Not sure what to do....

[faroutbrusselsprout]

I have been invited to go on insight (on SBS).
I love the show and was so excited to be asked.
They will be flying me and DD up and back and I can bring my mum to help.

The thing is, I'm afraid it's going to really upset my mum, who really is the most wonderful person.

She had a pretty horrible childhood and vowed that her children wouldn't ever experience what she did.
In doing this she created this iddyllic, problem free childhood for my brother and I.
She always seemed to 'solve' everything and I never really experienced disappointment and in turn never learnt resiliance to alot of situations.
I battled with huge self esteem issue and depression throughout my teenage years and still now at 30 years fight self esteem issues everyday and find myself unable to cope with certain situations..

I am really conscious of making sure that I don't cotton wool my kids (DS1 especially). I want him to experience the ups and downs of life and in turn - develop a solid sense of self esteem.

So...this is what the whole show is about - Self esteem, resiliance and what we are doing to our kids etc etc

I've spoken to her about it and she really does appear to be OK with me talking about it but I know deep down it may be causing her some pain.
Me going on national TV talking about how my self esteem suffered through her parenting - Ouch.
She says it's Ok as long as I don't use it as a "cop out" for the rest of my life and doesn't want to be "blamed" for the way I turned out.

I use to work in TV and the thought of being back in the studio just makes me giddy with excitment but at the same time the thought of hurting my Mum feels awful....

I've told her I won't do it if she doesn't want to but she assured me that it will be a great experience..

[FiveInTheBed]

Sounds like a great opportunity to mark that day as the 'day for moving forward' for both of you.

:goodvibes: in a good way.

I've had a similar 'chat' with my mum [although not on national TV] ...on how much our childhood moulds us into who we are as adults - It was VERY emotional and took a few days of tears and hugs to get over.

I think the main aim for each generation is to change and be an improvement on the previous one...I'd say your mum mum's childhood obvioulsy contributed to her beahviour (as you have mentioned) hopefully she acknowledges that...and no doubt your childhood is affecting yours...

-- go for it!!

let us know what night it will be on!! :yes:

[faroutbrusselsprout]

Sounds like a great opportunity to mark that day as the 'day for moving forward' for both of you.

:goodvibes: in a good way.

I've had a similar 'chat' with my mum [although not on national TV] ...on how much our childhood moulds us into who we are as adults - It was VERY emotional and took a few days of tears and hugs to get over.

I think the main aim for each generation is to change and be an improvement on the previous one...I'd say your mum mum's childhood obvioulsy contributed to her beahviour (as you have mentioned) hopefully she acknowledges that...and no doubt your childhood is affecting yours...

-- go for it!!

let us know what night it will be on!! :yes:

Thanks so much, that's a great way to look at it.
Ive just been chatting with the producer about my concerns and she is well aware that we will talk about it in a very lighthearted way and then concentrate on my parenting philosophies with my kids.
So...looks like we are booking some flights! :D

[Pinkzy]

That is wonderful news :):hugs: I completely understand why you're concerned, I imagine I'd have the same worries if it were me...but your mum really does sound like she's 100% supportive of the idea and sounds very honest about her own feelings too. I say go for it :D

[MamaC]

Sounds like a great opportunity to mark that day as the 'day for moving forward' for both of you.

:goodvibes: in a good way.


I agree with FITB, what a wonderful opportunity to move forward together :goodvibes:
Just keep reassuring your mum :hugs:
And also HOW EXCITING! I love that show! Enjoy the experience and can't wait to watch the program.

[faroutbrusselsprout]

Thanks guys! Filmed it today. On tomorrow night!

[sunnyflower]

Oh cool!

Myself,ds and mum were on the show a few years ago and we had a great time!

I will be sure to watch!

[onionskin]

How did it go in regards to your mum, and not wanting to hurt her feelings?

I can't wait to watch. I love insight, how exciting.

[faroutbrusselsprout]

How did it go in regards to your mum, and not wanting to hurt her feelings?

I can't wait to watch. I love insight, how exciting.

Once we got there and got the brief they actually really wanted to just hear about how I parent my kids rather than how I was parented, so mum got off Scott free! Lol. We had a lovely time in Sydney!
(Jenny is just delightful, she was so open, friendly and down to earth)

[FiveInTheBed]

..so glad it went smoothly.

Looking forward to tomorrow night - did you wear a big pink ribbon in your hair so we all know who you are!!?? :p

[bellalika]

..so glad it went smoothly.

Looking forward to tomorrow night - did you wear a big pink ribbon in your hair so we all know who you are!!?? :p

Did you do the " I'd like to say hi to all my family, friends and hubbers"? :)

I'm glad you went and all was well.

[onionskin]

Once we got there and got the brief they actually really wanted to just hear about how I parent my kids rather than how I was parented, so mum got off Scott free! Lol. We had a lovely time in Sydney!
(Jenny is just delightful, she was so open, friendly and down to earth)

So glad it all worked out then without your mum being hurt.

Did you find it daunting at all, I have often wanted to go but then think I would have an anxiety attack :laughing: and just jibber jabber and make no sense at all.

[MamaC]

I totally missed it! :no:
I'll have to look out for the re-run!!!!

[FiveInTheBed]

Thanks guys! Filmed it today. On tomorrow night!

Have we missed it??

I think tonight's episode is on Narcissism.

[faroutbrusselsprout]

Have we missed it??

I think tonight's episode is on Narcissism.

Yep it's that one. It took a different spin and the self esteem bit is right at the end. Talking about over praising kids can cause nacissitic tendencies etc etc

[FiveInTheBed]

great! thanks Farout - it looks like a great discussion...will be tuning in.

[bellalika]

Yep it's that one. It took a different spin and the self esteem bit is right at the end. Talking about over praising kids can cause nacissitic tendencies etc etc

Thought it was the wrong topic and it must be the next week so I changed channels. Bugger.

[Threadkiller]

Trust me not to have internet all week and miss out on it :(

[Gandalf]

oooh how exciting. i get so excited when hubbers i adore are on insight :p

[for anyone who's interested - its on the sbs website. as is the transcript of the episode :yes:]