View Full Version : I suck at disclipline - I laugh too much! HELP!
SassyMummy
13-09-2006, 16:55
My DD is 13 months old, so most of the things she does that are "naughty" aren't ACTUALLY all that naughty, just dangerous (like trying to open the oven) or annoying (like climbing on stuff to reach the CDs...then pulling them all out!).
She doesn't get smacked (too young), but I do say, "NO!" in a loud-ish voice with an angry face. Rarely, she'll cry when I do this, but most often, she'll just laugh and continue to do it.
I know the key is persistance (she seems to know not to touch the CDs anymore...she'll point at them and say "No No No No")...but the thing is, I can't help but laugh when she laughs at me. She looks so cute and cheeky...and as much as I try, I just can't help but laugh or smile!
It's driving me nuts because I know that me smiling and laughing is what's helping her to believe that we're playing a game...but I don't WANT it to be a game, I want her to KNOW that when I say 'No', I mean it!
HELP!
Illusional
13-09-2006, 17:18
Smack yourself?
lol sorry - couldnt resist
SamanthaJane
13-09-2006, 19:06
Its just takes practice :yes:
Like how comedians learn not to laugh at their own jokes (well... most comedians).. and how news readers can go from a laughing fit, to serious as hell to read the news about the war.... you've just got to try and control yourself... which is hard, because laughter is contagious... but you'll get there eventually :yes:
Just say it in a stern voice, and try your hardest NOT to smile/laugh back. Just try your hardest to hold your face/pose/whatever and she'll soon get the message that mummy doesnt laugh back when she does naughty things. She's only young so she's still learning too :yes:
Hi Stacey,
Our bubs were born a day apart, so I TOTALLY know what you are going through!
My little one is the same. She knows she's not allowed to do something...like Chanel she'll point and say 'no'. But then she'll go and do it anyway?? It seems like no matter how much or how load I tell her 'no', she just does not care.
It had gotten to the point where I physically drag her away from what ever it is she's in to. She cries for a bit...and then just goes back to it.
I just got to laugh at her persistancy.
Mum&bubs
13-09-2006, 21:16
As much as it hurts you have to try & hold the laugh/smile in! Trust me I know how hard it can be having a 17mth old who laughs everytime i try to disclipine her too! When I do laugh or smile at her she thinks its a game & shows off even more by doing the wrong thing again thinking this is what i want her to do but when i use my stern voice & hold back the giggle she usually backs off.
MumOfTwoBoys
13-09-2006, 21:29
Say "No", then quickly turn around. She might think that you are upset, or at least get curious and may be stop doing whatever she was up to. Just a suggestion...
I quickly say "NO!" and then turn around before he gives me a huge cheeky grin and laughs.
I used to say "no!" very sternly, and the sternness (is that a word?) and loudness got louder 3 times, and then I physically took her away.
When it's dangerous stuff like the oven, at that age, we still explained it to her with simple words - "Hot" "Danger". She's now 22 months, and understands that mummy's coffee is 'hot', the oven is 'hot' and it's dangerous to touch them.
And now that she undrstands 'danger', I can relate it to things like the road and climbing and that she will hurt herself.
Persistence is the key, and practice.
Hope that helps. Good luck.
Lol i have this problem with DD! When she draws all over my walls, i honestly just think it's rather cute! Like my little girl is growing up.:o :rolleyes:
If im about to smile when i shouldn't, i just put my face in my hands and pretend im really just so fed up! Then remove them when iv stifled my smile.
All lot of the time though with silly things that are probably a little naughty, but not dangerous, i just turn a blind eye to it. I'd rather pick up all the CD's off the floor for the tenth time when she's gone to bed, then tell her off. That way i think she will pay much more attention to me when i do tell her off because i don't do it that often.
All lot of the time though with silly things that are probably a little naughty, but not dangerous, i just turn a blind eye to it. I'd rather pick up all the CD's off the floor for the tenth time when she's gone to bed, then tell her off. That way i think she will pay much more attention to me when i do tell her off because i don't do it that often.
I do this too. DS will listen when he is really doing something dangerous, rather than just htink i am saying it for the fun of it. He is generally really well behaved but is starting to learn now when he has done some very naughty.
MummyCharmzy
14-09-2006, 21:53
ohh I have this problem too only not with my 14 month old, with my almost 4 yr old! Half the naughty things he does are so funny and trying to tell him off without laughing or at least smirking can be so hard sometimes.. I usually have to turn away from him.. calm myself... then turn back and discipline lol
melbourneprincess
08-10-2006, 00:27
Oh, I do this!!! Isn't it terrible? I have to be so careful not to even give the slightest twinkling of an eye away, because once my DD sees it, the game is on!
I use the quickly turning away trick now too. Works for us!
reAllytee
08-10-2006, 02:21
Dp teases me that i dont even do a stern face properly :rolleyes:
Im with Nash in that we ignore a lot of his behaviour if its nothing dangerous because often enough its just Boof exploring & interested in different things that has him getting into mischief ! Sometimes its also an attention seeking thing like turning the t.v off if we are watching it because he likes to be centre of attention around here & i hardly watch it during the day when its just us.
At 18mths he is now finally learning & realising that when he is told " no " it means dont touch or that he is being naughty so to speak so he now cries lol which turns me to mush but i just explain what he was done wrong & we move onto something new.
Ive found the best thing for us is to get down to his level & say " no " & say either dont touch because its hot or dangerous or that wasnt nice that you threw your toy at the cat. In a few months time i will look at using a time out corner if i feel we need it but at least we are getting somewhere now !
DP has never had any dramas with disciplining Boof but for me its been a nightmare again he says its because i cant do a stern face or get angry with him but i think i do fine lol !
Consistancy is the key !
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