To tell or not to tell?

[krystallxx]

Hey :)
I'm new to this whole partners being away business as my partner recently (last weekend) moved interstate for work .. Will be home on the occasional weekend depending.
Anyway its obviously a big change for my boys although he wasn't involved with them much due to work he was still around.. coming an going etc etc. Anyway .. It appears that A who is 2.5 has started playing up worse then normal and has gone backwards quite quickly since dp has left. My question is do I tell dp this ?
I know how guilty he will feel, even more so because I'm 27wks preg and also care for my mum(she helps me too in ways). He already seems to be unhappy and not all that excited about what this could do for business etc and is missing us terribly so I don't want to make it worse by saying A is not doing as well as he was.
TIA :)

[MrsBeee]

Gosh I have no idea, I have no experience with a 2.5 year old, it must be hard for you to be in that situation, and hard for him to be away :( So just sending you some :hugs: and hope you get some advice!

[flicker]

:hugs: i suppose it depends on you and your relationship.

I know when dh first goes away ds has trouble but then starts to adjust. i talk to dh everyday and he can tell when something is bothering me and almost worries more with what i might be keeping from him. So if it was me, i would be honest with him, but in a positive ''its ok'' way. iykwim?


it must be a hard adjustment for all of you. how long is he away for?

[Girl X]

:hugs: i suppose it depends on you and your relationship.

I know when dh first goes away ds has trouble but then starts to adjust. i talk to dh everyday and he can tell when something is bothering me and almost worries more with what i might be keeping from him. So if it was me, i would be honest with him, but in a positive ''its ok'' way. iykwim?


it must be a hard adjustment for all of you. how long is he away for?

:iagree:

It may also just be a temporary thing while he gets used to his dad being away, so hopefully it's not a 'backwards' step - just a little adjustment. :hugs:

[krystallxx]

Thanks for ur replies ..dp will be away for at least 12mths at this stage. Our relationship is fine, I'm great at making out everything is fine so he would have no idea lol.
I understand its his way of adjusting and I completely understand that and just trying to go with him as much as possible without letting him run circles around me lol.

[flicker]

Wow 12 months that is tough! You sound like a super mum and so much stronger than me.
It also seems like you are happy to leave it for a bit and you are handling it well. Maybe give it a while see how the adjustment period goes. I know my dh likes to feel needed and feel like he is missed whilst balancing that we are coping well. Though i have no experience with that length of time. I wish you all the best. Us bub hub girls are always here if you need us! :)

[krystallxx]

Thank you very much :)
Maybe if I knew he was happy and content id be more inclined to tell him as it's a silly thing not to mention but I know it will make the transition even harder on him so maybe I'll just keep quite for now. I will cope fine, I've done the bulk on my own so far cause he wasn't quite ready when the twins arrived and blah blah blah That's a while different story lol ...

Thanks fr ur advice and support :)