Omg!!!!!

[munchkin05]

Stupid stupid me !!!!
I haven't been feeling right for the last week .. Bad migraines and just sore back .. Exact same as I had with DS...
So tonight while driving to get dinner I thought let's stop and get a ptest since im a day late ... After buying it I got in my head that I had just wasted my money it couldn't possibly be + .... well the second line came up straight away ... I drove to my friends house 5 mins away and done another one .. Again line number 2 came up straight away
What am I going to do !!!
The father and I have been seeing each other for just over a year but we are only friends with benefits ... He's got much older children and doesn't want to do kids again that's why we have just been friends for so long
I'm on the pill :( which obviously didn't work
I don't know what to do
Do I keep baby ?
Do I look at abortion ?
But right now I can't afford to fork out a few hundred $$$ for one
So what do I do ?
I need the magic answer ...
Going to try get into the doc tomorrow and see how far I am ...

Can not believe I'm in this position :(

[Lemonhead]

Im pretty sure medicare cover some abortion costs...but if that was what you wanted to do I would be asking FOB to help pay for it.

Goodluck.

[Mummypants]

Awww Hun wanted to send you big hugs  firstly go to your gp, and talk to the father he can at least support your decision and being good friends I'd think he would want to help you regardless of choice? But don't make any decisions now get all your info together.... It's funny I believe all things happen for a reason and there's so many reasons out there! Good luck 

[SorenLorensen]

:hugs:
Right now its probably best to just not 'think', process this all over the next few days and work out where your at and then tell the FOB.

:hugs: again.
remember you are right now in shock so please try not to over think until you are calm enough to actually think properly.

[MissPoss]

:hugs: having had an unplanned pregnancy myself I know the sinking feeling. I'm sorry that you're going through this.

I have no magic answer, I wish I did. My niece recently had an unplanned pregnancy also, and she was directed to the Caroline Chisolm Society. They have pregnancy counseling. They explain on their website that they don't give medical advice re abortions if you decide to go down that path, but they do help with discussing all options. Other than that I don't know anything of their philosophy. They are just one pregnancy counseling service I've heard of, I'm sure there are many out there. Google will help track them down.

I hope you get the advice you need and are able to clearly and confidently choose the decision that is right for you. :hugs:

[Crazyfamily]

i know how you are feeling. I have been in your situation. i decided to keep my baby against the wishes of the father. He has stood by me through that and loves his daughter sooo much. we are now having our 2nd child together. (we both have other kids). I decided that i was having my baby even if he walked away. Talk to the father to see how he feels but really it is your choice as to what is best for you. good luck.

[munchkin05]

Went for a ultra sound on Friday but all the could see was a pregnancy sac so she's thinking I'm to early to give exact dates ... I go back next week for another one and see what happens then and try and make my decision (hopefully the right one) once that's done

[MissPoss]

Good luck :hugs:

[insanity]

I know exactly how your feeling and it is such a hard decision. Only you can make the decision, don't let other ppl talk you in to a choice your not 100% sure of

Big hugs xx

[zombiekitty]

Do what you feel is right for you but if you can't afford a termination (if that's what you want) can you afford another child?
Good luck :)

[tinkerbell87]

I think you should get councilling, you won't regret having the baby but can regret having an abortion. My baby was unplanned I'd only been with his father for 2 months in a friends with benefits situation. Was scary but I now have my nearly one year old sleeping on me, having him was the best thing I ever did x

[munchkin05]

i must say finance is a big issue at the moment .. after court battles with my ex over ds i am just starting to get back on top of everything

my head plays games with me and one minute i have made a decision and i feel comfortable in that then i will be in the shops and think oh wow i better put a cot and that on layby

im trying not to think to much about it until i go back next week
but thats also easier said than done

thank you girls for your responses

[Hokey Pokey]

Hope it all works out :hugs:

[Goblin Queen]

Best of luck with everything. I really suggest talking to the father and finding out what he thinks, there is always a chance that he'll support you. If he doesn't, then it's your decision alone whether you want to abort or raise the baby without him. If you're thinking about lay-bying cots, etc. then there is some part of you that wants this baby. Get some counseling before you decide anything. :hugs:

[zombiekitty]

I think you should get councilling, you won't regret having the baby

Unfortunately, that's not always necessarily true.
OP, are you planning on speaking to FOB and asking what his thoughts are?

[munchkin05]

I'm really not sure about FOB .. We have spoken in passing about kids before and he said he's finished having kids .. His kids are 20 and 22 so he's been there and done all that ... I am thinking I need to make the decision myself and then maybe talk to him .. I don't want him saying that he wants a termination and for me to feel like I "have" to go through with it .. I need to be comfortable in the decision I make and to make sure it's the right one for me

[Pregalicious]

:goodvibes::goodvibes: Im sending good vibes your way.

Your choice doesnt have to be black and white, there are many options you can explore when you are ready. Im sending you lots of courage and strength to take the next steps :goodvibes::goodvibes:

[munchkin05]

I went for my ultrasound today and boy did they throw a spanner in the works .... I'm 6 weeks and 3 days pregnant with TWINS!!!
I hadn't come to terms with being pregnant and thought I had 99% made my decision
But now twins !!! That's even more to have to try get my head around

[ElizaDoLittle]

Yep! That's a lot to get your head
Around!

[moozle]

Oh wow, congratulations!

[Boobycino]

:hugs: wow that's a lot to get your head around indeed :hugs: