3 little ones???

[mummyb]

hi
i all ready have two ds who i adore ,we had our first son young and very unplanned ,now i think i would like another child .i realy love the sense of family in our home the joy we all bring to each other and the laughter that echos off our walls.
but then wordly things creep in like cost space ,holidays ,schooling etc etc.so im just wondering hw other people have decied to have a 3rd bub and if it makes a big diffrence to your finances?
im still in my mid twenties so have plenty of time to decied but at the same time i dont want a 15 year age diffrence .any comments welcome love mummy b :p

[Briannabear]

I personally would love 3 children! I was one of four growing up. And although we didnt have much money I have the most wonderful memories! We had so much fun - and we still do!!
My husband was one of 6 and they were quite poor back then. They never had cool toys etc but they just dont care! They have the best memories of mucking around playing together, pulling pranks etc! It certainly didnt put them behind in life!
I do understand your concerns though - and we think of the same things too. However, I would rather have a house full of happy smiley faces than a big fat bank account any day! :D
Good luck in whatever you choose to do! :)

[RuthK]

I'm pregnant with my 3rd now and have a DS aged 3 and a DD aged 19 months. I am 36 so I wanted to get the kids out of the way before I got too old. I never planned 3 kids (I didn't really plan any!) but when I had my first I knew I just had to have another, and then the same again after the 2nd. After this pregnancy (non-stop nausea) I think I'm ready to stop.

3 is a lovely number, they all fit into a family car, you can get motel rooms without having to get a 2nd room and you can visit people without feeling like you're invading them. If they fight, they can always play with the other one (comign from a family 2, if you fight, that's it) I know having my 3 close together is not going to be easy, but already my first 2 are great friends and can only expect the same when No.3 comes along.

You do what feels right for you, if you want another one now, go for it!

[maybe1more]

I say GO FOR IT! If you have a yurning for another child then i say go for it, I would love 4 kids, although i only have one at the moment, i cant wait to start again.I am one of 5 children and my dp is one of 8 :eek: and although nethier of out familys had much money we got by, you dont need money to be happy. You already have two children so you wont have a huge outlay, if you still have a cot and a pram your half way there.Best of luck with your desision

[Melissa1983]

Hi Mummyb

I am in the same boat as you. I have two DD very close together (1year), and now DD1 is nearly 3 and DD2 is nearly 2, and we are tossing whether to go for number 3. But i don't know if i could manage mentally or not. My two are very close, great friends and i know they would adore a new baby, but then it is the cost of everything. I am only in my early 20s so i have plenty of time to but i don't want the age gap to be to far, as there is 4 years between me and my sister and as growing up we never got along much, but now we are the best of friends. So really my question is what is a good age gap for number 3 :confused:

[mim]

mummyb, how old are your sons?

DF and I talked for about a year about having #3. I too was young when I had my DS and originally I only wanted two. Then when DD was about 1 I decided I wanted another! I grew up with just a sister, and we never got along.
We thought about money, and how the other two would feel, and how we would fit another child into our lives. But we decided that we would be able to afford it, I mean we've already got everything for when they are young, and when we hit the expensive years (teenagers :eek: ) we will both be working. The kids are so excited about getting a baby! and we know that there is enough love to go around for one more.
If you really feel that you want another one - go for it!

[jaydensmum]

I reckon that if you feel that you want another one and hubby agrees then yep go for it!! Life's too short to worry about the little things in life, that always knows how to stuff up our day ie MONEY! Money isn't everything, it's love and happiness that does. My motto in life is "Follow your heart". Your heart knows where to go, if it's telling you to have another one, then maybe you should follow it. All the best with your decision and let us know how you go.

jaydensmum. :)

[Angelmist♥]

At the moment I have 6 wks until edd of our third child and I have to agree with all the above posts that if you (and hubby) feel like you want another baby then go for it! We have two boys 5 and 4yrs old and about 3 years ago I "felt" that I would like another child but because the boys were so close in age I put off the feeling. In the end (about 12 months ago) I just became obsessed with the thought of having another to the point where (and this is going to sound crazy) I would have left hubby if he didn't want to try for the third.I think your mind and sometimes your body knows that it wants another child but you ignore it for as long as you can for financial reasons or wanting to do the right thing by previous kids blah blah blah.I just wish now that we would have done it sooner so there wasn't such a gap but the boys are over the moon and ask me everyday if the baby "gets pushed out today?!" :rolleyes: Yes I did give up a very well paying job to have this one, but as someone said previously I would much rather see a family of 5 all happy and loving then a family of four with extra money in the bank!
Anyway sorry I think I got a little carried away!
Best wishes Nara

DH 28
DS1 5
DS2 4
It's a girl EDD 08/11/05

[3TinLids]

We have 3 boys - almost 5 , 3 years and 9 and a half months. Yes life is hectic but never boring. The boys are great mates but still fight occasionally. We did need to buy a new pusher (the first one had been used so much) but most other things we already had. Most clothes have been passed down but I make sure each of the boys gets at least 1 new outfit per season. However, our biggest issue was the car. We had a station wagon which we had to sell because all 3 boys are still in booster seats and baby seat(capsule). We had to buy a bigger family wagon. Another thing we have found is how much our food bill has increased. Imagine how much they will eat when they are teenagers!! :eek:

We love our family of five and wouldn't change a thing but as when you start a family your whole lifestyle changes. When you have 3 kids, babysitting is a whole new challenge. Most people don't mind looking after 2 kids but 3 can be asking alot!! We don't get out much on our own.

If you really want 3 kids then do as your heart tells you.


Rebecca


Rebecca 33
Rob DH 36
Will (almost 5)
Julian 3
Ashley 9 and a half months

[CJJHRA]

You always make do, as long as the kids are fed and cothed and loved, who cares about too many toys (anyway I think alot of kids have too much stuff these days anyway)

We have 6 kids... any more after 3 becomes harder, when you need a bigger car! but you make do same sex kids can share a room, no biggie there!

Good luck with what you choose

[Moorish]

I don't think anyone could ever tell you how many kids to have.
Hubby & I want 4 - we've always both wanted 4 even before we had any!
We're already planning the 4th even though the 3rd isn't even here yet!

As for gaps etc, I've never been one for huge gaps. Once I'd had our first baby we decided that we'd like to finish having our family. Few reasons, I like the idea of them growing up together, also I have given myself a time limit of the age of 30 to finish having them (I'm 27 in Jan so we're making good time!!) Please let me stress this was simply a personal choice & hubby was quite happy for this to happen & supported my decision. There is 19 months between Chelsea (3.75) & Nicola (2) & will be 26 months between Nicola & DD3. We had wanted a smaller gap between 2 & 3 but never got around to "doing" anything about it, then thankfully we fell preg straight away!

Now that we've about 98% decided to have a 4th, we've also decided to plan for a gap of between 16 - 22 months. I know this seems like a lot to handle and we always get comments from friends & family, mainly negative, about how hard it's going to be and can we afford it (I'm a SAHM but we're doing ok on hubby's income). We love nothing more than the sound of kids running in the back yard or through the sprinkler on a sunny day & often have a few little friends down to play. Of course it's important to consider the financial costs etc but it definately shouldn't be the final straw on whether or not to have another child.