test and it was negative. I knew i wasn't pregnant but i took it for his peace of mind.

A week later (6 weeks) i take another home test (on father's day, won't forget that one!) and the test was positive. I then booked in for the doctor the next day and got the confirmation by the evening.

I went and told him as soon as i found out. He wasn't overly thrilled as he already has a son he does not see, and i knew this would be the case. I don't blame him and i was so scared to tell him, but thought it was the right thing to do. He dealt with it much better than i thought he would but obviously does not want me to keep it, but he has told me he will support me no matter what i decide. Which i honestly think is not the case. We've talked about the options and will continue to do so. I would love it if he was to be a part of the child's life, but this will probably not be. I'm just grateful i have an amazing support system with my family and my close friends.

I don't think i can go through with an abortion. I am very pro-choice but i myself could not do it. I do however feel guilty about bringing this on him. =\

I/we haven't told many people except for my parents (who have told a few people), his mum and a couple of friends of mine. All of which have been supportive about me keeping the child and told me that ultimately it was my choice. But i am so over-ridden by guilt! I just want to make everyone happy!

Well that was a bit of a rant!

krystallxx
06-09-2011, 23:32
You need to make you happy. At the end of the day its your body, your baby (I know he has a dad but likely won't be involved?) and you have to live with the decision.

It's fantastic you have a great support base but at the end of the day it's ultimately your choice.

I have nothing much to say but think about it, talk to a family planning councilor, your mum or whoever.

Ashliijayne
19-10-2011, 11:54
Believe it or not i was in the exact same position!
im almost 18 weeks though...
and the father of my baby did not take it well AT ALL! he told me to get rid or it, it was a kid having a kid etc. and im 19... not what i consider a child.

i knew from the start i was not getting an abortion, ive been against it from day dot for myself anyway! as i had told him prior to getting into doing the deed. for me it was an instant. like your ex-partner he said he would support me but turns out his support was trying to get back with me. he has issues and i didnt trust it so i said no. he has been harrassing me ever since. at this point i told him to leave me alone, he was stressing me and i didnt need it. im sure you will get to that stage where he will be nasty or just vanish. i gave my ex the option to walk away... but he feels an obligation... im taking this on, on my own! family and friends will help you through anything!

DONT EVER go against what you believe/feel!
abortion can have negative and positive affects as can having a baby!

i chose to do what was right for me and my situation and gave him the option to be a positive part, he chose to be negative so i stopped contact.

do whats right for you! :goodvibes: