Help with Girls Sharing a Room

[tired*mummy]

Hi all
My DD's are soon to be 4 and soon to be 3. We have moved them into the same room a few months ago to get them use to sharing before the new bubba comes in January.
Its not working out very well as they are always playing/laughing/talking until all hours and its starting to get frustrating. I have tried everything that i can think of. Asking them nicely, raising my voice, a smack, taking things off them, having different bed times etc. They just arent responding to anything. Some nights it comes down to seperating them just so they will go to sleep and i can get some rest myself. As soon as i separate them they almost always fall straight to sleep. But i cant really have them in seperate rooms as we need a room for the baby.
I'm not sure if its just their ages or if the are just being naughty and wont do as they are told.
Just wondering from parents that have their children sharing a room what you found worked or things that didnt work. Even if your kids dont share a room and you have any ideas they are more than welcomed.
Need to try to resolve it before our new baby comes.
Thanks heaps in advance!
:wave:

[InSaneOne]

i can't help you i'm sorry. my teenagers still chat til all hours of the night.

you could try putting up a divider so they can't see each other that might help or get bunk beds so that one is on top of the other and again can't see each other and then if they don't work - i don't know.

good luck finding a solution.


(my teenagers are thinking up some ideas that would help so i will get back to you)

[AimeeB]

Hi I know how you feel! #4 is on the way and we only have a 3 bed house.We have put Avalon,11 months into the room with Zane,nearly 5 as he has the biggest room and Airlie has her own bedroom but now Avvy is getting older her and Zane think its hilarious to laugh and carry on.We have been making Zane stay up 1/2 hour later so she is already asleep when he goes to bed,maybe you could try putting youngest to bed and letting 4 yr old stay up 20 mins later? Don't really know.I don't know what we will do if #4 is another girl-may have to sell or put the 3 girls in the big room and Zane by himself.I thought of maybe buying a room divider so they can't see eah other also as Avvy's side is painted for a girl and Zanes is the 'boy'side.this is hard though if you have bunks.I prob have't really helped but you aren't the only one with this prob!My sister has the best sleepers in the world-dd,8 years and ds,6 years had always shared as they rented a 2 bed house.When they built their own and the kids had there own rooms they cried every night cos they couldn't sleep alone-this was only last year!Some people have all the luck and I think cos they shared from the beginning they didn't know any diff.

[LilShenanigans]

*ahem* butting in, sibling who shared room with sister.

1. Bunk beds don't help. Even if you can't see eachother, you can still speak to eachother.
2. Ditto for room dividers.
:D

Putting one child to bed earlier then the other only teaches the first to bed how to force themselves to stay awake.

Telling, Yelling, Smacking, punishing etc etc Leaves the kids with something to talk about when you walk back out.

Tip: Tried everything? Try Nothing.

Last resort really, but sometimes the one thing that does work. If your kids have a set time to be up every morning (Say 6am sharp), let them do whatever they want before sleeping!
Steps are simple-
Put to bed and Say goodnight (bedtime routine, whatever).
Tell them it's their First Warning, say goodnight.
Don't tell them it's their second warning, say goodnight.
Again, don't say anything but goodnight (usually when your heading to bed yourself).
(times between each depend greatly on sanity of mother in question)
The kids will think it's heaven that "guess what, I think mum doesn't care anymore! - Woohoo!" lol Yeah right!, Mum gets her revenge the next morning waking the kids up at that normal time (or even earlier, what feels right...) and keeping them busy all day :D

Hey... It's my advice, I can give you a guarantee on it and if at most, it could go on for 3-4days, but that'll leave some really cranky kids who just want naps during the day.

GOODLUCK!!!!:)

[SuperMum10/12]

Hi all
My DD's are soon to be 4 and soon to be 3. We have moved them into the same room a few months ago to get them use to sharing before the new bubba comes in January.
Its not working out very well as they are always playing/laughing/talking until all hours and its starting to get frustrating. I have tried everything that i can think of. Asking them nicely, raising my voice, a smack, taking things off them, having different bed times etc. They just arent responding to anything. Some nights it comes down to seperating them just so they will go to sleep and i can get some rest myself. As soon as i separate them they almost always fall straight to sleep. But i cant really have them in seperate rooms as we need a room for the baby.
I'm not sure if its just their ages or if the are just being naughty and wont do as they are told.
Just wondering from parents that have their children sharing a room what you found worked or things that didnt work. Even if your kids dont share a room and you have any ideas they are more than welcomed.
Need to try to resolve it before our new baby comes.
Thanks heaps in advance!
:wave:
Hi tired mummy .. I have 10 children and have been a mum for 20 years ... I have 4 little girls in the one room a 1 year old in a cot a 5 year old in a single bed and a 6 and 9 year old in a set of bunks it can get heard at times what I do with my girls is Baby goes to bed at 6 o'clock and the 5 and 6 year old go at 8 o'clock and the 9 year old goes to bed at 9 o'clock that puts a little bit of time and space between them as they are at different ages .. the baby is asleep when the next 2 go to bed so they go to bed and if they muck about I give them a warning if they don't settle I work out witch one is the main instigators and take her out and put her in to time out that is in my bath room (with the light of ) that gives her time to think about what she has been up to and it gives them both time to settle down as they are most likely hipped up from playing around I leave her there for 10 min them I put her back in to bed give her a kiss and hug and remind her to go to sleep ( the trick of leaving her in the time out spot for 10 min is most of the time the other one has fallen to sleep as there is no one to talk to ) then when it is time for the 9 year old to go to bed the other 3 are already asleep and she has now one to talk to so she goes to sleep pritty easy ... If that doesn't work I put the three of them in the time out spots and they soon get sick of sitting in time out then I put them back to bed one at a time at different time spacing as it gives them time to fall asleep before the next one comes ... I hope that helps you good luck don't give up as thats what they wont ... ( mum to give up and they can play )