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[munchie]

As if my situation could get any worse.......

I've just found out I;m pregnant as Ive been waiting for my period and Im a week overdue today so I took a test this morning and it was positive.

Brief run down of my situation-
4 weeks ago me and my 3 year old daughter were removed by DHS from my ex partner (DDs dad) due to domestic violence occuring against myself. I was made to make a choice between my daughter and DF. Obviously I chose my DD.

I have been in and out of court ever since, living an absolute nightmare. Intervention orders, DHS orders, charging ex DF.

I've just come back yesturday to live with my parents interstate and today I find out Im pregnant with dds dad. I was on a pill, however stopped taking it about 2 months ago, Yes i was not been responsible. Im so ashamed and embarresed to be writing this. My parents are going to be so dissapointed in me. Im 24 and I have my DD and I came here to get my life back on track now this! ive been to the dotors and had a blood test and will get the results back on friday to confirm how far along i am. I just can't deal with this now. Its one thing after the other. I am a complete mess.

I called ex df and was crying and carrying on that I am pgrenant. Now i wish i hadnt it was a split second what do i do, i need to tell someone. He's trying to suck me back in and wants me to keep the baby. We are noyt even aloud to reconcile, not that i would really want to.

Please help

[jess_live_die]

awww 1stly millions of :hugs::hugs:

im 24 and i have 3 kids and 1 one the way the 4th baby put me in tears it wasnt meant to happen i didnt plane it to and was a mess all i can offer is give ur self some time to let things sink in i through bout getting rid sounds horriable my 4th baby but after alot of throught decided i didnt need a man to raise my babies and yes mum and dad were not happy but knowing the pain i was in kept them busy and they tried so hard to keep that from me while they knew i was so upset with it all.

sorry not much help but only a pm away if u need someone to listen cry or vent too

[Theophania]

I am so sorry for the horrible situation you have found yourself in. It must be very hard for you and your daughter, but by the sounds of it you are both in a much better place now.

I don't know if you plan to keep the baby or not, but hopefully you have enough support at your parent's if you do keep the baby. It must be such a scary prospect at the moment for you. Being a singly mum is hard enough without the added stresses you have in your life. Good luck to you and your daughter.

[zombiekitty]

Is termination an option to consider?
Sweetheart, go and see your GP and get a referral to see a counsellor.

[holly13]

I'm 24 and I have 3 kids my last 2 kids I was in kind of the same situation as you were about not knowing what to do. I was so definate on getting them aborted but now I look at them both and think how could I ever have thought of doing that. It might be hard but you can do it. Alot of single parents do it better then 2 parents. And what ever you do don't go back to your ex especially if he has been violent with you. You don't need to put yourself or your daughter in that situation. Don't be ashamed this sort of stuff happens all the time and I'm sure in due time your parents will support you. I'm here if you ever want to talk

[Pinkzy]

Is termination an option to consider?
Sweetheart, go and see your GP and get a referral to see a counsellor.

I agree with this.

:hugs::hugs::hugs: Please remember you're not alone and what anyone else thinks of you (including your parents) really does not matter. I am so sorry you're going through what sounds like an absolute nightmare :(:hugs:.

[munchie]

I'm seriously considering terminating, even though Im scared i wont beable to cope with the emotional side. I just cannot believe this is happening. I wish it was a dream. I will be getting a referal for a psychologist as i have to do that anyway (part of court order) but i dont want to lose anytime if i do decide to terminate. Im liekly to be no longer then 5 weeks. This is the worst feeling in the world and i feel so guilty.

[zombiekitty]

Hugs to you xxx

[krystallxx]

Don't terminate without being 100% certain of ur choice and I really wouldn't let others tell you what's best, only you can decide inthis situation. Psychologist sounds like a great idea and may really help put things into perspective.

Hugs to you .. I hopethings start looking up real soon xx

[ComeBackKid]

((HUGS))

I agree with the above advice - do not terminate unless you are 100%. DHS have removed you and your DD and can protect this baby too, if you choose to continue the pregnancy.

I hope some counselling can help go through your options and make a decision that is right for you.

Huge hugs x

[meljemillie]

you need to make the decision for you honey and perhaps talking to someone might make your choice a bit clearer either way i think with all that's gone on in your life your feelings and emotions are all over the place and until you can talk to someone i wouldnt be making any life changing decisions i know its not an ideal situation and at the end of the day its your choice and yours alone xxxHugs to you i hope you make the best decision for you:-)

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[Hooves]

:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

You sound like you are emotionally in a really bad place right now. You have had so much go on, and are picking up your pieces. Be kind to yourself, right now.

I know you have a lot to deal with, and lots of things to set in motion to meet court obligations, and family expectations. Right now you really have to think of what is best for you. Physically emotionally, physchologically.

Right now, I think seeing a physchologist is a great idea, but in the mean time, absolutely go and chat to your gp, as soon as possible. Set the wheels in motion, and concentrate on repairing your broken sense of self.

While right now, having a baby is not in your game plan, as others have said, don't make a decision based on how you are feeling at this moment in time. This moment will pass, and you will have a life time to reflect on this. Be sure of your choices and decisions.

Unfortunately you are limited with time, and that can put on extra pressure. Try and find someone neutral to help you work through this difficult time.

Don't think about what others want, or how others will feel. Right now, you need to think about HOW you will feel, and what you want. It is ok, to take a little time to think, and decide.

BE kind to yourself, you have been through so much. :hugs::hugs::hugs:

[lovebeingamum!]

Some sound advice here already-
Dont know what to say- make sure your decision is YOUR decision, not made for someone else (xDP, parents)
I def agree with counseling, there's alot to get straight in your head other than an unplanned pregnancy.
Keep communications going with those around you- stay away from xDP until you sort it out. IMo he gave up any part in the decision when he abused you...
Good luck- keep us updated.
((hugs))