Did you get the 3rd day blues?

[flicker]

As the heading says, after you gave birth did you get the 3rd day blues? If so what was it like for you. I know I cried for no reason all day! If you did, did you get it after your second child?

[mim1]

I definitely got the Day 3 blues. It was dreadful. BUT I had a horrid midwife tell me that of course I was going home the next day without my ds (who was in special care) as he clearly was going to be MANY days away from coming home ... everyone else had been vague about when he'd be discharged. So, I hope that next time around it won't be so bad :D

[Just*Ace]

I got it a day early! But I think it was also a combination of no sleep and not knowing how to BF. The hearing check person came and I realised I was going to be late to the BFing class and I just burst into tears. I also demanded to leave hospital that day against medical advise. Once we got home DH sent me to bed and said he would bring bubs to me when she needed feeding. I just lay there in the dark crying and dreading him bringing her to me. I felt like I had made the biggest mistake and then felt like a bad mum for thinking that.
I think it went away after a week, but I think for the first 3 months I was so over emotional and that may have been due to PND

[waterlily]

Yep. I just cried all day and night. I don't remember ever feeling as depressed before.

[Lucy in the Sky]

I couldn't stop crying all day.:crying: I was really, really tired (I hadn't slept in slept much in the last 7 days), but I know it was such a strong emotional reaction, more than just tiredness. The stupid thing was all the midwives seeming really surprised I was crying and kept asking me what was wrong. The number of times I had to apologise and explain it was the Baby Blues, was really quite ridiculous. Surely they must see it all the time?

[(mum2be)]

Hello,

I remember it as clear as day! It wasn't pleasant although I didn't get the baby blues till 2 weeks after. I had a visit from the midwife who told me that the blues can come anywhere upto the first 3 months. I cried and cried and cried :no:

Midwife did say to keep an eye on it. If it didn't go within a week to seek help. Mine seem to ease after a few days. I know it horrible feeling but hope some of these will help :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

It will settle just go with it & try not to fight it. Its okay to feel the way your feeling.;)

[missjess86]

yep i cried all day and was so embaressed. my obgyn walked in and said "oh your upset are you in pain?" i said no. and she backed out haha!

[anewme]

Yes all 5 times. Lasted only a few days but those days were hell.
With no 5 I had my SIL staying with us who i had only met maybe 6 times before. She lives at the other side of the country and wanted a holiday and excepted me to show her the sites until she overheard my DH asking me if i was having suicidal thoughts. Funny how she decided that night to go to island for the rest of the holiday.

[BabelFish]

With my daughter, severely. I mean, really badly. I got them on the 5th day, though. Fortunately I was still in hospital for another four days after that so was able to get through it.

With my son, not at all - not even for an hour. Thank goodness!

[LibranTwin]

I was lucky and didn't get any blues, I hope it's the same with this one. I guess I will see :)

[MothersMilk]

Yes, i remember it so well because DH left the state 3 days after DD was born. Talk about bad timing, i was a mess (crying all the time) and ended up moving in with the in laws for a bit. Luckily it didn't last very long.
With DD2 i didn't get it - at all. Wonder why, maybe because i knew what i was in for or because DH was home?? no idea.

[Hollywood]

Sure did! Cried for no good reason, and it went away in a day or two.

[BoyCrazy]

with my two boys i did, but with my little girl i didnt, i was having a pretty stressful time at home with DF (as many bubhubbers know), and had done ALOT of crying in the few weeks leading up to bubba's birth. I dont think i had any tears left to cry!!

[kar]

No, not with either.
That's not to say there were not a lot if tears in the first months, but not the "baby blues" as such.

[flicker]

thanks for yorur stories girls, keep 'em coming:)

it really took me by surprise with ds. I wondered whether it is a hormonal dip or something. i was the the most exausted i have ever been in my life! I wondered now that i am a bit more prepared it might not be as bad...you know that eventually you will actually sleep again.

but loving5 having it 5 times thinks well maybe not.

[babyboyJ]

I was okay on day 3 until the MIL came over and told me I was breastfeeding all wrong (which I wasn’t) and started grabbing my boobs and trying to show me on hers! Then she said that I wasn’t holding my son properly and that I was going to hurt him (just what every new mum needs to hear!) Then she started yelling at DH that he wasn’t doing things right either – screaming at him so loudly that DS started crying. Then I lost it big time. I started crying and could not stop at all. I was a complete mess for that day and into the next.


I’m four weeks off having DS2 and the MIL told me that other day that I need to be a stronger person because last time when I started crying it embarrassed her. She also told me that women these days get PND because we have too much free time on our hands – apparently no one got it in her day because they were too busy vacuuming!!



