Can i do this??? although i know i couldnt handle 4 children

[maybe1more]

I really dont know were to start, im not in a very good frame of mind at the moment and so stressed out.
I have recently found out that i have concieved #4 and TBH im really not happy at all, its the worst timing ever and i cant belive my DP and i have allowed ourselves to be in this situation especailly when we have been so very careful.
To top it off we are getting married in 10 weeks and had to take our a 2nd morgage for it and now finding out im pg has just blown me out of the water.
I really dont think i could handle 4 children, we would have to sell our house and get another car and i dont know the effect it would have on my children. My youngest is just 17 months and i knew when i had her after two boys that my family was complete.I am booked in on friday for councilling as my stress levels are just thru the roof. The hardest part is that i really dont think i could handle 4 children especially with no family help, but im also finding hard to deal we having a termiation. :confused:

[himherandhe]

:hugs: I have too been in this situation for most parts and it is heartbreakng at the time but for me I had to do it as it was the right thing to do for everybodies sake. It is a really hard decision but it seems like you know where you stand and counselling is a great idea. I too was very sad when I went in but it does get better with time. Have you had a good talk to you DP? :hugs:

[OurLittleBlessing]

I really dont know were to start, im not in a very good frame of mind at the moment and so stressed out.
I have recently found out that i have concieved #4 and TBH im really not happy at all, its the worst timing ever and i cant belive my DP and i have allowed ourselves to be in this situation especailly when we have been so very careful.
To top it off we are getting married in 10 weeks and had to take our a 2nd morgage for it and now finding out im pg has just blown me out of the water.
I really dont think i could handle 4 children, we would have to sell our house and get another car and i dont know the effect it would have on my children. My youngest is just 17 months and i knew when i had her after two boys that my family was complete.I am booked in on friday for councilling as my stress levels are just thru the roof. The hardest part is that i really dont think i could handle 4 children especially with no family help, but im also finding hard to deal we having a termiation. :confused:

Oh sweetie, how stressful.

Maybe you could ask yourself which decision you think you might be able to live with the best long term? I realise this is a hard one to foresee.... I wish I could be more help.

Sending you loads of virtual hugs.

[loving6]

Oh sweetie, how stressful.

Maybe you could ask yourself which decision you think you might be able to live with the best long term? I realise this is a hard one to foresee.... I wish I could be more help.

Sending you loads of virtual hugs.

:hugs::hugs::hugs:
I agree with this. :hugs::hugs:

[Electric Rodeo]

Aww Jenn I was so excited to see you post again. Am sorry that it is not about something making you happy:(

I have no advice and probably wouldn't be a good person to vent to either but just had to say hello :o as I often wonder how you are going.

:wave:

Hope you can come to a decision you are happy with soon:hugs:

[krystallxx]

Hugs! You have made a wise decision by going to counseling .. Kudos to you.
My only advice is you need to be 100% comfortable with you choice whether it's termination or not. I've had a termination and I don't regret it! I know at the presise moment that was the best decision for my kids, my dp and my own health.

Good luck and Im very sorry your in this predicament.

[maybe1more]

Thanks ladies, i went to the doc`s today and he was suprise i had concived as i shouldnt have been ovulating at the time to match the dates, so he has written out a referal to have an u/s done to see how far along i am or if it is a viable pregancy as i have a history or m.c and a molar pregnancy. My scan is today so i have to wait and see.

[maybe1more]

Just a quick update, to say we ended up having a medical termination. It was such a heartbreaking decision and i chickened out the first time but made an appotiment for the following week. I dont think i was 100% with my desision but at this point in time i think it was for the best, althought thats hard to see atm. Thank you all xxx

[Electric Rodeo]

Some more hugs:hugs::hugs::hugs:look after yourself

[MunchiesMummy]

Hugs maybe1more.

Mitake - your signature is truely truely heartbreakingly beautiful. xxxxxxx