It's hard to be an addict.. It's REALLY hard not to be..

[RoarsomeMum]

It is HARD WORK to stay sober.. HARD FREAKING WORK........... I am bone tired of he reminders that "Moderation is O.K", "Alcohol is not REALLY a drug", "One or two won't hurt", "EVERYBODY drinks.. It's O.K", "Alcoholics are not people like you".. :confused::confused::confused::confused:

I CAN'T DRINK!!!!!!!!!! I can't I can't I CAN'T (and Kudos to those who can, to those who's brain chemistry is somewhat superior to mine)

ONE drink led to 12 years without missing a drink.. I can't risk it.. I CANT do this to me or my daughter or partner.. yet.. I want to.. So freaking bad..

I loathe you addiction and I am fighting my A** off to keep you at bay.. when the hell does this END!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Myztiks#1Fan]

Massive hugs hun. I know you can stay strong and get over the hill today, tomorrow and the future

Sent from my GT-I9000T

[*babygirl*]

:( I am one of the 'lucky' ones who can stop but dp unfortunately is much like yourself, though he isn't quite there yet. There is no FUN in drinking anymore. It is such a terrible thing to live with when we are surrounded by the 'it's ok everyone does it' and that every occasion calls for people to 'have a few'

I have no wise words of wisdom but I am sending you the strength to get through today. Tomorrow will bring another challenge but if you can be strong today then you will find a way to be tomorrow.

[iMischa]

Hugs hugs hugs stay strong wonderful lady.

[lulu 2]

I found one of the most important jobs to do when overcoming an addiction is to filter out of your life the people who have been part of the addiction. If your friends cannot support your choice then its time to move on from them and find people who share the same views and support your choice to be sober.
Its so easy for others to say one drink is ok but little do they know one drink for me would start at 10am or earlier and then there would be one for lunch and one for afternoon tea and then several for dinner. Its easy to say one drink is ok when you only want one drink.
You could always ask them if they would say the same to a recovering gambler , "oh its alright, one bet will be ok" suuurrre!

[RoarsomeMum]

I wish, I wish I wish.. I filtered out EVERYONE (which led to no-one but us, which fostered the pattern more than broke it)

I KNOW I can't cave.. Yet am counting money and weighing up failures.. :(

I just thought that one day this would go away.. that days like this would not happen anymore.. I am not prepared and I am struggling..

Addiction, if only it was as simple as gazing into those innocent eyes and just stopping.. and I WANTED IT TO BE and I think perhaps I convinced myself it would be..

Out of phone credit, scared to go out because I don't want to buy alcohol.. Just stuck..

[decambla]

Everytime I think about having a drink I look at a photo of my DH and kids. It reminds me what I could loose if I went back to my habits of 10 years ago. I too cannot just have one drink.

If you think if you go out you will buy alcohol, best not to go out. Do you have a supportive friend or relative that could sit with you for awhile?

[BabelFish]

I can't remember where you live. Are you anywhere near me? Can I help? Can we visit? To take your mind off it a bit? :hugs:

[FiveInTheBed]

Hey :hugs:.

I'm hearing you.


...take care of you xx

[zombiekitty]

Roarsome, you are a person that I really respect and look up to for very many reasons and the fact that you can admit it's hard for you right now is one of them.
I want you to know that I admire your intellect, your will, empathy and courage. Your daughter is so lucky to have such a caring and loving mother.
Please, just remember, that while it is hard now, having a drink will make it harder. It would be nice if just looking at your daughter were enough and I know it's not but try and remember, she needs you, she depends on you, she loves you.
I just wanted you to know that I care about you, as does your other half and daughter. They want you to be healthy and happy.
Just remember you are loved.

[freja]

the fact you acknowledge that makes you already half way there.
my advice is to keep a diary and keep track of why you are wanting
a drink at any given time.
you don't need to give up your friends who are drinking but in the early stages
meet up with them when they wouldn't normally be drinking.
if you can't stop after one drink then that is just the way your brain is wired and you
are probably self medicating.
find something that will relax you like exercise or a hobby which is relaxing, not always
easy with babies but easier than you think when you think about the hassle and trouble you can go to before , during and after a drinkfest!

if you succeed in giving up alcohol you will probably attract a new set of friends
because you are giving out a different vibe but that doesn't mean you are turning
into some straight freak but that you are looking after yourself out of necessity.
as long as you don't judge others for their habits to cope you will be fine.
don't let anyone else judge you back either!

Even if you have not given up drinking or cannot stop thinking about it you are
trying and that is the most important thing and deserve a big hug from yourself for that alone!

Thinking about drinking doesn't ever go away because it is all around us but it gets easier
to forget about it more and more as you face your fears and stick to your convictions.

Remember life is too short to only think about the negatives, think about all the
wonderful things you do and what you are trying to do and one day you will wake
up having finally achieved that sense of peace you were after.

Take Care,

freja00xx

[RoarsomeMum]

I DID manage to stay sober with my ability to speak out and YOUR ability to embrace me with open, nonjudgmental and loving arms.. I clung to every post like a life-raft. I thank ALL of you who had the time to respond. It mattered.. More than I can say.

Tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow.. :hugs::hugs:

[Gandalf]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

Massive hugs.
I can't even imagine how much of a struggle it must be for you.
I'm able to stop at one-but if I go for number two then I can't stop anymore :( I stopped drinking completely because I was worried it would become something I just did/couldn't live without.

I wish I lived closer to you :(
Because you need friends (but it's sooo Blardy hard to find sober ones in our alcoholic society :()
:hugs::hugs::hugs:

[iMischa]

i wish we lived closer too, i dont drink ever! and dear roar and my boo could learn to be sociable together.

reaching out is so important and u did that, thats a HUGE BIG achievement. we are all here for you and care about you xoxoxo

[Mrs Awesome]

Sending you some massive :hugs::hugs::hugs: Stay strong and keep coming back here for support when you need it.

I see you live in Vic...where abouts are you?

[the girls mum]

:hugs::hugs: I pm'd you xxx

[Bubbles10]

I DID manage to stay sober with my ability to speak out and YOUR ability to embrace me with open, nonjudgmental and loving arms..

Awesome! Another day healthier. You go girl :smiliedance:

[Pinkzy]

Just wanted to send some hugs :hugs::hugs: You rock, Roarsome.

[zombiekitty]

you are fantastic!