New to IVF and going down the complicated path quickly...any advice appreciated

[ustwo]

:wave:

DH and I have been TTC since April '10, not that long compared to most I know, but we met late, so started late. We decided since he's away 6 months out of each, year and if we didn't see a FS now, it could be almost another year before we see a FS....and we're not getting any younger.

We always thought there might be a problem and it would be because if me. So I saw my GP and was told I'd be given some Clomid and we'd be good to go...that simple. :smiliedance: Turns out that's not the case....:(

Me:

Endometriosis: 2 x laparoscopies 2001 & 2004


Failed Hycosy Feb '11 - Couldn't insert catheter due to "tight" cervix :heywhat:

HSG March '11 (OMG the pain!!) :( - good news though, my tubes are clear :smiliedance:

Suspected PCOS - my twin is a type 1 diabetic and our dad was a type 2 diabetic, so my chances are high. AF is all over the place and I'm about 20 kg overweight (working on fixing that). So the signs all point to PCOS. I did a glucose tolerance test and the results were fine, so I'm assuming PCOS isn't an issue. FS didn't say it was an issue :confused:

:confused: Also, my reserve count is high and it shouldn't be so high for my age. I have no idea what this means :confused: Is this part of PCOS?? Or something else? I'm having an U/S tomorrow for natural follicle count, uterus measurements, etc tomorrow.

DH:

Low count (though the sample he froze in case he's away when the time comes had a normal count :smiliedance:)

Low motility. They did a trial wash and there weren't many 'good ones' at the end of it.

Bad morphology. Apparently there's an enzyme missing so it's no go without ICSI. :(

I start Provera on the 25th and Synarel around 27 April...then FSH injections and hopefully ER around 17 May.

I feel like we've been blindsided. How did we go so fast from a quick dose of Clomid to what seems like the end of the line for using our own eggs & sperm?? :heywhat:

Then, if we get to do an ET, my endo issues kick in....what are my chances of M/C? ...and if I do, then what??

I'm excited about starting it all, but I'm also extremely worried we're going to get even further down the IVF path and run out of options.

DH is away at the moment and I'm finding my days revolve around this now...it's crazy...right??

Any advice, opinions...anything is welcome right now

Thanks!!

[TigerLissy]

:wave::wave: Hey...

You are so strong to be doing this alone... I definatly take my hat off to you.. i bet your DH hates being away while your doing this though :(

The journey can be stressful and hard. but you got to just try stay positive. better said then done hey.

I have been TTC since 2005. :eek:

We did an AI in 2009, not luck and i just needed a year off. Wasnt really ready for full blown IVF.

This year we took the plunge.

And tomorrow after many tears, loads of headaches, sore bellies, i go into to get my ET... Im very excited.:cheerleader1:

Last Friday they retreived 15 eggs
on saturday out of the 15, 11 fertilised, 2 were immature, 1 rejected the sperm and 1 looked abnormal.

Sunday all 11 had gone onto the next phase and devided :goodvibes::goodvibes:

Monday all 11 again had advanced, 3 of which were doing even better

Today ( tuesday ) 7 are looking great, they reckon the other 4 may get there tomorrow.

So tomorrow is D day... this is what i have been working for, crying for, stressing for.

Im trying to stay as positive as i can.

The problem is, well there is no problem, they have never found a reason for us not being able to conceive, Very fustrating. sometimes i just wish i had somethign wrong so i knew why we didnt have a baby already.

I am only 28, well 29 on April 27th :celebrate: So hopefully i get a bday suprise as i do the prenancy test on the 25th....:fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed::fingerscr ossed:

Things may seem hard for you, but you will get through.

i had so musch more to say but this post took me forever and i am now late for work. :geek: lol

Keep me posted

Larissa :smiliedance:

[second baby not so easy]

ustwo - :hugs: and welcome to IVf world ;), i too was on clomid for 2 months, then within 4 months was seeing a FS in April last year. In that time I have learnt so much and it can be very very daunting. Bh is a great place for info but so is your FS.

We have MFI so FS recommened ICSI best option for us, which is most expensive. We are currently on our 3rd cycle. I cant help regarding the other fertility ways, but for me but time I hit 2nd cycle I felt like I know a lot more.

:hugs: for doing it mainly on your own.

[ustwo]

Hi TigerLissy!

