Caesarian scar/belly ugly

[AliceandJulian]

hi everyone! i tried to find any thread on the caesarian scar/belly! well for me it is pretty ugly my belly skin has stretch badly and it is hanging there over the scar arrrgh i just hate it i feel ugly and i am not talking about the stretch marks.... i had an emergency caesarian 10 weeks ago, and i still look like i am 5 months pregnant, and on top of that the scar is still sensitive, it feel like i have been punched in the stomach... i went to see my GP, she told me to wait to diet and to exercise, she just told me i should see a physio hurm hurm did you see the prices? seriously even with a doctor referral i just can't afford it. i feel big. Any mums went through the same? does it go back to normal after few months? thanks in advance for your help!

it took me will to post this, i feel guilty to winge... i have a beautiful an healthy baby boy and i feel like i shouldn't complain...:(

[insanity]

I'm with you! I feel ugly now and can't stand DP looking at me. I can't bring myself to touch anywhere near the scar and when I do it's not totally numb but feels strange... Grose even!

[moozle]

I'm 2 1/2 years on. Mine never had any skin over it, and it did go back to normal after a few weeks. It is sell red and raised and fairly itchy and tender at times. I would have lost my DS if it wasn't for the surgery so it doesn't bother me much. I'm having a scar revision this time around so hopefully it will be better?

[krystallxx]

2.5yrs after my first c/s the area around my scar was still sensitive, I can't stand when my jocks or pants touch it.. I recently (6wksago) had another c/s and still quite numb and strange to touch around it. If ur not bfing then u can start dieting and doing some exercises to tone up the muscles and lose some weight. Skin will take longer to shrink, it won't be perfect but I would recommend some moisturiser, particularly one for pre and post pregnancy use (gaia for example) to help with the skin.

I'm not saying you will go back to ur pre preg shape but you can change what you have into something you can enjoy and be comfortable in.

[Pippy&Woof]

I've had 2 c-sections, so I know how awful it feels =( I had a wound infection first time around, and it burst open at one point. It was very bulgy looking and I hated the way it looked. A year later it had just started to look a little better when I got pregnant with my second, and my OB told me he could cut out the scar tissue and neaten it up a bit. It was very numb for quite a while after, I could feel nothing at all, and I hated anything touching it. But my second is 15 months now and I have a lot more feeling back in that area, and it also looks a little less bulgy and awful. I have learned to love it, as it reminds me of the births of my children.

It will start to look better, it just takes time. It definitely helps to lose a little weight, as when I put on a bit of weight it really shows in that area and makes the bulge looks worse. I lost all my weight first time around in 3.5 months, just from dieting (just eating no junk food) and using a kettlebell (great way to exercise and strengthen muscles, as I'm not at all into gyms). Helped me tone up my core a little and is great for the arms and rest of the body too. I really need to get that kettlebell out again, I'm getting a little bulgy again!

[moozle]

I suggest having a look at 'the shape of a mother' it's a website with realistic views of what mums look like. All shapes and sizes. Some just given birth, others years down the track. It should give you an idea of what you can expect your body to go 'back' to :)

[halloweendee]

wow, awesome website. just what i needed to put things in perspective.
i spoke to my dietician yesterday and have decided that instead of aiming to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight after bub is born, i'm going to aim for a more realistic one. (ie. in the healthy weight range instead of underweight). just knowing i have made that decision has eased my mind a lot and i don't want to be constantly beating myself up. i'm not a teenager anymore!!
lol

[moozle]

Glad it helped you, HaloweenDee :) I found it really comforting to know EVERYONE was having the same feelings and struggles with their post baby bodies as I was and seeing how far they had come both physically and mentally a few months on :) you have a great attitude moving forward and if you keep it all in perspective, you will reach your goals!

[AliceandJulian]

thank you everyone for you great advices and support! i feel so much better and i decided to embrace my new body and reach new positive and realistic goals. i totally agree with halloweende!:D