Is he ready????

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Bailey is 2 years and 3 months. I started toilet training him approx 2 weeks ago. Sometimes he tells me he needs to go to the toilet and others he tells me as it is runny down his legs. We have more accidents than actual toilet visits, although he will sit on his potty and wee when I am on the toilet, or when I ask him to go, or when I put him on the toilet. He knows as soon as he is wet and pulls off his nappy in the morning and tells me that he needs to go to the toilet, but why does he tell me when he's in a nappy and not in his undies????

He wears a nappy to bed and out but at home he is constantly in undies.

Is he ready, should I keep persisting or stop and try again in a few weeks??? I don't want to regress. I think I should keep persisting but the accidents are not few and far between. They are a lot of the time! :( It's frustrating but I don't take it out on him, I just tell Bailey that he needs to let Mummy know when he wants to go to the toilet.

Please help! Melissa.

[Ky]

OK, I may be a bit unpopular, but I have worked on the theory that they won't get it until they are really ready!

With my dd, it was a couple of days after her 3rd birthday that she finally got it and we have had less than a dozen accidents in the year and a half that she has been trained.

I used to try for the morning at home and if there were more accidents than sucesses, I would tell her - great try, we will try again soon. I would then leave it for a couple of months and then try again! This saved a lot of hassle, embarrasment for her (yes, she was embarrassed every time!) and I didn't get to the point where I started to lose my cool about constant accidents and extra washing. I think this made both of us happier in the long run.

I know it means nappies for a bit longer, but I think that it is a small price to pay for less stress and a happier child.

My son, is now 2 ½, has already taken himself off to the toilet a couple of times to poo, but is not ready to wee in the toilet! I just encourage him with a couple of hours of no-nappy time each day and if there are accidents we just deal with them. He is slowly getting the idea, but really isn't ready to go full-time!

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My opinion is keep going and try setting up a rewards chart for him and a progress chart for you!! This way he can see how wonderful he is, and you can see how wonderful he is becoming.. It might seem like a lot more accidents are happening and even if its 2 accidents less a day ur their!
Try to encourage him with toilets else where if you wait too long it can be harder as they are scared! I f you stop and start he wont take you serious the next time!! It may take a while for his brain to register the feeling but if he is asking to go sometimes and willing to sit on potty while you go then keep going!! Reward him if he goes at start reward with stickers and small gift (balloon) everytime until it becomes frequent then change it to 4 stickers on the 5th time a small toy (I got mine from $2 shop) nad PRAISE

I was in similar situation with dd I was at it day 1 and she kept weeing and then telling me so I was going to wait but next day she was going 85% even for poos!!
But we rewarded her and I clapped and made huge fuss gave her lots of sml gifts for 1st couple days and chocolate now 5dyas later she has hardly any accidents!!

While out use pull ups a hell of a lot quicker than nappies and remember its only 30seconds between "mum weee" and it has happened!!! Put potty in every room child is in and take one in car etc!

Hope it helps its just I'm doing this now as well!!