WOW!! That's awesome news!! :cheerleader1: Hopefully it's a good sign that so many are looking good.

:fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: for you.

:babydust1::babydust1::babydust1::babydust1::babyd ust1:

A BFP would be a wonderful birthday surprise. I really hope you get your birthday wish.

I have a question...what was the ER like? Were you sore afterwards? I'm willing to do whatever it takes, but would like to have a better idea of what to expect...more from the point of view of getting around with no help afterwards (just in case DH isn't home).

That would be so frustrating not knowing the reason for why TTC is taking so long. I'm not sure I could cope with that. At least we have something to point the finger at. Hopefully that means the solution is easier to find...maybe.

Today's U/S went well. I won't know the results until I next see the FS, but the sonographer didn't say there was anything suspect...not that that's anything to go by. I'm not sure when I'll next see the FS. It seems that now everything is done by the nurses and scientists until ER time.

OH!! DH just surprised me with some news... He's applied for a month's leave, so hopefully it will be approved and the timing is right...then he'll be here at ER time. Bless him :valentine:

Let me know how tomorrow goes
:babydust1:

[ustwo]

ustwo - :hugs: and welcome to IVf world ;), i too was on clomid for 2 months, then within 4 months was seeing a FS in April last year. In that time I have learnt so much and it can be very very daunting. Bh is a great place for info but so is your FS.

We have MFI so FS recommened ICSI best option for us, which is most expensive. We are currently on our 3rd cycle. I cant help regarding the other fertility ways, but for me but time I hit 2nd cycle I felt like I know a lot more.

:hugs: for doing it mainly on your own.


:wave:

Thanks for your advice. :hugs: It's good to know that it gets easier....well sort of. If this cycle doesn't work, at least I'll be better prepared for the next one. Which will be good because DH will be away for all of it....:fingerscrossed: we don't need to worry about that.

Glad to know we're not the only ones who've gone from Clomid to ISCI so fast.

[TigerLissy]

hey. well today went well. i feel a little weird actually that my little embryo is floating around in my belly/ uterus. They reckon it can sometimes take a bit to attach to the wall, so im hoping it behaves and does what it is meant to.
it was uncomfortable when they did it, but just like a pap smear. i even got to see the little thing on a screen before they put it in. pretty cool. i have named all my embryos sea monkeys, and this little sea monkey looked magical :D.

When i had my eggs out i was completly knocked out, when i woke up, i had a little bit of cramping. but the main thing that was sore was my throat as they had put a tube down my throat :eek:.

I was fine by the next day....

each fertility clinic does differnet procedures. do you mind me asking what state you are from and who you are going through???

chat soon :wave:

p.s that is unreal news your hubby took leave:cheerleader2:
you will need it.

Also if you start to put on more weight whilst on the drugs, well i had massive fluid rentention and put on 7kgs. now being off everything im now starting to drop it.... worth it all if i get my baby :D

[ustwo]

I'm glad your FET went well. :fingerscrossed: it behaves :babydust1:

Sea monkeys....I like it!! :D

Thanks for letting me know about your ER. I don't feel so anxious about it now. :hugs: Though I'm still glad there's a good chance DH will be there. :cheerleader2:

We're in Sydney & going through IVF Australia at Maroubra. Though we don't live near there...we're in the inner west. We stated our journey at the RHW because I'd had all my endo surgeries there...it made sense to go where all my records were...and from there we ended up at Maroubra.

My U/S results arrived in the mail today (that was quick!!). From what I can tell, everything is OK and there's no reason why we can't go ahead with the ER. :hyper: So the IVF/ICSI journey officially starts next week. :hyper: and :freakingout: all at the same time.

Not sure I like the idea of the weight thing. I've been struggling to lose weight. It's coming off, but it's been slow going. I'll keep working on it. Who knows, maybe I will have lost enough so when I do retain fluid I won't end up bigger than I was at my biggest...make sense?? Regardless, just like you said, it will be worth it. :D

I imagine these next 2 weeks are going to seem like an eternity for you. I've got everything crossed for you!!
:babydust1::babydust1::babydust1:

Talk soon :wave:

[TigerLissy]

:highfive: Im glad results were good :smiliedance:

Im sending you so much postive enery. everyone says dont stress, dont think about babies, or try to realx, well way easier said then done. unless they have been through it that have no idea.

