unplanned pregnancy, please help im so confused. 6 children already.

[crazymum6]

i have just found out im pregnant, we have been using condoms since the birth of my 5 month old, but one night in the heat of the moment we didnt even think. and of course that 1 flippen night without has led to a pos test.

i already have 6 children 5 boys 1 girl 14 years 10, 7, 4 and half 2 and half and 5 month old.
im just so confused as to weather or not to terminate. im worried about people thinking im stupid cause they all did with the last one. my family have never been happy for me. but when its my sister well thats a differant story to them, they all jump for joy.

now im a mother who loves all my children very much, they are my life, without them i would be lost. my children are well dressed ,fed, schooled and most of all VERY LOVED. i always wanted a big family due to growing up with only a mother, father and 2 sisters. i had no aunties, uncles, cousins, due to child sexual abuse from grandfather.:confused:
so to me a big family was on the agenda, but i wasnt thinking 7 kids.

i guess what im asking is can anybody please help me with my confusion.
i dont want to be one that people look at and think, OMG LOOK AT HER!!!!:eek:
:(:confused:
i feel like i could handle it, not the pregnancy tho. also is this unfair to the unborn baby and my other children???????????????

[onkybear]

:hugs::hugs: What does your partner think? In all honesty your family has nothing to do with it, neither does public opinion. It is between you, your partner and your children. From the things that you have written it Sounds to me that you want to keep the baby? If so then I say do it!!

[nzofrost]

:hugs::hugs: What does your partner think? In all honesty your family has nothing to do with it, neither does public opinion. It is between you, your partner and your children. From the things that you have written it Sounds to me that you want to keep the baby? If so then I say do it!!

Totally agree. It's your partner and your decision.. But ultimately your decision, only because it will affect you the most. Whatever you decide, forget what others think or say because it's YOU who has to live with the consequences of either option. Good luck in what you decide I can tell by your post you will do what's right for you and your family!

[bam2]

Firstly, congratulations:cheerleader1:. I agree with the other girls, it sounds like you want to keep the child. My family can be similar and be so happy for my sister and not so much for me. I would love to have a big family too. You are obviously a loving and devoted mother, who cares what others think, they are probably jealous anyway. If you and your partner agree that you would love another child then never look back and love that little one silly.

[RipperRita]

No one elses opinion but yours and your partner matters.
People will always think things and say things whether you have 1 child or 10. I was an only child and people often said to my mum that she was selfish for not giving me a sibling so you can't win anyway so who cares, let go of what others think.
:hugs:

[Pinkzy]

I agree with everything written above :hugs:.

[tinkerbell87]

Congratulations meh who cares what the family think your gonna have another baby :)

[Seraph8]

Congratulations and enjoy your new baby! In my experience the unexpected child in an already full and happy family make the most interesting people :)

[crazymum6]

hey
first off thank you all for you kind words, i got asked in one, what does my partner want, well yesterday he said he was not fussed either way, but tonight he has said he dont want to have another child.:confused: he is leaving it up to me to decide. now what if this puts our relationship in rocky waters.

[waterlily]

I don't know what ended up happening but I wanted to send you lots of these :hugs: I hope your okay.

[crazymum6]

hi everybody,
just an update, my partner and i decided to not go ahead due to a long convosation and coming to realise that it would not be fair on our other 6 children ourselfs but most of all it just would not of been fair on a tiny little human who needs so much attention love and caring. and having so little time as it is as i still wake up every 3 hours with my 6 month old. im very drained atm and i know within myself that my body and my mental state just would not of coped well at this point in time.
so a big thank you to you all for you kind words.

ive had the procedure and i was really suprised how relieved i was after it, so im doing ok.

:highfive::wave::goodvibes::hugs:

[FloatingFairy]

:hugs:

Hope you're doing alright now.