Anyone not want another because of morning sickness???

[dboo]

Hi. My baby boy is 12 months now. I was EXTREMELY sick throughout my whole pregnancy, hospitalised frequently, lost a lot of weight. I threw up every hour from 5 weeks pregnant, and with every contraction until he came out. I even vomited from breastfeeding sometimes. Something about high levels of hormones. Anyway, I'd love another baby, but I do have to work at least part-time and this is unavoidable. People said I'd forget about how sick I was and I had forgotten how bad it was a bit. Last weekend I had a horrid stomach virus and spent a few hours throwing up. It wasn't as bad as when I was pregnant but I was still incapable of doing anything except lying on the bathroom floor. I had to call my husband to come home from work early because I could not care for our son who is a very active little boy. I realised that if I got pregnant again and was that sick again, I would not be able to work (of course), but I wouldn't be able to care for our son properly. I don't have any family around or friends who I could call on to help as much as I'd need. I had been pregnant once before but lost the baby at 9 weeks. At that time, I'd been exactly the same since 5 weeks with the morning sickness so I can't risk getting like that again. It's not only the inability to care for him, but he would miss out on 9 months of quality time with me which is very important as a young child. I'm also getting up there age-wise, so waiting a few years isn't an option.
So, it looks like our bub will be an only child. My husband is fine because he was the middle of 3 boys and said he never had much attention nor money, so he wants to give our son a lot. I also think being an only child would be great in many respects for our particular situation. Basically, I am just feeling a bit sad that I won't experience the joys of another baby (delivery and the post-natal hormones were awesome for me and worth every bit).
Has anyone else had a similar reason for not going for a second?

[overitand36]

i was not as sick as you but on meds for sickness/vomiting the whole pregnancy so I do get what you mean

quality not quantity I say nothing wrong with having an only child

[bumMum]

Oh yeah I know exactly where you are coming from! My first pregnancy was a complete nightmare. Lots of weight loss and IV fluids and my teeth were really damaged by all the vomitting. I also became really unhealthy because I was so inactive and bed ridden my energy levels were so low after I had ds it was very physically hard. He was also born premature which I believe was because of how sick I was. Despite this we had another unplanned pregnancy and I am finding at 23 weeks my nausea is less than last time. Don't get me wrong the first 16 weeks were awful and I was unable to work much at all. And when I did work it made me so much sicker (something about balance and hormones?) I still vomit usually once a day but its always just once and not that bad. I lost weight initially but its now much better. This isn't always the case so I can't say don't worry it will be better next time though :( I have definitely made the decision to find a permanent contraceptive and don't want to ever be pregnant again though because pregnancy just takes such a massive toll on me so I get where you are coming from