I get so scared everytime DH goes away

[TheSudgestionator]

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[Lemonhead]

A friend of ours was in the same position after she woke up to two people robbing her house while she slept on the couch. She spent $10k on a highly trained rottweiler who sleeps inside with her. She got him from HERE. (http://www.guarddogtraining.com.au/)

Something to think about maybe?

[strawberrycreams]

:hugs:'s!!!

Can you do some things to improve your security. If you have security screens then lock them, if not can you afford to have them installed?

Put a pair of your DH's work boots at your front door. Makes it look like there is someone home.

Can you get a sign saying your home is secured with an alarm...even if it doesn't! I think you can pick up these signs easily.

Could you get a dog? Our dog is a small dog who wouldn't hurt a fly but when someone comes to the door she barks and barks and her bark makes her sound scarier that she really is! If you have a fence you could put a sign saying "beware of the dog".

Leave the lights & TV on when your out to make it seem as though someone is home.

:hugs:'s!!! Be brave!

[Janesmum123]

A friend of ours was in the same position after she woke up to two people robbing her house while she slept on the couch. She spent $10k on a highly trained rottweiler who sleeps inside with her. She got him from HERE. (http://www.guarddogtraining.com.au/)

Something to think about maybe?

That sounds like a good idea. But was he 10k? just for the dog? did he come trained? what is he like with kids?

[threechooks]

Do you have a dog? get one people who have dogs rarely get broken into.

[Lemonhead]

That sounds like a good idea. But was he 10k? just for the dog? did he come trained? what is he like with kids?

Oh he was 100% fully trained- weapon disarming training, muzzle attack, man stopper, bait trained, protection, attack etc etc...not a dog I would personally have around children but there is others on the site that are trained around kids and families for around $2k. you actually go there for 2 weeks or so and train with them so they learn that you are the dominant one.

He is a beautiful dog though and you know what she sleeps so soundly at night.

[Bell & Bug]

I sleep with dfs mag light near me, doubles as a baton :)

I know what you mean, I feel the same when df does night shifts.

[TheSudgestionator]

I sleep with DH's cricket bat under the bed but a mag light sounds better (blinding light to the eyes is enought to stop anyone in their tracks)

Sausagefest- GREAT WEBSITE. Now all i have to do is convince DH to spend a few thousand on a dog to protect us ;) They have SO many options! I can even get a dog of my choosing and have them train him/her. Bit worried about having a guard dog around DD though :confused: attack dogs look good but i wouldnt want it attacking EVERYONE that came into my yard so will have to think a bit more about that but EXCELLENT sudgestion!

I should say that the nextdoor neighbours have a dog who barks ALL THE TIME. well.. not all the time but still barks at me (even though we have lived her for 3 years+) so im fairly sure id know if someone was braking in out the back, its just down the side of the house and the front that concerns me.

I want security screens on all the windows and doors. I want an alarm system. I want my house to look like fort knocks so no one even thinks of attempting to do ANYTHING to it. (P.S i know i sound crazy)

[rynosmum]

I say no to a $10K Rottweiler but yes to a standard Rotty. We have had two now. The first made it to 10 years old before he had to put down due to advanced cancer. Our current one is almost 3 years old.

I have been broken into twice and had two home invasions. All of these happened when I didn't have a dog. Never (touch wood) have we had an issue when we've had one of the dogs here.Our Rottys have been family dogs. Both boys and both wonderful with the kids and extremely loving and gentle. Neither one ever showed aggression to any of us.

Both have been alert and fantastic guard dogs. Quite simply, no one comes in the yard when a Rotty is barking at them. We dont get door to door salesmen either even though our neighbours do.

You don't need a dog trained to attack. You just need a dog. The police told us that homes with dogs rarely get broken into. The noise a dog makes attract too much attention. It's easier to hit on a house without one. Better to get one that loves you and your family as well. The last thing you need is to have an animal that you can't trust with your family.

[bundmum]

how about learning self defense

[Lemonhead]

I honestly would only get one of those dogs. You can also get family dogs from them who are not trained in attack but are well trained to alert you. I have been attacked by a rotty before, not one of ours, who were fully trained attack dogs, but from a friends untrained dog. That place is reknown for churning out excellent, well behaved animals and they have NEVER had a mishap EVER. Also lionheart, the dogs are not trained to immediately attack unless the intruder is wielding a weapon. Otherwise they simply pin them to the ground and wait for authority to arrive.

We will be getting one of their shepherds.

[krystallxx]

Yep get a big scary dog crazy dog that will attack when need be and a baseball bat :)

[4OnEarth1InHeaven]

I vote for a dog here too! I don't usually get scared but i have done once and i bought our staffy inside to sleep by my bed knowing she wakes to any unusual sound and will protect me!

[pennylane]

I'm the same :( hubbys in the adf and works night shifts every month and goes away on deployments. we had 5 men attempt entry through our 3 yr olds window the week before Xmas.sadly enough it was our neighbour and his friends :( and this was the 5th time they've tried to get in.they didn't realize we had bought a dog as they had been living elsewhere and then moved back to their property.

He scared them off-bigtime.they tried to brick him and even that didn't stop him defending his girls (he adores our daughters)

I now have an alarm system,a panic button and 2 high decibel personal alarms and sleep with an axe and a shovel under the bed.we have security screens and dead locks on all our doors and when this babies born I will be learning how to box.

I can't wait to move from here.

[GirlsRock]

I know exactly what you mean. I am the same. I know its stupid and irrational but I just cant help it. I usually sleep (well doze anyway) with the light on outside my bedroom and have both the home phone and mobile right beside the bed. When I was working (prior to having kids) DH had to go away a couple of nights a week for his work and I wouldnt even shower at home the next morning (too scared), I'd take my stuff to work and shower at work!

