4intheBed
06-03-2011, 14:46
I am not one to normally ask, I usually use a different name but as family are aware of it I am using a new one. I really need some advice.
We co-sleep with our daughter who is 2 in a couple of weeks, so far its not been at problem at all. She sleeps through the night now, she breastfeeds to fall asleep, but over the last couple of months she has had trouble falling asleep, it may be that my milk has reduced as I am 6 months pregnant (another reason I need this sorted soon). I am not trying to get her into her own bed, I am simply wanting her to be able to fall asleep without all of the stress she goes through.
On average, it takes around 2-3 hours to get her to fall asleep, and this is after bath, book reading etc. I go through her being very relaxed, nearly asleep, then tosses and turns waking herself up then we start all over again, after about an hour she is in tears, pulling her hair in frustration... and when it reaches the 3 hours I sometimes loose my temper, stupid but I am falling apart by that point... especially if it is night time and I have already done it once that day. Sometimes I am spending 5 hours in the bedroom in a day just puttng her to sleep. My husband has never put her to sleep, so I am very much alone in this... I have her 24 hrs a day, no family or friends within 10 hours.
I dont know what to do... she has a pretty standard bedtime routine, alot of attention all day, eat well, gets lots of exercise, about 5 months ago she was still waking 3 times a night for feeds but she just stopped that herself. I do feel that she is trying to fall asleep without milk as she rolls off, but I cant go through this everynight... I am honestly falling apart.
Everything I read says bedtime routine... well she has one... If I speak to friends or family they say put her in her own bed... well that doesnt seem to the problem, and not something I am going to do, please dont suggest it. Can you think of anything that may help me? Even if it is just some confidence to do tonight.... lunch time nap just took 2 hours....
We co-sleep with our daughter who is 2 in a couple of weeks, so far its not been at problem at all. She sleeps through the night now, she breastfeeds to fall asleep, but over the last couple of months she has had trouble falling asleep, it may be that my milk has reduced as I am 6 months pregnant (another reason I need this sorted soon). I am not trying to get her into her own bed, I am simply wanting her to be able to fall asleep without all of the stress she goes through.
On average, it takes around 2-3 hours to get her to fall asleep, and this is after bath, book reading etc. I go through her being very relaxed, nearly asleep, then tosses and turns waking herself up then we start all over again, after about an hour she is in tears, pulling her hair in frustration... and when it reaches the 3 hours I sometimes loose my temper, stupid but I am falling apart by that point... especially if it is night time and I have already done it once that day. Sometimes I am spending 5 hours in the bedroom in a day just puttng her to sleep. My husband has never put her to sleep, so I am very much alone in this... I have her 24 hrs a day, no family or friends within 10 hours.
I dont know what to do... she has a pretty standard bedtime routine, alot of attention all day, eat well, gets lots of exercise, about 5 months ago she was still waking 3 times a night for feeds but she just stopped that herself. I do feel that she is trying to fall asleep without milk as she rolls off, but I cant go through this everynight... I am honestly falling apart.
Everything I read says bedtime routine... well she has one... If I speak to friends or family they say put her in her own bed... well that doesnt seem to the problem, and not something I am going to do, please dont suggest it. Can you think of anything that may help me? Even if it is just some confidence to do tonight.... lunch time nap just took 2 hours....