school photos

[Lettabean]

for all those in a split family where step child lives with other parent, do you expect the birth mother to let you know when school photos are coming up so you can arrange to buy copies of your own?
we have moved to auusie and i texted step daughters mum today to ask abotu school photos so we could get some and she replies to say they had them a few weeks ago. It would of been nice for her to let us know so we could have bought some!!!!!!!!!!
sorry vent over

[CrazySingleMama84]

I have always let my DS' father know when photos were so he could. We used to pay half each and split the biggest available package. I will do it with DD when she hits school too.

[Benji]

*facepalm* I'm so glad you posted this, I just remembered that I have school photos to pass onto my son's step-mother. I've had them for a few weeks and, I must admit, I'm so darn busy being a custodial mother and working and caring for the house etc that I barely remember to go to the toilet let alone organise my son's father and his partner, I hope this is the case for your daughter's mum :) Often there's genuinely no malice intended.

[Beachside Mumma]

DSS's mum lets us know when school photo's are coming up and what the packages are and cost and we let her know what we want, transfer the money and she gives us the photo's next time we see DSS.

We do however get the school newsletter's emailed to us, so we know when they're coming and next year we'll probably just organise to get some with the school directly, for a few different reasons.

Can she scan one for you when she receives them back?

[RmumR]

i call DD's dad when photo's are coming up and he chooses what from the package he wants and deposits me the money.
i add his order to mine and give to daycare.
when pix arrive i post him his part of the order.

can you contact the photo company and put in a late order for some pix. seeing as its all digital they are prob able to easily look up her name and do the prints and post to you

[Beachside Mumma]

i call DD's dad when photo's are coming up and he chooses what from the package he wants and deposits me the money.
i add his order to mine and give to daycare.
when pix arrive i post him his part of the order.

can you contact the photo company and put in a late order for some pix. seeing as its all digital they are prob able to easily look up her name and do the prints and post to you

That reminded me, I know on the back of DSS's photos there was a code and a website when you could could order more pics using the code.

[Lettabean]

I have emailed the photo company to see I we can order more so just waiting to hear back from them. It so frustrating sometimes. I would hope it wasn't a malicious thing but given all the circumstances i am not so sure lol

[rapidlygrowingbrood]

I have emailed the photo company to see I we can order more so just waiting to hear back from them. It so frustrating sometimes. I would hope it wasn't a malicious thing but given all the circumstances i am not so sure lol

If things like school photo's are important to you and you don't believe that information will always be conveyed then I would recommend you take the responsiblity of either checking whether newsletters are online or getting them emailed to you and then you will know when things are coming up. Our school lists the school photo's months in advance and lets you know who is taking them so we organise our own copy through the school. One too many years of only getting one copy and not sharing the photo's for us to solve the problem.

[TurnedBatty]

Can you organise to get newsletters sent to you from the school? They usually have photo dates on them. With my ds things are fine, I tell them and they tell me vice versa and we pay in the same envelope. My ss is due to start school next year And i can guarantee you his mum won't tell us, so dh will be contacting the school to organise other ways of getting info and photos. In our case it's not direct malice, she just doesn't think we matter enough. Oh well. At the very least she could have offered to send you copies when they come in! Hope it gets sorted!

[saltygirl]

If things like school photo's are important to you and you don't believe that information will always be conveyed then I would recommend you take the responsiblity of either checking whether newsletters are online or getting them emailed to you and then you will know when things are coming up. Our school lists the school photo's months in advance and lets you know who is taking them so we organise our own copy through the school. One too many years of only getting one copy and not sharing the photo's for us to solve the problem.

^^^This.

It's not hard to stay in contact with the kids' school to get copies of newsletters and notices if you want them. I don't trust my XH to tell me anything about the kids, so I make sure I don't miss out anything by keeping in contact with the school and the kids' individual teachers. We share care and have equal shared parenting responsibility, but history shows my XH sucks at informing me of anything that happens or notices sent home when the kids are with him... makes it awkward when kids have a notice saying swimming is on when kids are with me (for example) and I don't know about it cos the notice went home to XH and he doesn't pass on info, so I find out for myself now.

So that we don't have to share photos my XH and I each place our own individual orders for each child. The photo company has no issue with it. More money for them I guess.

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[Lettabean]

Yeah i will be emailing the school as well as we are in Aussie but they atr in nz to get a copy sent to us as well, same with reports etc

[MommaBear]

Yeah i will be emailing the school as well as we are in Aussie but they atr in nz to get a copy sent to us as well, same with reports etc

The school may not be able to allow you copies of the newslettters etc.. without the other parents permission. It depends on the orders in place. In my case my childs other parent is not allowed to contact the school prior to contacting me due to their beign no specific wording on our orders to allow him to access her school records/info.
So if you need an order in the near future make sure it states that you are allowed to access school records and info etc...

[Lettabean]

There is no order stating we can't. The agreement is my hubby is to be kept informed ad all decisions made with him and bio mum not bio mum and new partner. Bio mum knows I have contacted school now and is ok with it