Help with miscarriage decision

[marble]

Hi Guys

I am very new at this, but was hoping someone can please give me some advice on miscarriages. My DH and I have been TTC for a while and after 4 IUI attempts we finally got a BFP result.

Unfortunately on my 7 week ultrasound the doctor told me that there is no heartbeat:crying: and that I will mostly likely miscarry natually. I have to go back to him next week for another scan and if I haven't miscarried by then, maybe I can get a D&C.

I have heard some conflicting stories and don't know what to do. One of my friends told me to request a D&C to clean my whole system out but the doctor seems to think naturally is better.

I have also heard that after a D&C it can be easier to fall again soon.

I also don't know whether to request a D&C even if I miscarry naturally to make sure everything is out and I don't get an infection.

What do you guys think?

Desperately needing advice:gloomy:

[MilkOnTap]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss... Its so difficult to have to make decisions like this when all you want to do is grieve for your lost bub... :hugs:

I've never had to have a D&C (mine have both been ectopic) so I have never personally had to make this decision. Just like your girlfriend, I have heard that a full D&C is probably healthier and reduces the risk of infection.

I just want to share something with you... I'm a Christian - and one of my Christian girlfriends was told she had miscarried. She didn't want a D&C, and just let her body naturally miscarry - well, what she THOUGHT was a miscarriage... A few weeks later she went in for her check up and it turned out she was still pregnant! She then went on to have a healthy baby :yes:

[cheezelkat]

:hugs: Sorry for your loss. zi hope you have luck in the future.

[Lizzie0808]

When I had my m/c the dr told me that early on in pregnancy the risk of infection from a natural miscarriage is minimal - it's only when the baby has really started to grow that there is a risk of tissue etc being retained and causing infection.

If you are only 7 weeks the risk would be fairly low. But it is up to you as to whether you are willing to wait for nature to take her course (if in fact your next ultrasound does not reveal a heartbeat) or have a D&C.

Sorry for your loss - make sure you take care of yourself.

[Kayte]

Hello

so sorry to hear about that i know how horrible those words are !! :( When i miscarried i didnt have a d&c it was all natural ! Now nearly 5 months later im pregnant again ! :yes: So i guess the decision is up to you !!!

Biggest hugs :hugs: - Kayte

[Shakey]

:hugs: marble, i'm sorry to hear about your loss, I had a missed misscarrage a few years ago, went for a scan at 9wks and there was no heart beat, bubs had died at 7wks, cause it had already been 2wks since the baby died I couldn't stand waiting for somthing to happen so I opted for a D&C, it was a quick procedure, i don't regret having it done,

some say that it can take longer to get preg after having one, others say that you ca get preg straight away after having one, its entirly(sp) up to you, there isn't much of a risk to infection as the other ladies have said if you decide for nature to take its course,

[Tristans_Mum]

Hey sorry to hear :hugs:
I found out last week that i had a M/C :crying:. Ive had a total of 3 now.
The first two the pregnany was over 6 weeks so there for the hospital recommened a D & C but this one was b4 the 6 weeks so i dont have to have one. I suggest if you were over 6 weeks then it couldnt hurt to have one, but if there is nothing showing on the ultrasound next week then maybe you wont have to.
Good Luck with everything :hugs:

[zafyrezmummy]

I'm so sorry for your loss!
This is for you::hugs: :hugs:

I had a m/c at 14 weeks with our first. because it was an "incomplete m/c" i had to have a d&c, i did not have the choice.
i have heard that it is better to not have a d&c if you dont have to.
aftre mine, i was in so much pain i couldnt move for a few days, but this mite also be because of the long drawn out m/c, and not just the d&c.
(i had started bleeding at 8 weeks but bubba survived until 14 weeks)

it took us 4 months after our m/c and d&c to get pregnant again.

I'm sorry i dont have any real advice, just do what you feel is right, at the end of the day it is your decision.

Good luck with everything, if you ever need to talk, youre more than welcome to pm me, i know what a hard time this can be.

:hugs:
~dimarie

[marble]

Thanks heaps guys for all your advice and support. :hugs:

I know everyone has different circumstances and I was slightly swaying towards opting for a D&C but I think now (considering it is still early on in the pregnancy) I may go with natural.

My DH is telling me to call the Dr to talk to him about it, because when he told us the bad news we were in so much shock we didn't ask any questions. So I might try that too..

[Adria]

Sorry i just had to throw my 2 cents in.
Firstly im so sorry, it's such a hard and nasty place to be in.
I m/c in july and opted for a d & c. I wanted it to be all over and done with so i could move on...BUT 3-4 weeks later i wished i had let it passed naturally cause i was worried, that maybe the baby was there and just hiding( i m/ced at 7.5 weeks, and u/s found no baby in there) thankfully the report from d &c found no embroynic bits.
In terms of procedure, a piece of cake mine went smoothly, no major pain afterwards. I was told there is the same amount of risk of infection with a d & c as there is with letting it pass naturally.
If i was to have my time again, i think i would opt to do it naturally( not that i regret a d &c) but emotionally and the thoughts that ran through my head later.
I fell pregnant both times first cycle of trying. I'm now up to my second cycle of trying after d &c.
BTW You can say no to the d&c and wait a week, have another scan and see what is left and than make another dicision later.
Good luck.... i know it's not an easy road!

[LittleBoysRock]

I just want to share something with you... I'm a Christian - and one of my Christian girlfriends was told she had miscarried. She didn't want a D&C, and just let her body naturally miscarry - well, what she THOUGHT was a miscarriage... A few weeks later she went in for her check up and it turned out she was still pregnant! She then went on to have a healthy baby :yes:

:hugs: I am so sorry to hear about your loss!


I have heard of the above happening too. I will keep everything crossed that the Dr is wrong!

[jacks mum]

I'm also just putting my 2 cents in. I had a m/c is July, I went for my 12 week scan and no heartbeat. The dr told me to pass it naturally so i agreed well the pain I had, 4 hours of full on contractions I was over it. Ended up going to hospital for a D&C which was great, no pain. 1 cycle later we're pregnant again.

Each to their own.

Very sorry to hear of your loss though.

[Milis]

Hi Marble,

I'm really sorry for your loss :hugs: .

It is such a difficult time, I had a missed m/c - the bub had died at 7.5 weeks, but we didn't find out until 10.5 weeks.

I was also given the choice and decided to miscarry naturally as a d&c seemed really invasive to me and I don't like hospitals. My dr advised me that I would probably feel 'quite ill' when I passed it, and would have a lot of cramping pain. I ended up having to be rushed to hospital in an ambulance and being put on a drip for 3 hours to rehydrate me as I lost so much blood. The whole experience was really traumatic for both me and my DH and I've been advised not to TTC again until my iron levels are back up (6-8 weeks from the mc), whereas if I had had a D&C, I think I could have started again in the next cycle.

I would suggest talking to your doctor about the different risks - what happened to me is I think quite unusual, but I just wanted you to be aware that this can sometimes happen.

Good luck with your decision, my thoughts are with you and your family in this tough time.

[Percy]

I had a d&C, in regards to falling pregnant soon after, i was pregnant one month after the miscarriage. I would also think that it does reduce the risk of infection.

That is just my experience though. Good luck with the decision, and best wishes for a safe and healthy future pregnancy:hugs: