When will it end??????

[Bambibambino]

My LO is nearly 18 months and has never been a good sleeper. I feed him to sleep and he goes down in his cot but will wake up after a few hours and end up in my bed where he feeds on and off alllllll night. Or so it feels. Dh is unable to settle him back to sleep ever.

I am nearly 18 weeks pregnant and while I am anti CC I am starting to panic about having a newborn as well as a non-sleeping 23 month old. Is there any chance he will improve on his own in the next few months? Or do I have to stage an intervention?

Problem being I am so exhausted from 18 months of broken sleep I can barely muster the energy to change anything right now IYKWIM?

Anyone have any encouraging stories to share? I keep hoping he will just sort it out on his own as he gets a older :rolleyes:

[minties]

:hugs: i know how hard it is to have a non sleeper. My DD is a bit younger than yours and she seems to be improving on her own but it is definitely 2 steps forward 1 step back. I really do believe that they will do it on their own when given the time, but having said that, i'd be freaking out too if i had another on the way. dr jay gordon has some really good ideas on his website for night weaning for bubs over the age of one. His techniques are extremely gentle (no crying) and gradual and allow for bub to stay in your bed if you wish. I'm not much for following things like that but reading it gave me some good ideas for when it is time to night wean my LO. Might be worth a shot?

[Bambibambino]

Thanks minties, that looks like exactly what I have been searching for! I love his philosophy on everything I read. We are going away next week so I am going to psych myself up to start once we are home again :fingerscrossed: it's not too painful.

Thanks for your reply :goodvibes:

[MamaBleech]

Bambi, my little one is the same age as yours and is exactly the same... I just keep promising myself that it can't last forever and one day she will be a teenager who we won't be able to get out of bed.

No way in hell am I ready to put her through the stress of night weaning or CC so really I just grit my teeth and bear it as much as possible. But it is truly hellish some nights.

There are some more gentle authors though that might be worth a look at if you are feeling on the brink.

Dr Sears
Elizabeth Pantley
Pinky McKay
check out the sleep section on kellymom too.

:hugs:

[MsMummy]

I night weaned my 2yo by putting him in the bed with my partner and my partner patted, carried him around, gave him a bottle etc. It was a few broken nights of sleep, but I couldn't keep waking up. No crying.

[MsMummy]

You need to sleep in another room for that time because as soon as the see boobs it's all over. :D

[wildflowers]

I really feel for you. DS is 18mo and wakes up a lot. We felt like we were getting somewhere for a while but now we're back at a few three hour stretches or less and between about 2 and 5 it's every half hour or so. I'm exhausted. We've tried it all (no cry), been consistent and persistent as hell but nothing. He puts himself to sleep and can be settled by DH (not me) in the cot 80% of the time. We night weened him 4 or 5 months ago thinking we'd give that a go and can it if he was stressed about it but he wasn't worried about it, but giving up the night feeds has made no difference apart from the fact that now DH can settle him in the cot, from me he needs a cuddle.

:hugs: Hugs, that's all I can offer, I'm sorry I have no better words of wisdom.