I'm so conflicted

[FearlessLeader]

and i can't make the phone call I really have to make.

DS is on the wait list for a council run CC place. I met some mums in the park yesterday who said that the wait list for these two centres are about 3 YEARS long :crying: When i said that the centre told me 18 months, they said "yes, it's 18 months to maybe to get ONE day if you're after 5". Both of them had toddlers, both had places a couple of days a week but not all the ones they needed.

ATM we are juggling, DP is home one day, MIL takes him one day and my friend watches him one day. We can't afford for DP to stay home that day indefinitely, or to keep paying my friend nanny wages indefinitely.

There is another centre nearby which i used to work at which would be fantastic, but for various reasons i'm reticent to send him there. It's a great centre but i have personal issues with a few people there.


But i know he would love it there, and be loved there. It's a great centre with great staff, and most of all i could call today and they would bump me to the top of the list.

I don't know what to do :( I told DP i would call them today to put down DS's name but i haven't been able to do it. Sending him there wouldn't impact him badly in any way, but is likely to make my life quite difficult.

what would YOU do? I have exhausted all other options including FDC.

[faroutbrusselsprout]

If you want... You could PM me the names of the centres. I used two in your area last year and saw a few others...? I might be able to help with what I saw/heard?

[twotrunks]

Honestly knowing how hard it is to juggle, I would say make the call. Maybe your DH can be the drop off and contact person to limit your involvement?? If you know that bubs will get good care, then that is most important. I can imagine how sticky it could all get, but maybe if you could stay right away and out of it it could work?
Good luck. You really are between that good old rock and hard place!!

[krystallxx]

Be the bigger person, put the past behind you and make the call. You said your son would be happy there and that's what really matters. It doesnt have to be forever but if it's going to help ATM then I think you should just call.
That's what I would do. Good luck making a decision :)

[EmPowering]

I'd just call :) you seem
to be happy with the centre
minus the 2ic !

[CazHazKidz]

I would make the call :hugs:

[FearlessLeader]

FOBS nah they're near our new place, we've moved too. :)

everyone else. Gah, i know you're all right. Twotrunks that's a good idea about getting DP more involved, maybe i will send him along to commitee meetings. But i am a great big bossy boot know it all want to do everything my own way type you see ;) I just can't get over the way my friend was treated, it was awful.

[faroutbrusselsprout]

Oh sorry! I didn't realise! I agree with the others though and as long as he's happy you can work around the other issues...

[MsMummy]

Can you just send him, and have no involvement otherwise?

My fdc woman is a bit...painful...but she's good with the kids, and good care is hard to find. When I was first looking for care, a community centre told me I could go on a waiting list for the waiting list.