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Leonic
24-09-2006, 15:04
Hi Everyone,

I don't usually post on bub hub but I am an avid lurker and love reading everyone's thoughts and advice.

I felt compelled to write something in this area, I feel I need to....Not for sympathy or anything like that! Just to know that other people who know exactly what I am feeling right at this very moment understand me and what I am feeling!

I thought was I was having was a extremely heavy and painful period, but it turned out that I actually had a miscarriage. The thing is though, is that 1. I didnt know I was pregnant, 2. I certainly wasnt trying to get pregnant and 3. I didnt really know if I REALLY REALLY REALLY wanted any children. ( I am a career women in my early 30's and having way too much fun still! )

Now I feel as if I am a little lost. Where is my place in life? Did this happen to me, so I could realise I do REALLY REALLY REALLY want children? Even though I didn't know I was pregnant, or at the stage that I was even thinking about it - why do I feel like I have lost something so substanial, as I was only 4-5 weeks? I never thought that if I went through something like this, is would affect me so emotionally! Afterall, I'm tough, I can handle right? Apparently I'm not so tough afterall (I've had to admit that to myself) and I've cried like a baby for most of the week!

Up until last week, I had everything in life the way I wanted it! I guess it is something I have to ponder, think about and work through!

Thanks for reading....

Bron
24-09-2006, 15:11
Hi Leonic

Isn't it interesting how we respond to the challenges that life throws at us. I think it is great that you are taking this as an "opportunity" (for want of a better word) to review the decisions you have made in your life and reassess the path you have chosen to take.

I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage, it is a heartbreaking and challenging time and I can only advise you to allow yourself to grieve and heal.

Good luck with the thinking you have ahead of you. I'm always happy to have a chat about your thoughts - as a career woman in her early 30s I think I can understand a little!

Take care
Bron

Leonic
24-09-2006, 18:28
I do hope to bring a positive out of the situation, I really do!

And thank you for your kind words! Very much appreciated!