Yeah i keep visualising that my strong little sea monkey is attaching itself right now and behaving :D. it keeps me smiling.
i even talk to it, well im really talking to myslef like a crazy woman but again it makes me smile. and smiling is the most important thing... :):):):):):):)

We are doing ours in Parramatta at Next Generation Fertility. Kim Mathews ( my FS ) is wonderful, she even held my hand whilst they knocked me out when i had my ER. :angel:

This waiting is ok for now, but Kim said something to me that kinda got me thinking. i asked her if it doesnt work should i get my period before my scheduled PT. she said yes that they plan it that way...... sooooooo i was thinking that generally i can get tested before that.... sooooooo i was then thiking that if my PT is on the 25th and if my period hasnt come ( it wont, it wont, it wont ) well then im hoping to be sneaky and do a HPT on the 23rd. i know they can give a false reading but its the easter weekend and i would rather have a little bit of an idea whilst im away with my family, then sweating it out for 3 days.:freakingout:

So what dates do you start??

Chat soon :wave:

[lissyloulou]

Hi gals,
Tigerlissy just had to say that I love your name!:D wish I had thought of that myself lol

We are currently in 3rd iui cycle. If no success this cycle we are jumping straight to ivf next month (only 2.5 weeks away). I feel excitement/fear/relief all rolled into one! I'm sure you all understand.

So have you guys joined any ivf threads yet? I am on an iui thread and have got to know some lovely ladies there. One person is doing ivf there but just wondering if you guys will keep chatting here or in another ivf thread? I will def keep chatting to my iui friends but would like to hear about others ivf journeys too.

All the best:babydust1:

[TigerLissy]

Hi LissyLoulou,:wave: its funny that you say you like my name as i have family that call me lissy lou... my name is Larissa and i get Lis, Lissy, Lissy Lou etc etc.

Good luck with all your treatment. I still am new to this site, so accoasionally join another thread etc but generally just read what other woman are saying.

Im currently in week 2 of my 2ww. omg it is horrible. every little pain, cramp, twinge you think omg what is that and you google what it could be.:(

I kinda keep thinking im going to get my period cos the cramps are similar. but other woman say they had the same and they ended up being pregant. my pt is on the 25th and it cant some soon enough.

Any questions you have please ask :D

Lis

[lissyloulou]

my nickname for Alisa is Lis too:)
i get all the varieties too, the lou lou stuff mainly from my Mum:D

wow, the 25th - how exciting! i have an IUI booked for tomorrow, so my TWW starts tomorrow. FS doesn't have much hope for this cycle as she thinks we need IVF, but she said it was still worth a go as we had already started the injections.

:fingerscrossed: for the 25th!!:goodvibes:

[Kodileesmum]

I too have recently started on the IVF train & my DH works away also. He is usually away for 2 - 3 weeks then home for the weekend then away again for another 2-3 weeks etc etc
We conceived our first DS naturally & we conceived our second DS naturally but sadly he was still born. We have been trying to conceive ever since without success. We just thought it was due to him being away a lot, that our timing was out. So we decided to freeze some semen & try IUI. We then found out my ovarian reserve is very low. So the IUI didn't work so we started IVF. We just had our first egg pick up cancelled today because I only had 1 small follicle. We may have to find an egg donor.
Anyway, I just really wanted to let you know that you are not alone & I know how hard it is going through something so physically & emotionally draining as fertility treatment with your partner being away. I wish you all the best & I hope everything works out for all you ladies very soon

[ustwo]

Hi everyone!

Sorry for my absence. Life has been a little hectic here lately and DH and I have been arguing a lot lately. :( This is SO unusual for us. We finally had a good talk about things and things are resolved...for now...I don't think I've seen the last of him being an inconsiderate ****. Vent over

I'm wondering if anyone else has felt the following...
over the last few days my body has been so sore and I hadn't even started taking anything yet. My boobs hurt, my ovaries hurt....I have no idea why. Maybe it's because I'm paying such close attention to it now. Who knows...any ideas anyone?

