Surrogacy!

[aden2005]

Just a quick question or two or three lol

Have you ever been a surrognat mum?
OR have you thought of becoming one?
AND what are your opinons on surrogacy?

Luv Katherine-xx-

[Lirael]

I would do it for my sisters or best friend definately!!:thumbsup:

oh and a male friend of mine I told i would too.(actually donate my egg and carry the baby)

[pookiesossige]

I LOVE being pregnant, want to do it again (and again) but have the sense to see that I have enough children to suit me (and my parenting abilities!) and my family is complete.

So...I would def. be a surrogate for my best pal I grew up with if she needed one or my sister- but that's really about it because I feel that complications could well arise with others I don't know so well- and those two are the only women I feel I know very, very well (apart from my mum, but I don't think she is ah, planning for more children at 49!)

It would have to be all legal blah blah blah and I guess that the right thing for the other party to do would be to cover medical costs (and extra food! Mmmm!).
I don't know much else about it! They'd have to witness the birth to fully understand the journey their child has made into the world but not their husband/partner- I don't think my DH would allow that and I would be pretty uncomfortable!!!

What else?? Oh I don't know- I'm looking forward to reading other responses to your question, Katherine :detective:

[kirstenriley]

I think it takes a pretty special person to be a surragate! To go through the pregnancy and then hand the baby over....I wonder if you would feel differently if you were pregnant by your own egg or if you had the other persons fertilised egg implanted so you knew there was no biological connection.....hmmmmmm

Either way i think it would be verrrrry hard to hand the baby over in the end.

[pookiesossige]

I was thinking about that too, but I guess my last two births were not really the place where the bonding experience took off- that happened later as I got to know my babies. I don't get really hormonal during pregnancy or soon after birth, apart from being on a bit of a high during the pregnancy. No tears or confusion, like what a lot of people seem to go through. I think you have to know yourself and how you develop a relationship with an unborn baby- although every time could be different perhaps, and therefore unpredicable. I loved bringing new life into the world, just relished it, but also felt seperate from it a bit iykwim?

And I would only surrogate for someone using an already-fertillised embyro.

I would be a little scared of developing a bond- that would be enough to stop one developing, I think. I would be fine handing the bub over as it is not a part of me, not genetically linked to either me or my DH.

And I looked at my last post, and only having two people that I'd be a surrogate for means I probably won't have a chance to, which is slightly dissappointing but makes me happy in a way because that means that people close to me have a good chance of creating and carrying their own child themselves :yes:

[kirst74]

I'd be really interested to hear if anyone knows what the legal requirements are for GS in Victoria. I'm just in the very early stages of considering becoming a surrogate for my best friend, who has serious uterine problems from years of savage endo. She and her husband both have perfect gametes, so any child would be genetically theirs. I have two children of my own (twins), and would like a third, but I have read that the surrogate mother needs to be infertile herself to be eligible. Would I need to finish my own family, and then have a tubal ligation to meet the 'infertile' requirement?

Any advice or info appreciated!

Kirst

[pookiesossige]

Hey Kirst, interesting question, dunno the answer though! Unfortunetly there's not much traffic through this thread... Pity, I'd love to learn more about surrogacy or at least just see what other people's ideas/feelings/experiences are :yes:

[HoopDeeDoo]

This is a really interesting discussoin. I think in theory surragacy is a great thing to do for someone. I don't think I would be elligable as both my boys were born prem. But I would definately concider it if I could do it for someone close to me. Not sure if I could donate my egg as well though if I was going to be close to the child.

[cobysmummy]

to be honest i dont think i could do it... but i am only 19 so there is still time...

i would like to have another child of my own and i dont think i could carry a bub and feel movements and bond for nine months and then just hand the baby over...

but however if it was for one of my sisters i probably would after i finish my own family...

i guess its a touchy subject and u wouldnt know until it happened

[Lunar]

I would do it for sure!
I would in a heart beat for a family member or close friend.
Of course they pay for medical costs and time off work etc, that would be expected.
I would not have any trouble handing the baby over, after all it would not be mine I would merely be 'baby sitting' for 9 months.

I know how much joy my girls bring to me, I would LOVE for someone to know that feeling and wake up everyday to thier own little miracle.
To give the gift of life would be truely amazing!!!!!

[anna alw]

As someone who needed a surrogate, I really have to say, if your thinking about it, PLEASE seriously look into it.

Lots of countries have different laws however there should be lots of information available on the internet.

Good luck in any journeys you take :)

[kylie81]

Hi I'm a big supporter of surrogacy and wish all the best. just wanted to say:fingerscrossed:
I was watching the news the other day and saw a report about Senator Conroy and his wife using the help of a surrogate, and I was so happy:yelclap: for them! I wrote a letter to the West Australian newspaper congratulating the couple and telling them a bit about my story. I also said that I think that the WA State Law should become the same as the laws in NSW so that ALL Australians in need of the help of a surrogate could access legal IVF treatment. I also wrote that I wanted to know why Medicare expects people to pay for public hospital and full IVF costs etc for women who can’t physically carry a child and therefore need a surrogate, when other women who can carry the baby have their fertility treatment covered.

After writing to the paper I was contacted by the WA State Health Minister Jim McGinty himself by phone, interviewed by 4 TV news programs, 3 radio programs and 2 magazines! The response to my situation has been overwhelmingly positive, and I have met some wonderful people in the media and general public who have been willing to help get my story out there and be advocates for this cause.


I would really like to compel you and everyone who would like to see surrogacy legalised and Medicare cover all the things they already cover for other infertile Australians write, email and call their State Health Ministers and Federal Members of Parliament.

I want things in this country to change for all people who through no fault of their own are in my emotionally and financially devastating position...please take a few moments to help if you feel the same, as I truly believe that people power can positively influence the system!

once again all the best xoxoxoxo:)
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