Can you start cc with an 18 mo and If so, how!!

[lilbird]

18mo wakes every night bar 4 nights where slept thru. HSve yet to try cc and need to try now
Any advice please!

[jimmysmummy]

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[jimmysmummy]

Oops, just realised this is the proCC thread...

[lilbird]

Sorry???

[lilbird]

Why would you delete my thread?

[Fuchsia!]

Jimmysmummy deleted her own post once she realized this was pro controlled crying section.

[FloatingFairy]

jimmysmummy only deleted her post, your thread is still here.

I think if you want to try CC, think of the approach you wish to take.

I was never going to do CC of any form and luckily for the most part, didnt need to.

DD was a perfect all night sleeper from 4 weeks. But about 4-5 months ago it just got bad.

If she ever cried from teething or whatever, if it was after midnight or I was already in bed, I would just bring her to bed with me but the more frequently it happened and the more sleep deprived I became, I failed to see that she was waking up to come to bed with me every single night and she would no longer sleep.

She would breastfeed for about 10 minutes then want to play. If i tried nursing or rocking or patting or singing or feeding tosleep in her room, the second I put her in her cot once she was asleep, she would wake up and cry and try and hit me for putting her to bed and this started happening every single night and i was lucky if she slept for half an hour at a time. It was really bad.

I looked into sleep schools or night nannies to come do in-house stays and offer guidance but I coudlnt afford it at the time, so I brought in my mum. The queen of tough love lol

She said on the first night, to put her to sleep and then when she woke up, she said to let her cry for 10 minutes before going in there. So i did.

She said to then go in there, offer her a cuddle, settle her and make sure nothing was actually wrong. tell her i love her and put her back in the cot. tell her it was time to sleep and walk out. so i did.
She then said to let her cry for 20 minutes before going back in and then repeat. So i did.

Then she said half an hour and repeat. But about 15 minutes into the half an hour, there was about 5 minutes of silence. then she whimpered, whinged for 10 minutes and i didnt hear from her again until morning.

The next night, my mum said to repeat the same process, and always lengthen the time between cries before going in there.

That was 4-5 months ago. After that first night, it never happened again. It only took one night to fix. Of course its differnt for others and may take longer but for DD, it only took one night of a few cries and she was fine after that. On the odd occasion that she does wake up during the night, I wait for 10 minutes before going in, however, generally after about 5, she's fallen back to sleep.

Good luck with whatever approach you chose to take.

The way she cried on that first night was the sam or even less severity than when she's cried from throwing silly tantrums during the day over not being allowed to play with the remote etc. She's still a perfectly healthy, happy baby, even though i let her cry a few times one night.

[luvmyboys]

I have heard lots of positive stories about a technique that is more attachment based, you could give it a try first and let us know how it goes.
http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html

[FloatingFairy]

What a fascinating article, LMB.

I tried similar to this when DD's sleeping habits turned to disaster but being home alone every night (DF works night shift) and being just so sleep deprived it wasnt working. Either I wasn't strong enough or DD was just stronger than I chose to give her credit for, so that's why I took my mums advice.

In the end it worked out ok, but I still feed DD to sleep, which im still happy to do as it only takes 15 minutes but may consider later down the track, trying to implement some of Jay Gordons tips for our bedtime routine. But not right now because feeding to sleep works for us :)

[second baby not so easy]

Hi OP,

I have sent you a PM :yes: hope that helps

[mrsd]

I had a similar experience to Shannonigans. G slept through the night from approx 2 mths then had a relapse at 3 1/2 mths and I had to feed her every night till I got sick of it at about 10 mths (working full time, incidentally). After 2 nights of CC, she slept through again and I was kicking myself for not having done it sooner for both our sakes!

Some people refer to CC as Controlled Comforting, which I think is a nicer term for it. The point is that bub has to settle him / herself eventually and recognise that sleep time is sleep time.

I used shorter intervals than S (approx 2, 5, 10, 15 mins etc). Took two nights but the second night was nowhere near as bad as the first. My information was not to speak to bub each time but to put her silently back into bed/under the covers, give her a quick pat/kiss, then walk out of the room. It can be pretty harrowing to hear them cry but is worth it in the long run.

There is some great information about the CC process on the 'net which is worth you looking at closely before you start. Good luck! :fingerscrossed:

[FloatingFairy]

Yes as mrsd said, hearing them cry is the hardest part especially when your so sleep deprived that you think you have depression and have failed at parenting and the cries always sound louder in the middle of the night but just remind yourself it is no
Different to if bubs cried in protest in the middle of Woolies because you won't let them eat the treat they found inthe floor with the dust bunnies


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