long rant....

[holly]

I've had a bad cold for the past week, DD had a stuffed up nose but thankfully that was all. Anyway I soldiered on as we all do, DD goes to bed at 6pm but the past 2 weeks has been waking up at about 2am then again at 5.30am ready to start the day. It's been quite exhausting to say the least, and we don't have any family here for me to be able to have a break. Anyway because she goes to bed at 6PM when DH gets home he basically makes dinner for us and tidies the kitchen. A few nights he's tried doing a dream feed in the hope to get her to sleep longer in the night to no avail. He's normally up quite late so these feeds are not a problme for him and she nevers wakes or needs changing.

Anway.. this is where my rant begins. DH has come home from work yesterday with the same cold. He has a important presentation on Monday and made the comment he'd try to get as much sleep etc as he could over the w/end. We had a bit of an arugment about it because while I understand the importance of his job and the fact he is bringing in all the money, my job looking after DD is just as important but in a different way. I can't 'go home' from work ill or sleep in or take medication to help me get over it faster! He went to bed last night at 8pm, I did a dream feed at 9pm, she woke at 3.00am then again at 6.00am - and I'd been up since 5.30am the previous morning. I've took her for a walk and got back at 8am and he;'s astill in bed. Nice for some to get a sleep in!!

I just feel really peeved, I now have to look after myself, DD (24/7) and him! Men can be such wimps!! I think I'm more peeved than ususal because I look forward to Friday nights because I know DH can take over to a degree for 2 days, him just being home makes life easier in the weekend. Now I'll have no break for another 7 days and I still feel unwell.

Am I being petty, i don't know how to convey it to hubby without sounding like I;m nagging because he is pretty sick!

I'm a bad wife aren't I?

[Cheekychops]

:hugs: No you aren't a bad wife at all!!!! It would be great if we could take a sicky or have someone look after us.....unfortunately - unless your partner is a freak of nature.....us mums don't usually get much chance to do this......most men make terrible patients, and want a 'mummy' figure to look after them to make them feel like they will eventually be alright......and in the end it's all on our shoulders.....

It can be very overwhelming - but just take each minute as you can......lay down as much as possible - even if it's just on the floor with bub!!! Don't worry about housework this weekend.....let the dishes pile up, the bed stay unmade and just do the bare essentials!!! In a few days you will feel a whole lot better and then be able to get your house back into order - but for now, while you are all sick, just let whatever happens go!!!!!

:hugs: Stay strong!!!!

[SilverStarfish]

:hugs: I feel like that quite often too. My DH is a wonderful husband and a wonderful father. And he works hard at what is sometimes a very stressful job. Quite often though I get quite envious and even a little resentful the he can come home, grab a beer out of the fridge and go play computer games or watch TV - totally switch off from his work and leave me, quite literally, holding the baby.

As Mums we don't get to "go home" and there is no switching off. No weekends, no sick leave. As yet Sarah has never looked up at me from her cot and said "Hey Mamma, you look tired. Why don't you go take a long shower and go read a book. I'm happy to just look after myself today. I'll go get myself some lunch and then go play on my own for a while. Oh and I'll do the dishes and laundry for you too..."

I look forwards to Friday evenings for the same reasons. Sometimes I feel guilty about tossing the baby to him as soon as he walks in the door, and I try not to do it too often. But you know what it's like when its been a Bad Day and you are just craving 5 minutes to yourself. And then for DH to be busy and then you not to get a break for another week... :banghead:

Hope it gets better for you :) I don't think anyone has a magic fix (other than win lotto and get a housemaid and butler) but you are among friends here :hugs: