Feeling stressed - are my supporters still up?

[Savingfishfromdrowning]

She stopped for about 15 minutes - her longest pause so far, then started making moany noises again. I went and sat outside her door and all of a sudden she started screaming. I went in and she'd vomited :( I picked her up and turned on the night light and she vomited some more, so I assume it had just happened.

Dh came up and helped change the sheets and her PJs (with as little fuss as possible), she was perfectly happy and chatty the whole time, no sobbing or hysterics :confused: so we decided to try again from the start (that's what our book says to do in the event of a vomit) after we gave her some water.

I'm losing confidence, I don't think I can do this much longer. Do you think I'm doing the right thing?

[Savingfishfromdrowning]

Went up after 5 minutes and she's thrown up again. Aborting the attempt. My poor bubba :( I am a terrible mother :gloomy:

[Laksa]

You aren't a terrible mother!

I'm not pro-controlled crying myself but I saw your post and you shouldn't think that. A terrible mother wouldn't care that her baby was upset. Don't beat yourself up. If you think this is the right technique for your family then try again. Or try something else. Or try nothing :)

[BabushkaMumma]

Hi :) I've just been following your posts...

Just wanted to say, maybe tonights not the night. She's vomited twice now, and I'd say she'll be tense and a little upset ( as we would be if we vomited twice).

Can you just go back to how you usually get her to sleep tonight, and just put the book down for tonight?

What would you LIKE to do?

[Savingfishfromdrowning]

Yeah, I am chucking it in for tonight. DH just rocked her to sleep. I feel so awful right now :( I'm going to bed, I think we are going to have a bad night tonight.

[cindye]

GBH
Take a breath and leave it for tonight. It's not worth getting stressed over for both of you.
If you give it another try, maybe spend more time with her, patting and shushing but then leave her when she is calm and give her the chance to self-settle.

[c38]

:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

It would be so much easier if they came with an off switch.

[mummaof4]

can you try the way that you sit by the cot patting her to sleep for a few nights then sit by the cot with just your hand on her back but not actually patting.. then wait a few nights and just sit there.. then move closer to the door every couple of nights?
might take longer but less stress on bub & yourself.. goodluck!

xx

[Savingfishfromdrowning]

Thanks for your support and advice everyone




It would be so much easier if they came with an off switch.

I have to say that made me laugh :laughing:

Not sure what the plan is now, but she did sleep quite well last night after all that (6 hours straight :eek:).

[TurnedBatty]

Sounds horrible :( Good that you called it a night, sounds like she was too stressed already, and myabe not feeling very well. I hope the next night is better. :hugs:

[SalTheGal]

Hey I haven't read previous threads, so not sure if there is a back story here- but have you tried "camping out (http://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&cd=1&ved=0CCgQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fraisingchildren.net.au%2Farticles %2Fcamping_out.html&rct=j&q=camping%20out&ei=N1KWTbCINI6AvgOr3a30Cw&usg=AFQjCNHlHdFrZUzKQsxj9tN9g3ABtajpoQ&sig2=eGRV8fUhz84o0d6jBAHvJw&cad=rja)"

Its a process of slowly removing yourself from the room but by bit- can take longer than CC but is a much gentler approach, I know with DS2 he responded really well to this when nothing else worked, as I think he just needed to know I was 'there' if that makes sense.

:hugs: :hugs: