mumma inky
11-06-2011, 21:46
My DS is 15 months old and we have come a long way with his sleeping using Elizabeth Pantley's no cry sleep solutions. He no longer co-sleeps all night with us and sleeps in his cot from 8pm until 530 and I bring him into the ned with us and we sleep together until 8am. He naps wonderfully from 1230 for at least two hours.
BUT I cannot get him to fall asleep without holding my hand or (I hate to say this as it sounds odd) kneading my boobs until he falls asleep. When he goes to sleep in his cot I have to sit there for at least 10 minutes while he grabs and squeezes my hand until he nods off, but sometimes it takes 30 minutes or so. I try to gently pull away just before he goes to sleep but he is onto me every time and just grabs hold tighter. I have tried to get him to attach to a security object but he just takes it and tosses it (even after carrying pooh bear down my top for three days, would not have a bar of him).
I have to go to him at least twice per night to resettle him (on a bad night every two hours) and he still has a milk feed at about 3am.
This usually would be fine with me however we have baby number two coming in 18 weeks and I would like to have him settling a little easier by himself and not waking as often overnight as I think it will be unfair on him that I won't be able to devote so much time to settling him once his little brother comes along.
Hubby is great support but there are just the two of us and he is self employed which usually means very late nights home, no work, no money I'm afraid...
Obviously I want to continue to do this as gently as possible and seeing as we still have 18 weeks I am hoping for a bit more progress over time.
Any suggestions are greatly appreciated!
BUT I cannot get him to fall asleep without holding my hand or (I hate to say this as it sounds odd) kneading my boobs until he falls asleep. When he goes to sleep in his cot I have to sit there for at least 10 minutes while he grabs and squeezes my hand until he nods off, but sometimes it takes 30 minutes or so. I try to gently pull away just before he goes to sleep but he is onto me every time and just grabs hold tighter. I have tried to get him to attach to a security object but he just takes it and tosses it (even after carrying pooh bear down my top for three days, would not have a bar of him).
I have to go to him at least twice per night to resettle him (on a bad night every two hours) and he still has a milk feed at about 3am.
This usually would be fine with me however we have baby number two coming in 18 weeks and I would like to have him settling a little easier by himself and not waking as often overnight as I think it will be unfair on him that I won't be able to devote so much time to settling him once his little brother comes along.
Hubby is great support but there are just the two of us and he is self employed which usually means very late nights home, no work, no money I'm afraid...
Obviously I want to continue to do this as gently as possible and seeing as we still have 18 weeks I am hoping for a bit more progress over time.
Any suggestions are greatly appreciated!