So let’s hope I’m a ‘stronger person’ this time around – and then I can tell the MIL where to go!!!!

[flicker]

I was okay on day 3 until the MIL came over and told me I was breastfeeding all wrong (which I wasn’t) and started grabbing my boobs and trying to show me on hers! Then she said that I wasn’t holding my son properly and that I was going to hurt him (just what every new mum needs to hear!) Then she started yelling at DH that he wasn’t doing things right either – screaming at him so loudly that DS started crying. Then I lost it big time. I started crying and could not stop at all. I was a complete mess for that day and into the next.


I’m four weeks off having DS2 and the MIL told me that other day that I need to be a stronger person because last time when I started crying it embarrassed her. She also told me that women these days get PND because we have too much free time on our hands – apparently no one got it in her day because they were too busy vacuuming!!



So let’s hope I’m a ‘stronger person’ this time around – and then I can tell the MIL where to go!!!!


:eek::eek:OMG! i would ban her! she sounds like a nightmare MIL. no wonder you cried! eek. stick it to her this time. on another note-number 2 almost here:smiliedance:

[kar]

Omg babyboyj - I would be a very strong person and make a no mil in my house post birth rule.

[tormy]

sure did, i was exhausted and crying and hated being in hospital (i had a c-section) and that was the day that we gave DS a dummy cos i needed sleep and i felt like i was failing...

[A mothers love]

That's the day my milk came in dd sucked for 6 hours I had a nasty nurse who wouldn't take dd so I could get up out of the chair and wouldn't help me up.

My besti came in I gave dd to her had a shower and balled my eyes out.

I also had the drug councilor come in and I cried at her as well

[Mill]

I got 3-6 day blues!!! Cried non-stop. It almost makes me cry just thinking about those days. I think it was a combination of:
Hormones
Sleep deprivation
Not getting out of the house for fresh air

I think it's completely normal and was sooo cranky at people who comented that I "wasn't coping" with motherhood!!!

[Everyday]

Yep i got the 3 day blues also, I cryed all day... :rolleyes:

[ojmum]

I got the blues both times when my milk came in...so DS was day 4 and DD was day 3. Both times i felt teary, depressed and just generally blue!! It only lasted for a few hours each time though - so glad it didn't linger on!

[Blairysmum]

Nope!
On the 7th day however my dd's cord feel off and it bleed heaps and I was stressing and cried for about an hour none stop! And my mum was like finally I have been waiting for you to just break down like I did with all of mine!! Haha apart from that one hour i was a oh k!!!

[bitterpure]

I definitely had the 3rd day blues, though I wasn't even aware that that was such a thing at the time! For me it was a combination of lack of sleep, surging hormones, milk coming in and problems with DS not being interested in the boob. Late on the 3rd day I also got told that his jaundice would require him to spend 24 hours under the phototherapy lights - I knew this was fairly common and really not a big deal but I could NOT stop crying after they told me. I was a sobbing mess when we had to wheel him out of my room and down to the nursery . I started crying again everytime I went back to my room so in the end I just had a quick shower and spent the night in the nursery watching him, waiting for him to come out from under the lights for his next feed and talking to various midwives. I remember watching the sun coming up, as I fed him and he suddenly stopped feeding, turned his head and stared at me with this amazing look in his eyes... I still cry when I think about that night!

[RoarsomeMum]

I walked around the whole day crying, clutching the T-shirt I gave birth in and missing her, even though she was right there..

[sweetpea82]

I didn't really get the blues.. more upset because my boobs became engorged and it was painful, so I remember crying about that.. Also getting a little irritated by so many visitors at the hospital (many which arrived unannounced).. was probably a bit more snappy than usual :)

[Kimnus]

Yeah i got it really bad! Could not stop crying...sometimes i didn't even know what i was crying about.

[OurLittleBlessing]

I got the blues both times, but more so with DD1.

I distinctly remember sitting on the edge of my hospital bed howling my eyes out because 'my milk wasn't coming in'. A very kind, experienced midwife heard me and came in, gentling hugged me, and said: 'sweetie, this *is* your milk coming in'. Haha.

She was right BTW.

[Hokey Pokey]

Yep, sure did!

[CazHazKidz]

No, strangely not.

I say strangely, because I've been prone to depression and second guessing myself and what I'm doing my whole life - but when Hayden was born, I just *knew* what I was doing. So weird.

I was the happiest I've ever been in my life! I hope this repeats with this baby.