M/C now - HELP :(

[shereejoy]

Hi,

I wasn't sure where to post this, but I am currently going through a m/c. We found out at our scan yesterday 9 weeks 5 days that our baby passed away 1 weeks ago, approx 8 weeks 5 days... At 7 weeks 2 days I had a scan and the senographer said I was 7 weeks 1 day and we had a good heartbeat of 130bpm... I am at loss at to what has happened in that time frame but am realistic about it - that it just wasn't meant to be!

I have had two twin m/c's prior to this one and have always had a curette.

Being Friday I can't get into have a curette until Monday and have to travel 3 hours on Sunday to have that done on the MOnday morning.

I am terrified of doing this natural thing as I have never done it before... I felt such at peace with my curettes to date!

The senographer said yesterday that my uterus was very open and she expected that I would m/c overnight and I didn't... I am having extreme lower back pain with groin and aching legs and minor period pain in my tummy at present... Apparently my cervix is opening from the outside and it normally opens from the inside... She explained that this is a good thing is my baby was viable as it will hold the baby in... but as my dr explained this morning (when I rang him), because I have had a cone biopsy my cervix it is going to do this as it is weak, but I should still m/c naturally.

I am at fear of seeing the baby come out and going through this pain and the waiting is doing my head in!

Can anyone give any comforting words or advice on what I should expect if things happen before Sunday/Monday. I am really secretly hoping this m/c can wait until I have a curette - due to my fears and state of mind!

Thanking you all in advance xo

p.s: I also posted in the support group, but not sure if it is current or not!

[MothersMilk]

I'm so sorry for your loss :hugs::hugs:
I have had few natural m/c's and mine were quite painful, like really bad period pain/lower back pain but thankfully that was only for the first day or two. The bleeding was similar to a very heavy period but with clots. Honestly at that stage in pregnancy the baby is very tiny - you won't see much, it will be blood, clots and maybe some stuff that looks like tissue - not a noticeable baby iykwim?
I have passed a very, very tiny noticeable fetus (but i was looking - i could have likely missed it otherwise) during a m/c at 3 months but my ones at the 6-7 week mark i did not.
It is upsetting but also i found it kinda comforting in a bizarre way - i used the time to grief and let all my tears out etc whereas with my D&C i was a bit more numb and it actually took me longer to get over as i held my feelings in more.
I hope i haven't been too graphic - i just wanted to be straight with you about what you could expect.
Again i am so very sorry and if you have any questions etc i am happy to chat :hugs::hugs::hugs:

[apple green]

Hi sheree,

SO SORRY FOR YOU! x

I have had 2 natural m/c's in the past year. Don't be scared, it's not too bad. But with the first one I was very worried about not knowing what would happen.

I had heavy period-like bleeding (with clots) and very strong period cramping for about 24 hours. I took some panadine forte and neurofen to manage the pain. I was still able to function normally and walk around etc. I found using a heatpack across my tummy helped relieve cramps.

I did feel something slide out, like a big clot about the size of a 50c coin and fell into the toilet. The water was dark with blood so I couldn't see exactly what it was.

Like MothersMilk said, I too found it quite comforting/peaceful to have passed it.

After that, my bleeding continued for about 1 week (just like regular period bleeding).

I had to have an anti-d injection as I have a negative blood type (not sure if this is relevant to you or not).

I hope this helps. Please ask any questions (you're welcome to PM me also). Questions can be as graphic as you like! I remember wanting to know all the details but had no one I could ask.

x

[Ulysses]

sheree i have had two natural/full miscarriages.

The first one was at 5 weeks & was just like a period.

The second one was at 6.5 weeks & that was quite painful but more like a very painful period & the painful part didnt last very long - maybe an hour. It was like a very heavy period & i did pass clots, to be honest i couldn't tell if it was fetal material but it certainly didn't look much different to a big clot i.e a few cm,s by a few cm,s. At 8 weeks the fetus is still very small, it will most likely look like a clot.

I did feel some nausea when the pain started to get more sever. I would compare it to a bad period. I went straight to the hospital & my ob met me there she helped clear some of the material out to get things moving faster & the pain was almost gone within the hour of it beginning. It wasnt excruciating pain, just severe period pain.

I wish there was some way they could do something tonight for you - it must be a really scary feeling waiting for a miscarriage.

