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[mehimandour4]

Hi everyone
I have posted elsewhere, but it is becoming crunch time with me.
I found out I am pregnant 4 days ago. My partner and I love each other deeply and want a child, but…
1 After marriage
2 when we are both legally divorced (I have been separated 9 months and him 2 years)
3. When the kids are more settled
4 When we have been together longer (8 and a half months)
5 When we are more financially stable (I finish uni at the end of this year)
6. After we have travelled (I got married early had a miserable marriage and wanted a chance to be young)

So what, if any of these reasons is good enough to terminate ( I am ashamed to see we were in this situation 4 months ago, I am extremely fertile and nothing seems to stop it)

Another two issues for me is that try as I might I do not love his children, I look after them 7 days a fortnight, but they are difficult because their mother does not discipline or set boundaries.

Another thing is I am terrified of telling my parents, I no I am a grown adult but it just makes me so scared.

Anyway any opinions (although please no judgement) would be appreciated.

Thankyou

[3boysNAprincess]

Im Sorry your in this position.

It really is unfortunate that you where in this position 4 months ago.

I think reasons 4 and 5 are reasons one would normally consider such a thing..
I think the others are things you can get around, or get over.

I think the question you need to ask yourself is what will you do if the same thing happens in another 2 months? Because You can do damage to yourself if you keep having terminations.

So if you want children together maybe this is your time...

I am PRO choice I just want you to think of all aspects of the situation.

Uni though a girl recently in the December thread just completed UNI pregnant last year that also may be an option for you..

Good Luck with whatever you decide