I started taking Provera today so we're officially on our way baby!! :D

I hope everyone is having a great Easter

xo



Hi TigerLissy,
Good luck with your PT tomorrow. :babydust1::babydust1:
How have you been on your TWW? Sounds like you've been going a little crazy. I'd be doing exactly the same thing. Hopefully I'll get to go a little crazy soon :laughing:

Please let us know how you go. I truly have everything crossed for you:fingerscrossed:
:babydust1:


Hi lissyloulou,
I definitely understand the excitement/fear/relief all rolled into one when you get to IVF. As scary as it is, I'm kind of relieved in one way...I have my DH back, he's no longer just the bloke who has to impregnate me :rolleyes: Hopefully you won't need to move onto IVF. :fingerscrossed: this cycle works :babydust1::babydust1:

I had a go on another IVF thread, but I'm finding it hard to follow. There are so many new posts that I can't keep up. I'm new to all of this so keeping it simple is more my style right now. I'd like to know how other people are traveling too....thanks for sharing!! :hugs:



Hi Kodileesmum,
I'm so sorry to hear about your sleeping angel :hugs: I can't even begin to imagine what that must feel like.

Can I ask what regime you were on? I'm afraid there won't be enough follicles when my ER is due and it will be cancelled. I'm not sure how I'd handle that.

How do you and DH handle things while he's away? Was he going to be home for the ER?

Sorry if I'm prying too much. Tell me to bugger off if you like ;)

Take care :hugs:

[TigerLissy]

Well blood test was today, doing this on my iPhone so no cute little pics to add. So I ring for results in an hour.
They think I had or am having a chemical pregnancy. Pretty devo. If my levels are
between 10-100 I have to have another blood test wednesday ( my bday) and they
wil know for sure what's happening. If there
over 100 well I can be positive bubs has stuck around. Otherwise under 10 I can enjoy a few drinks today at 2 up. I will keep you posted
Lis x

[lissyloulou]

Oh lissy...I'm praying for you:hugs::fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed:

[ustwo]

Oh honey! :hugs:

I hope today brought good news for you
xo

[december1985]

:wave:

DH and I have been TTC since April '10, not that long compared to most I know, but we met late, so started late. We decided since he's away 6 months out of each, year and if we didn't see a FS now, it could be almost another year before we see a FS....and we're not getting any younger.

We always thought there might be a problem and it would be because if me. So I saw my GP and was told I'd be given some Clomid and we'd be good to go...that simple. :smiliedance: Turns out that's not the case....:(

Me:

Endometriosis: 2 x laparoscopies 2001 & 2004


Failed Hycosy Feb '11 - Couldn't insert catheter due to "tight" cervix :heywhat:

HSG March '11 (OMG the pain!!) :( - good news though, my tubes are clear :smiliedance:

Suspected PCOS - my twin is a type 1 diabetic and our dad was a type 2 diabetic, so my chances are high. AF is all over the place and I'm about 20 kg overweight (working on fixing that). So the signs all point to PCOS. I did a glucose tolerance test and the results were fine, so I'm assuming PCOS isn't an issue. FS didn't say it was an issue :confused:

:confused: Also, my reserve count is high and it shouldn't be so high for my age. I have no idea what this means :confused: Is this part of PCOS?? Or something else? I'm having an U/S tomorrow for natural follicle count, uterus measurements, etc tomorrow.

DH:

Low count (though the sample he froze in case he's away when the time comes had a normal count :smiliedance:)

Low motility. They did a trial wash and there weren't many 'good ones' at the end of it.

Bad morphology. Apparently there's an enzyme missing so it's no go without ICSI. :(
I start Provera on the 25th and Synarel around 27 April...then FSH injections and hopefully ER around 17 May.

I feel like we've been blindsided. How did we go so fast from a quick dose of Clomid to what seems like the end of the line for using our own eggs & sperm?? :heywhat:

Then, if we get to do an ET, my endo issues kick in....what are my chances of M/C? ...and if I do, then what??

I'm excited about starting it all, but I'm also extremely worried we're going to get even further down the IVF path and run out of options.

DH is away at the moment and I'm finding my days revolve around this now...it's crazy...right??

Any advice, opinions...anything is welcome right now

Thanks!!


I know how your feeling, but you sound really strong I don't think I could do this alone me and my husband have been ttc for 6 years I also have endromtrios I have had 2 laps and I also have PCOS, my husband has the numbers but his sperm is slow at moving lol we tried the clomid tablets but they never worked for us, we have started ISCI treatment 3 weeks ago, I am like you what happens if this doesn't work what opitons do you have left which is something they dont tell you but there is loads of things out there so you can have children and that was one thing my gyno consultant told me before I started the ISCI treatment good luck with everything :fingerscrossed: :)