If it does happen just know that it is bearable, especially if you are prepared. You can take some panadol forte or napragesic to reduce the pain as well. And i know the thought of seeing the baby is totally scary & unbearable but luckily it probably wont really resemble anything more than a clot, mine didnt.

I just hate the thought of you waiting until monday to get through this.

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

[BubbleGuppy]

Oh Sheree I am so very sorry hun :( big hugs miscarriage is one of the most horrible things in life to go through :( and to have gone through it a few times now thats just not fair!

I lost my first baby in a similar way. Went for a scan at 7w3d, bubs had passed at 6w3d. I didn't pass it by nearly 9 weeks so I had to have a D&C to remove it. I never had any pain or any sign of a miscarriage at any stage.

For the 2nd one I lost it at 6weeks naturally. It is like having what I imagine contractions to be. The pain was horrible. :( There was so much blood and the clots were bigger than my hand and felt horrible coming out.

I found the D&C a better experience. If it happened again I would opt for a D&C over a natural miscarriage any day. I don't mean to scare you but there is nothing nice about a miscarriage :(

We are here though. again I am so sorry.

[shereejoy]

Thank you lovely ladies... they expected me to m/c two nights ago as my cervix was really open... and I am still waiting... is this normal? Starting to wonder if they got it wrong, maybe I had a twin?? Probably just wishful thinking...

Sick of waiting... such torture!

If I haven't gone natural by Sunday arve, I will travel to Mackay 3ish hours away as I have a curette booked for Monday morning...

[shereejoy]

the discharge seems to have completly settled atm too... very weird!

[Grinnyswife]

So sorry for your loss :(
I have had 2 miscarriages. One happened spontaneously, the other was missed like yours & the waiting was awful.
They were quite different. My first had lots of clots and blood.
My missed, I had spotting over about a week which turned slightly heavier like a period. I then started having awful contraction pain, this wasn't fun psychologically so I took two panadiene which took the pain away completely.
I was sitting in front if the fire with my husband & felt something come out. I checked & it was the sac, with a tiny embryo inside (it was 6 weeks 5 days) we were amazed! A clear little bag with a teeny tiny little embryo, I found this very healing to be honest and so did my husband i think. I then passed the placenta, about the size of a plum. And that was it. No heavy bleeding or clots, it tapered off to mild spotting over the next few days.but nothing awful, Just my tiny little angel & the placenta. I was very happy to have experienced it this way. In my home environment with my husband.

[shereejoy]

Off roadtripping this afternoon - 3 hours, to have my curette in the morning... I am hoping my body holds out until then... discharge seems to be getting heavier, I have a real heavy sensation in my lower abdomen...

I just feel that everytime I have had a curette I have had a successful pregnancy after it

Ie:
m/c and currette
first born son
m/c and currette
2nd born son
m/c

[Lil X-men]

Thinking of you today hunny, I hope the curette goes well and you recover quickly.
HUGE hugs and am very sure we'll see you back in the pregnancy threads with a full term pregnancy soon.:babydust1:
I admire your positive attitude:goodvibes:, I hope you are allowing yourself to grieve too though.:hugs::hugs:
All the best hunxxx
:babydust1::goodvibes:

[joeyanna]

Shereejoy - just wanted to say that I truly feel for you, can imagine you sitting in the hospital waiting for tomorrows curette, perhaps having this curette will help you to fall pregnant again with baby no 3, fingers crossed for you.

Sendng you lots of positive thoughts and hope you feel better soon, it sure does hurt like hell miscarrying, it is so unfair, but you are not alone, we are all here for you.

Take care

[2 Cherubs]

So sorry Sheree, Thinking of you xxx

[shereejoy]

Well that just had to of been the worst night of my life....

Call me a wouse... but from the 3hour bumpy ride into town it appeared my body wasn't going to last until the next morning (my schedule currett). I started m/c'ing at 6.30pm last night right after arrving in Mackay and in a motel room with 2 little boys with lots of energy, I was not handling it too well.... the pain was so bad that my DP rang the hospital and they wanted me to come in....

The bleeding (gushes and clots) and cramps were so painful... I wasn't sure what the hospital could do but I was glad my DP talked me into going as the pain relief they gave didn't completly take away the pain but took off the edge and at least I got a little bit of sleep... Initially they gave me some pethadine in the bottom, which was an amazing relief and I got a couple of hours rest as I was still in considerable pain, but felt very dozey.

