M/C when will it happen?

[tasgirl]

Hello -
Last Thursday I started bleeding at 9 and 1/2 weeks (2nd pregnancy) and rushed straight to my Ob to be told that pregnancy had in fact ended 3 weeks ago. Since then I have had minimal bleeding and mild cramping.
Went to see OB again yesterday and still no change.

He gave me choice of D & C or wait to see if m/c naturally.

I feel like i am in a huge dilemma of what to do. I have opted to wait and see if I can m/c naturally to avoid D & C but I was just wondering - how long does the body take to m/c naturally? I have so far been bleeding lightly for 8 days now.
I just don't know if emotionally handle the waiting.

From a mum who has cried (this week) a year of tears.

x x:gloomy:

[cmd'smum]

ooohhh sweety, so so so sorry for your loss!!!:hugs: :hugs:

I m/c in May when 13 weeks pg. I passed bubs naturally but there were still clots, etc left behind. So the hospital aked if I wanted a D&C later that day or to go home, go back there after a couple of days to see whether I had passed all the clots naturally. I chose a D&C firstly because I could'nt handle seeing everything pass naturally and secondly because having a D&C meant I would bleed for a shorter amount of time and it was all over and done with. I didn't want to try to let the remainder of the m/c happen on its own and then go back for a check up and be told I needed a D&C anyway!

But we are all diff and you should go with whatever you are comfortable with. We also wanted to TTC ASAP so having a D&C meant we could do this sooner. They will completely put you under and the procedure lasts for about 20 mins. I wasn't sore nor did I have any physical pain after the D&C.

Please look after yourself and grive all you need. I still do. It seems impossible right now, but it will get easier with time.

All the best and please know there are many many lovely ladies on here who have been through the same thing who will listen/support you if you need it!

xo

[muls]

So sorry for your loss, :crying:
I was told on Monday after two u/sounds that I had lost my baby at 5 1/2 wks. I had been slight bleeding and mild cramps from the Friday before. I have just woke today to find what seems like the majority of the remainder. I have been bleeding for about 9 days but only 2 heavy.
I wasn't sure what to do at all when told of my miscarriage as this was my first baby, but I already felt like I needed to do this myself naturally. It gave me a small amount of control back rather than be poked and prodded and feel empty all over again.
I don't know what it is like for you, everyone is different but I am glad I am waiting - even if I have to have a D&C later.
Hope this helps

ME 24
DH25
m/c my angel no1 september 06 (edd was to be 23rd of May2007)

[Adria]

So sorry to hear of your loss, it's so hard when your told you have lost your angel.
I opted for the d & c at 8 weeks cause i just wanted it over and done with so i could move on. A few weeks later after it and some reaserch, i was worried that my baby was hiding and they had taken it. But in reading the reports there was no embyro to be found. I think if it happened again, i would let it pass naturally, maybe go back in a week and see what had happened. If i was 100% sure that there was no hope i would then have a D&C.
Good luck with it, it's not an easy choice to make.
The only pain i had, was a bit of period like pain for a couple of days.

[onelasttime]

You poor thing - big:hugs: to you

I had the same thing happen to me two weeks ago. I was to 9 1/2 wks pregnant. I started bleeding the beginning of the week - very light. And it went away until the next night, again very light. I decided to have an u/s and my baby stop growing at 7 weeks.

It wasnt until the end of the week where I started bleeding more (like a heavy period) and had cramps. Once the cramps started it was all over in half an hour. I passed it all naturally.

So I guess if you are still waiting a D&C isnt a bad option, I was told its a good thing to get a D&C because at least you know everything is out - and its not painful.

Best of luck and wish you the best health. I know how you feel so remember you arent the only one.