We moved house over the weekend and we now have a guest bedroom so if DH has to go away for work I'm going to get my Mum to come and stay.

Cant help you, just wanted to let you know that I understand what you are going through.

xx

[Hollywood]

You don't need a dog trained to attack. You just need a dog. The police told us that homes with dogs rarely get broken into. The noise a dog makes attract too much attention. It's easier to hit on a house without one. Better to get one that loves you and your family as well. The last thing you need is to have an animal that you can't trust with your family.

:iagree: I'd be worried about an attack dog eating my kids. No thanks. But I'd say yes to a family dog.

I'm at home alone most Fridays and Saturdays when my dad and his partner are at the farm, and I am a bit edgy on those nights, stirring with every little creak and noise. We have 2 dogs here (though they are often at the farm while dad and his partner are there :rolleyes:), but we do have a "Beware of the Dog" sign on the side fence down the driveway, and I think that would act as a deterrent (I'm counting on it!).

[Pippy&Woof]

I get scared when DH goes away too, for weeks at a time and I can't even contact him by phone because he's usually in the middle of the ocean or something! It Is really scary, and I never get any sleep because I end up staying up so late with the TV on. It's too noticeably quiet otherwise! And I always worry which child's room I'd run to first! The toddler or the baby?!!! Arrrgh and could I possibly grab both and somehow manage to escape?!!!

I'd love to get a dog, but I'm already so busy looking after the kids on my own I'm not sure it'd be worth losing my sanity over. But I'm starting to get worried again as DH might be going away again in a couple of weeks. I will probably end up sitting on Bubhub all night freaking out about trees blowing in the wind!

Oh and our elderly neighbours disturbed some guy breaking into their car a couple of months back too! Arrgh!

[Lemonhead]

You have more chance of a 'family dog' turning on you/your child than a trained attack dog. You know our vet told us once she has seen more bites from your loving labrador towards kids than she has rotties.

[wannaBamumma]

I feel for you! My hubby is on a 3 weeks stint on the other side if the country and I've only spent 4 if the 13 days he's been away so far, at home! Hehe
I have family close by and am very lucky to be able to stay with them but I do feel a bit silly not being able to stay in my own home! I am pestering dh to get a dog though! I think I would feel much safer if we had one with big teeth! Our house us on a main road which is quite busy so I do feel safer knowing there are ways people driving past! Also I have dh's car in the driveway so it looks like there are more people home!
You poor thing... It's such a horrible feeling!

[bluejuice]

My husband has been FIFO for a year now, but on a 4&1 roster. We had experienced attempted break ins before he stated so once he left I felt exactly the same. We also cannot afford to move but this is whatwe did... A. Have my two beautiful babies ( Maltese poodles) that make a lot of noise when someone approaches. B. Have put up real dome shaped security cameras that we picked up second hand but have not actuallly had them wired in. C. Told the
Neighbours abOut these cameras. D. Have an alarm installed. One of my Brigitte is extremely dodgy, and the 14 yr old boy had jumped the fence with a friend before and stolen a whole carton of my DH beer from his beer fridge. I knew it was him as their backyard was covered in bottled. Took a chance and confronted them, told them about the camera footage and the fessed up. My hubby warmed them that they and friends if caught on our property again will have to deal with the police. It's worked and haven't had any trouble since. All the dodgy people in the brightening seem to know each other, and I'm convinced that our neighbors were watching our house to communicate when we were out. Give it a go! It's given me confidence to enjoy my own company and feel safe in my own home.

[walterplans]

Get a dog for you or trained yourself for self defense..

[himherandhe]

yep get a dog. we recently got a doberman, as our older dog is 9 and wanted a dog to take her place as she get older. our older dog is the best dog in the world and the younger one is turning into the same. It all comes down to training. I dont believe you ahve to train a dog to be protective as I never trained our older dog to be but she goes off if anyone comes to our side gate. we also called our doby Killer so at least it sounds intimidating. lol

[RoarsomeMum]

Don't spend 10k on a guard dog..

If you invest in a dog time, love and training it will by nature guard it's pack..

we came home more than once to people being held captive in the yard by our dogs.. Jumped over fence to get something and they would not bite but would not let them back out either..

[MummyHas3boys]

I vote Dog too!!!
We have a Rotti, i call him my body guard!!

Seriously he goes into his " work mode " once DH leaves. Our front yard is fenced off so he has the run of the front and back and if anyone so much as walks near our fence, he goes off! At night he sleeps under my bedroom window :) once DH is home, banjo relaxes again!

He is so protective of me and the kids, and I feel so safe. He hasn't been trained to be a guard, he has always been loved and baby'd. But even if he was useless as a guard, no one in their right mind would jump the fence with a huge Rottweiler watching them :laughing:

[MMelissa]

It depends whether you feel your fear is proportionate to the actual risk. It sounds like you're experiencing high levels of anxiety. If that's the case there won't be a dog big enough to make you feel safe. You need to talk to a doctor about it. There's lots that can help.

[MamaNurture]

I would never get a dog as I wouldn't want to put the time/effort/money into them! I am often home alone at night as DP works shifts. I play an audiobook or DVD so that all of those tiny little creaks and groans don't worry me. And I keep my phone by my bed.

[JaneDoe]

You have more chance of a 'family dog' turning on you/your child than a trained attack dog. You know our vet told us once she has seen more bites from your loving labrador towards kids than she has rotties.

It's funny you mention this fact as both a vet and ver nurse have told us the number one dog for biting is labs, followed by dalmations!!

The don't like to 'report' it much in the media etc as labs are guide dogs and don't want to 'tarnish' their image!!!

To the OP get a dog and have it trained well!

Can you also get friendly enough with others in the street to 'look out' for you when DH is away?