Then at 3am, I finally passed 4 to 5 golf ball size clots and the featus.... I was still cramping over in pain and then the gave me a hot water bottle and some panaedeine forte and I finally slept from 4am to 6am and woke up with barely any pain...

My gyno came in at 8am and did a quick scan and confirmed that I had almost passed everything but still had alot of soft tissue that was left behind...

I then had a currette at 11.30am and was on the road home (3 hour drive) by 2pm...

I am just so relieved it is now all over..

Thanks for all of your support and well wishes.... I was able to guage what to expect from all of the information give, so thank you all from the bottom of my heart.

Sheree
xo

[MothersMilk]

:hugs::hugs::hugs: It is a horrible thing to go through both physically and emotionally. I am glad this thread could help you gauge what to expect, i remember with my first m/c being so shocked and i wish i had of known what i was in for.
It is definitely a relief when the actual m/c is over and you can focus on healing emotionally.

I hope your next pregnancy is a happy, healthy one :hugs:

[MMelissa]

I just wanted to send hugs and love your way because you need it :hugs:

I'm really sorry for your loss.

[BubbleGuppy]

Oh Sheree, I am so sorry you had to go through such a horrible experience. I am glad it is finally over for you though and you can focus on mending and getting yourself back on track to try again. I really do wish you a happy successful pregnancy soon.
Big hugs.

[Lidz]

Shere I'm so sorry you had to go through all this. SOunds like your DP was very supportive. Make sure you rest up. :hugs::hugs:

[lambjam]

Oh Shereejoy, how awful :hugs::hugs::hugs:.

I'm glad the worst is behind you; wishing you a speedy recovery and a happy return to the due dates threads when your heart and body are ready.

[Campbellsmummy]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of hugs :hugs:

[shereejoy]

I feel like I am trying to battle on, but failing miserably, can't stop thinking about it all, the tragic loss my baby and previous m/c's... I know there are worse off people out there then me, and for that reason I pick myself up... but deep down it hurts still... :(

[lambjam]

I feel like I am trying to battle on, but failing miserably, can't stop thinking about it all, the tragic loss my baby and previous m/c's... I know there are worse off people out there then me, and for that reason I pick myself up... but deep down it hurts still... :(

Of course it hurts, it's an awful, awful thing. You're not obliged to think of those who may or may not be worse off, just take care of you :hugs:.

[V8]

I'm so sorry for your loss Sheree :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[LittleBlueKisses]

Oh shereejoy...from lack of posting in the due thread I was not aware of this...I am so so sorry hun!! I would love to be able to fix your heartache right now. Please rest...feel ok with these emotions as they are normal & nothing to feel aren't warranted. Loads of hugs

[shereejoy]

I have been going through a bit of a rough patch ever since the m/c of our baby. I found a lump on my breast. Had a mammogram and u/s on friday. Things weren't good. Had to take a biopsy. Get results on Wednesday . Please pray for me. I Am so scared. Having a bad run lately. Ever since november when I had my cone biopsy for my cervix and then the loss of our baby (3rd m/c)

The lump I found there are abnormal cells... they also found two other lumps on the same breast (right side). The lump I found was 7cm (WTF) and all because I don't ever check... Please ladies check your breasts!

Life is so unfair sometimes! I don't smoke, I rarely drink, am about to turn 36 next month, I am far too young for this to be happening.

I only m/c my baby 2 weeks ago tomorrow... this is really taking it's toll on me, esp all this waiting... waiting to m/c... waiting or results...

I have such a bad feeling.... I soooooo hope I am wrong!

[joeyanna]

shereejoy, words cannot describe how you must be feeling at the moment and the torment of waiting for your results, life truly is unfair, why do bad things happen to good people!

I will pray for you, sending you lots of positive vibes, take care of you xx

[shereejoy]

Ladies I have breast cancer and I am so overwhelmed and upset right now! :( Just thought I would let you all know!

[MothersMilk]

Oh no, i'm so sorry :hugs::hugs::hugs:

[Campbellsmummy]

I am so very very sorry. Life is so unfair sometimes. Sending you massive hugs and lots of strength :hugs::hugs:

[GabberQueeN83]

Im so so so sorry...:hugs:

[angelickaren]

:hugs:shereejoy im so sorry to hear about your m/c and now breast cancer please take it easy

my thoughts are with you and your family at this time :hugs: