Oh dear, just got back from holiday in U.K!

[Georgie47]

Hello everyone,

Oh how your priorities change once you've had children!!! Just got back from 5 weeks in uk- holiday with DH and 2yr old son Max. Oh dear, so hard settling back this time, everyone cried when we left and held onto Max for as long as they could before letting go as they know we wont be back for sometime. It rained nearly every day in August but I was just happy to be with my family. Help and support is such a luxury:hugs: and now I'm left asking myself why? Why not just go back:confused: I think deep down I know that once the kids are older I will choose to be here again, you know, when your life becomes yours once more:yes: (Also being 29 weeks pregnant doesnt help!)

Thanks for the rant, feeling lonely and bored, it helps to write it down.

[rubyredlips]

Oooww Georgie, that sounds so hard. I havent taken my Ruby back yet but hope to do so next year (she'll be 18 months ish), I can picture family clinging on for hugs at the airport.

Put it down to raging hormones honey, rest, relax and remember the happy family back home. Its REALLY not that far.......

PS) I am gagging to get back but I'm sure that this is a better place for the little ones to grow up . All we can do is our best :thumbsup:

[LA62]

Awww big hugs:hugs:

Yes i know how you feel

I have been here 2 years and im soooo homesick at the moment:confused:

our 2 were 2years and 5 when when we moved and it nearly killed my parents, they are the only grandchildren, and very much loved and missed.

I live with the guilt everyday...but im getting there slowly

im going back in aug 07 and im dreading it because if i still feel like this im not sure id come back to oz

oh its all so hard:( , hope you ok and im sure you'll settle down.

aside from me i have to put the children 1st and Dh agrees with me that australia is a far better place to bring up children:yes:

[mamachops]

I just got back on Monday having taken my 6mo to meet her grandparents for the first time. I TOTALLY know how you feel.

Just wanted to say :hugs: . You muddle along without all that support without a thought, and then you realise how nice it can be when you do get it, and then it's harder still knowing what you don't have when you get back here. Does that make sense???

We left London of 28degrees (in Spetmeber!!!) and landed here in Brisbane on a cold, grey raining day.'twas not what we needed.

Chin up!:)

[filmgirlgail]

Oh dear I know how you feel!! :hugs: Like the others we've agreed that this is the better place for the children to grow up but it doesn't make it easier. Especially now I've just had my son almost 3 weeks ago - I miss my Mum and sister and I want to show him off to everyone - photos just aren't the same. I always find the first month or so back from the UK is the hardest, then it does get easier. PM me if you want to chat :hugs:

[Incy Wincy]

Hello All!

Several people have said they think Australia is a better place to bring up children. I'm interested to know why you think Australia is a better place to raise children specifically.

Incy :)

[Georgie47]

:wave: Thankyou sooooo much girls for all your hugs, it really does help to have this little space to vent and then get feedback of complete understanding. I really needed it this week! I'm feeling great this weekend, had friends visit, a good laugh is the best tonic when your feeling a little sorry for yourself:yelclap:

It was also really nice to hear you agree this is a great place for our kids, in answer to your question Incy, (and I only speak for myself here) I get great pleasure in seeing my bab run around with next to nothing on in a house and garden we could only dream of in England, the weather gives us so much freedom to plan great days out. Plus, when Max is making decisions about his future, he has so much more choice as its not over crowded here in Brisbane, maybe living in Dover and watching how it changed in the last 10 years with a really bad migration problem causing vandalism, violence, unemployment, diversion of govenment funds from family activities to prop up the social system of other countries:no: and sooo many other reasons has shattered the childhood memories of my home town. Sorry, I wont go on (but I could;) ) England to me has changed a great deal and although I miss my family terribly (and other things like Next and Tescos!) I still want to wait until I'm settled back in before making any serious decisions!!

Oh, and congrats on the new bub Gail, how is it with two? (I've got 9 weeks to go!)

[filmgirlgail]

Hi Georgie

All OK here. Unfortunately we couldn't get the hang of breast feeding as Alex either falls asleep, doesn't latch on or latches on then sits there waiting for the milk! So I'm expressing 3 times a day and he's on formula as well. It's the same that happened with Jessica and she's perfectly healthy so I have no qualms about his health.

My MIL is staying with us during the week at the moment and takes care of everything from laundry to cuppas all day long. Don't konw what I"m going to do when she goes :no: We might have a couple of TV heavy days :D I'm actually trying to write up what needs to be done every day so I can pin it up and try to stick with it. Luckily we just employed a cleaner a few weeks ago so at least that is one less thing to worry about.

[Georgie47]

Hey Gail!

Aaarrgghhh bless, its good to hear you're relaxed and realistic over the breastfeeding issue, too often do you hear of mums beating themselves into the ground because they've been told they should. Like you say, his health is most important:thumbsup: I love Alex for a name, it has been on our short list along with James and Harry but I think we're going with James as it has sentimental meaning.

:smiliedance: Congrats on the support too! wow, she sounds like a lovely MIL!! (the cleaner too:thumbsup: ) We enrolled Max yesterday into daycare for one day a week, not just for me to have a day to get stuff done but for him to learn to be with other kids without me around. Still hate the thought of Friday, I'll probably be worse than him when I leave him there:laughing:

[filmgirlgail]

Hi Georgie

Well I did get a little emotional but at the end of the day it's his health and my sanity which are important, so once I made the decision, life became easier for both of us. We actually called him Alexander James! My nephew is Jamey so James wasn't really a first name choice - however, saying that my BIL is Alick so there'll probably be a bit of confusion there.

I remember when I enrolled Jess into daycare at 18 months - I raced out the door the first day to get her and they said that once she'd had her nap, you wouldn't know it was her first day. She loves it now and goes twice a week. Plus she gets to do the things there that I haven't dared do at home involving paint (new house, new carpet - just can't bring myself to it yet!) Good luck on Friday. How old is Max?

[Georgie47]

Hey Gail!

Thanks for the reassurance, everyone seems so possitive about daycare, mainly for the reasons you gave, (dont blame you on the painting, I dont even let Max eat in the lounge!!:mad: Poor little bugger!) I have to go to see the midwife that morning which is probably a blessing in disguise or I might stay all day!!!:eek:

Max is 2yrs 3 months, I'm sure he'll be fine, I've been told he understands I'll be coming back when I leave him now which is good to know! Our dates are pretty similar actually, I was born in 73', Max was born in 04' and James will be 06'.