Is there really such a thing as too much love??

[javalava]

My son (3 1/2) and i are very close and he has no problems is hugging and kissing and telling me how much he loves me. Honestly, i adore him and all the affection. But is it unhealthy? Am i going to turn him into a sissy? He has a strong appreiciation for love, not just towards me but his baby sister and his other family members but he is closest with me. I think i made it this way because in the begginning it was just me and him for a while and he was my everything. I feel closer to him that my baby (but im sure as she grows i will feel closer to her as well) and any other person i know. He is my little mate.

Im just worried im doing something wrong... so shoot.... opinions!!

[jazajess]

no i set there and think how can i love this little person anymore then i do....and when he looks at me and smiles and just lefts my day.....
i dont think that there is anything wrong with it....babys need love to grow and learn
sorry i cant help u out that much but i think its better to over love them then to under love them.....

[Alatariel]

You can never have too much love between you. As long as you allow him his freedom as he grown (Nonne wants Norman Bates Mom, right? lol) there is nothing wrong with having that close bond. If all parents had close, loving bonds with their children, the world would be a better place. Dont change a thing.

[RedPanda]

Sounds like a healthy loving relationship to me!!:kiss: There's a big difference between having a strong bond and sheltering and overprotecting a child. Your DS will grow up feeling loved and secure! I have the same thoughts about my DS - I promise him all the time that I will treat his wife with respect and won't be an overprotective, interfering mother in law!

[JorBai]

No way. Its absolutely beautiful that you have such a close bond with your son. Treasure it now while he is young because as much as he will always love his mum he probably wont kiss and hug you as much when hes 15 :laughing:

But seriously, i thinks its special and treasure every moment. You sound like a wonderful mother:yelclap:

[Mum&bubs]

It sounds beautiful!! Doesn't sound like theres anything wrong with it at all, just a beautiful relationship between mummy & son! :)

[Cheekychops]

My DS2 and I are like this also - even to the point that he sometimes thinks he is betraying me if he says he loves Daddy iykwim......he always wants snuggles with Mummy and will do anything for me!!! I don't think it's unhealthy - I think if I pulled back from him it would be unhealthy..... as long as I don't hold on to him when he does start to grow and change and feel like he wants to pull away a bit (even though that will be majorly hard for me)........... I don't think it means they will become sissy's or anything, it just might mean they are in touch with their feelings and I like to think they will be better lovers/partners/husbands for it. Hope this makes sense!

[javalava]

Awww thanks everyone you have all been so nice... im glad you dont think that im doing anything wrong. I really enjoy the closeness i just wondered what other people thought of it.... sounds like i have nothing to worry about!! :smiliedance:

And your right he will grow up and not kiss me anymore :crying: so i think ill live it up while i can!! hehe.

Thanks again everyone! :hugs:

[javalava]

My DS2 and I are like this also - even to the point that he sometimes thinks he is betraying me if he says he loves Daddy iykwim......he always wants snuggles with Mummy and will do anything for me!!! I don't think it's unhealthy - I think if I pulled back from him it would be unhealthy..... as long as I don't hold on to him when he does start to grow and change and feel like he wants to pull away a bit (even though that will be majorly hard for me)........... I don't think it means they will become sissy's or anything, it just might mean they are in touch with their feelings and I like to think they will be better lovers/partners/husbands for it. Hope this makes sense!

:yes: I totally agree with all that. It will be hard to let go but i know i cant keep him forever. I also was hoping that it might make him a good partner later in life. I see alot of my DF's childhood in his current behavior and i know i dont want my kids to be like that with their families.

[UnconditionalLove]

Children need soooooo much love keep doing what your doing!

[M O P]

Simple answer: no.

Actually Ray Martin asked Terri Irwin last night if she "loved Steve too much?" I thoguht it was a really stupid question myself, although this is maybe a bit off topic.

[Hedda]

I was just asking my husband the same question last night.

[indigoin0z]

whats the go with us all being brainwashed into worrying about
our boys turning into sissy's? :shame:
that is so old-fogey last generation stuff..
this generation (IMO) is starting to understand that we need people
who know how to care & share their feelings... [not be just macho men:thumbsdown: ]

i am proud of the fact my two boys are so upfront with their feelings...
it really brightens your day when they just spontaneously come up & tell
you any time of the day.. "i love you soooo much mummy/daddy"..

dont be afraid/ashamed of it - encourage it..:yelclap:

the world needs more love, & it starts with us parents setting the
example.. my Dh & i have been really particular about vocalising love & identifying feelings since the boys' arrival...

enjoy it - you obviously deserve it! :thumbsup:

[KarniF00l]

Simple answer: no.

Actually Ray Martin asked Terri Irwin last night if she "loved Steve too much?" I thoguht it was a really stupid question myself, although this is maybe a bit off topic.

Actually i thought the same thing. A really uncalled for question directed at Terri.

anyhoo, to answer the question.. is there such thing as too much love ? God No!

[SassyMummy]

If anything, I'd think you were encouraging your son to openly express his feelings and value love and affection for all its worth.

I'm no expert, so maybe he WILL become a "sissy"...but does that really matter? I think the term nowadays is "metrosexual" anyway...and it's generally seen a much nicer thing today as well - something women often look for in a partner. Hopefully he'll grow into a great adult - full of love, cuddles and affection for those he cares about...without ever feeling like he's "too macho" for that stuff.

Keep up the cuddles and kisses and "I love you"s...sons need them just as much as daughters do!

[our little treasures]

I don't believe that too much love is bad!! How could it be??!! I actually pitty lil bubbas and toddlers whose mums are not affectionate loving mums... IYKWIM

[javalava]

I don't believe that too much love is bad!! How could it be??!! I actually pitty lil bubbas and toddlers whose mums are not affectionate loving mums... IYKWIM

Yeah and there are so many of them around... I think how can they be so cold! Im so glad everyone thinks im doing the right thing... its made me feel so much more confidant as a mum. Thanks guys :kiss:

[pookiesossige]

I was with a group of girls and we were talking about our parenting styles etc- I mentioned how relaxed I am with DD, way more so with her then I was with DS. I mentioned that I lurve to put her in the hug-a-bub for cuddles, not necessarily for settling and that I'm happy to pop her in the bed with me.

WELL didn't that shock a few people- I got "oh, but you don't want them to get TOO attached- it only causes problems later.." as a response. :eek: WTF???

What you are doing is beautiful, you are simply following your calling as a mother! Good on you! These days with our babies and children are fleeting- your closeness to your kids is setting them up with all the security, comfort and independance that they need for life.

[Percy]

Simple answer: no.

Actually Ray Martin asked Terri Irwin last night if she "loved Steve too much?" I thoguht it was a really stupid question myself, although this is maybe a bit off topic.

I thought that was really strange as well. What an odd thing to say:confused:

[rynosmum]

DS and a few of his friends were playing today when one little friend pushed a swing in front of him and it came back straight into his mouth. I told DS that he was sad and to go and give him a cuddle which he did. The little boy's face beamed with a big smile.

It was beautiful although one of the Dads joked that a quick man-hug was fine but this hug was going on a little too long :laughing: It's beautiful that children can show so much love and affection - more of it I say!:thumbsup: