Trying to be happy

[Kirst]

Isn't it always the way? That when you are TTC that everyone else seems t be getting pg and you're not?

I'm sure that we've all posted this thread at one time or another, and now it's my turn.

I'm trying to be happy that people around me are getting pregnant, but I've hit that LOW that makes it hard for me to be. But it's not directed at everyone who's pregnant.......unfortunatley just my family members.

My SILs have 2 and 3 kids, and the first one got pg with her 3rd in April by accident, and now the other one just announced that they just fell pg by accident with their 4th!

I just feel that it's SO UNFAIR that she will have her 4th before I can have my 2nd.

I have a friend who has been trying for YEARS to get pg with no luck, and other friends who have recently had M/Cs, and I would honestly be over the moon if they announced that they were pg, it's just.........you know...........they alreay have broods of kids. What about those who would make AWESOME parents and are having no luck? When is it their turn?

I'm just in a down mood. Thanks for listening to my rant.

[HollyHotLips]

:hugs:

I think it's natural to feel like this when we want something so badly and someone else has it. I remember feeling the same when we were applying for our visas to emigrate here - I was pleased to people but also had that "why isnt it us?!" horrible anrgy/sad feeling as well.

Dont beat yourself up about it too much.... your (and your friend's) time will come soon enough. :)

[Foxy]

Kirst, sorry you are feeling down at the moment. :hugs:

:fingerscrossed: it happens for you soon!!!!

[nicoleE]

I know what you mean. 2 girls at work here have recently announced their pregnancies and while I am happy for them I am very jealous and I would rather not hear across the office about their unborn bubs.... :gloomy:

But also look on the other side of it, people like my sister (and me) will look at you and think how lucky YOU are for having one child (so far) and envy you. My sister has yet been unsuccessful in treatments including IVF and although I hope she does, there is a chance she will not have children at all (she is now 36).

:hugs: We all get feeling like this, just let yourself have a down moment then move on and make your mind be more positive

:smiliedance: BABY DUST FOR US ALL! :fingerscrossed:

[RoarsomeMum]

:hugs: Kirst.. I think I am feling a bit teh same way at the moment.. I want to be happy for all the BFP.. and for the most part, I am... but some days.. hmmm.. Keep your chin up. I hope its us soon!!!!!!!

[Kirst]

But also look on the other side of it, people like my sister (and me) will look at you and think how lucky YOU are for having one child (so far) and envy you. My sister has yet been unsuccessful in treatments including IVF and although I hope she does, there is a chance she will not have children at all (she is now 36).



Nicole, this is something that I thank myself for every day! I realise that if I NEVER get pregnant again, that I have one beautiful little girl in my life, who I love dearly. Her and my loving husband are enough to get me through.

I guess I'm just jealous.

Thanks for listening girls.

[p4purple]

I do feel for you but I am not exactly standing in your shoes. I thought I would post to show you the other angle.

We concieved our first child (due in Dec) accidentaly. We had plans for a baby maybe next year and while it was a big suprise and uplanned we are over joyed.

I felt guilt ridden when we broke the news. You see our friends have been TTC for over two years with their first and my cousin has been TTC with her second all year. When I told my friend she said "I did'nt even know you were trying" and when I told her that it was an accident I had to be truthful but I could see the resentment on her face. She has also had two M/C. She has since been very happy for us but I feel guilty when I answer her questions about my pregnancy. I know how much she would love to be experiencing what we are but what can I do? This is my story and my life and I'm not doing it in spite of her.

Hold tight to the thought that the child you have been waiting for will be with you soon one day and it is all unfolding exactly as it is supposed to. We cannot always be incontrol of what life has in store for us.

[nicoleE]

p4Purple as i told the 1st girl at work here when she said she feels guilty (they were not trying).. "never feel guilty for being pregnant, just feel blessed" :smiliedance:

[Kirst]

VERY true Nicole. The last thing I ever want to do is make ANYONE feel guilty about falling pregnant. I guess that I didn't know who else to talk to. You guys are always here with some great words and stories that help cheer each other up, and I am happier now.

Ta!

[WeloveHarriet]

I know first hand how hard it is to want a baby and everyone around you seemingly falling pregnant with ease. I have just fallen pregnant after trying since DD was 4mths - but I feel a little guilty that some on the TTC with Clomid thread are still waiting for their special moment. I personally just think that if you are patient and as you said, you luckily already have a lovely daughter, you are blessed and will more then likely become more blessed in the future.

The thing I don't understand is why people persist in calling babies "mistakes" or "accidents" - why can't they be called "lucky surprises"? All babies are special and shouldn't feel that they were unwanted.

[QTB]

dont feel guilty WeLoveHarriet, we are sooo happy for you!!

but #1 i know how you feel... my sister has just turned 18 and her 'accident' was due on the 14th of this month, iv had to go with her to the hospital for appointments LOTS of preggy ladies and lots of new babys

[Livy]

I know exactly how you feel. Another four couples that were not even considering a bub when we started ttc are all now pregnant - and we are stil waiting. One of my friends keeps bragging about getting pregnant the first month, so I thought I would tell her about our fertility problems so she would be more understanding and stop asking when we are going to have a baby. But she just smiled and looked at me and said "well we don't have that problem - we fell pregnant the first month" I just can't belive some people! I actually just get sick of people asking us when we are going to have a baby ..... it's the worst feeling! We have our first appointment with the specialist tomorrow. :fingerscrossed: it will be our turn soon. Good luck to all you ladies still ttc ..... I hope the wait is short :)