am i bad?

[suemp]

last night my son was being rude and cheeky than hit me...so i sent him to his room for time out. as soon as he got there he threw as hard as he could his school bag across the house and screamed . now he is almost 5 so knows better. i saw red and with that i said thats it your in your room for the night now. (it was after 8 so late enough) he kept crying and saying im so sorry mum for hitting you, it broke my heart but i wanted to show him i was not backing down. do you think he is to young to do that, should i of let him out after 5 minutes or did i do the right thing.

[babylover111]

considering it was after 8 I think you did the right thing. In any other situation I would say 5 minutes time out would be the longest amount of time. also in the future maybe you could try giving him a cuddle when he says hes sorry for hitting you and then explain it was also because he threw his bag across the room.

[Whispers]

i think you done the right thing you dont want to send the msg that if he plays up he can just say sorry and then he gets out of trouble next time when he aplogises go in there and explain why he in there and that you except his apoligy but seeing as he done the wrong thing he has to stay in his room that way he will think twice about it next time if not tyhe time after

[*~alegna~*]

Hi Sue:wave:

My DS is only little, so haven't got to your playing field yet but I think you did the right thing....he will know what he did was dead wrong.

In the same situation I would have done the same thing. I know its easy to over think these things isn't it. My DS cried most of the way home this morning ( only 10min) but I felt like the worst Mother in the world because there was nowhere to pull over.

Good Luck Sue...& with Bump on the way:hugs:

[Kirst]

I don't think that you have anything to worry about. You're right, he should know better at that age. Good on you for not backing down.

[Cheekychops]

Definately ok to leave him in there - maybe I would have gone in and spoken to him about it.... accepted the apology etc, but still made it clear that as a result of that behaviour he would have to remain in his room sorry or not......

It's hard isn't it, and we often doubt ourselves and our methods of discipline, but you did nothing wrong in this situation.....it's something he needs to know is not acceptable, even if he's angry!! :thumbsup:

[the_queen]

Sounds like he was really tired and grumpy - maybe an earlier bedtime from now on would prevent something like this happening again?

[Mummy-2-2]

You are not bad, you did what you thought was right, and probably was right at the time.

I wouldnt say that an earlier bedtime is necessarily in order, I guess that depends on the day that was had.

Id like to think that when my daughter reaches a reasonable age I would ask her what happened in the day to make her so mad etc, but in the situation it might not be that easy.

Good luck to you, and remember he is only little, dont expect too much from him.

(now remind me of that the next time my two year old chucks a wobbly and I retaliate!!) Its easier in theory.

[EskimoMumma]

Best of luck and hope things have improved with yourself and DS.

What you did, IMO, was right, like what the PP had said. But children, like adults, have bad days too :o

[suemp]

thnks for your replies. he has been a bit of a handful lately. while an earlier bed time would be nice he tends to go when he is tired which is anywhere from 7 to 8 thirty. once he had settled down i did go in and cuddle him and say why i was mad. he asked for a video to fall asleep to and i explained he had been too naughty to warrent it. a good day today though, he learnt to ride a bike with no training wheels :yelclap:

[Baby Girl]

After reading both your posts I would say :yes: you did the right thing. Don't second guess your instincts :thumbsup: