I'm new here and I use CC

[RosieMcPosie]

Hi everyone,

My gosh it was nice to come across this forum! :smiliedance:

I use CC and I haven't been able to find any support "out there" for people that do.

My son is 7months old and we did a version of CC (I think really it's controlled settling) since he was 5 months old.

He started sleeping through the night once we did and usually he's great at self settling (colds and teething aside).

I was wondering though...among other things, is it hoped, through CC that your baby would settle easily to sleep every time? Sometimes Thomas will grizzle and then go off to sleep, sometimes cry for 5 or 10 minutes and then go to sleep and other times he's screams and I cave and give him a dummy.

What do you all think? Is it not working? Am I doing something wrong? Or is to be expected that sometimes he will have trouble self settling.

Looking forward to replies :)

RoseMcPosie

[Mrs Little]

:wave: Rosie...

Welcome to Bubhub...this place can be quite addictive.

I've sent you a PM...

Talking forward to talking to you.

Mrs Little & Son.

[Sarie]

Hi Rosie!
Welcome to bubhub. We did CC with both of our boys and we also used a dummy. I don't see any problem giving them a dummy at sleep time at all.
I've also found that as they go through different stages, being sick, teething, or other upsets that it does muck up their routine a bit.
Our three year old was back to sleeping in our room untill a few weeks ago and even then was coming into our room again at around 12 or 1 am. Being preggie and both of us exhausted we weren't being consistent so as soon as we went back to being consistent and makeing him go back to his room we've had the last few nights on our own... utter bliss!
So long as you're consistent every night with the same routine you'll be fine. But I really don't think you'll have a problem with the dummy, it's something that we try and only offer at bed time, but it does sooth them when their teething also.
Best of luck!
Sarie

[rynosmum]

Hi there! :wave:

We used 'controlled comforting/settling' with our bub and he is now 2 years old and a fantastic sleeper. He sleeps 6:30pm - 5:30am then has two sleeps per day if we are at home or just one sleep if we are out.

Every now and again (probably one night per month) he cries when we put him to bed. Normally it is if he is overtired and just can't settle himself. I will give him a dummy these nights and he lies down and goes straight to sleep.

CC did wonders both for him and us as it taught him to sleep easily and to self settle at night. It's not always perfect but for the most part, his sleeping is pretty great. We do make allowances when he is unwell or upset and he gets extra cuddles or sometimes comes back out of his bed for another cuddle or drink.

[mum2bubba]

I don't see anything wrong with CC (still use this for Hayley and it works a treat) I also give her a dummy every night and it helps her to settle. My only worry is getting rid of the dummy....

I read a book called "Silent Nights" by Brian Symon it was a real eye opener. I highly recomend it. :yes: :thumbsup:

[Nan]

Hi Rosie!
Welcome to Bubhub. From the sounds of things you & your little one are on a roll! I wouldn't worry about the dummy thing or the waking sometimes thing either. I guess ideally it would be great if babies self settled with no fuss every time, but they are bound to have times when they need a little bit of extra help from you. It sounds as though you're doing a great job and your little one's settling sounds perfectly normal. He may just take a little longer to self settle and that's okay. Some babies learn in a few nights and some take longer.
Love,
Nan. xx

[JorBai]

:wave: Rosie! Welcome to bubhub!

We CC Bailey from about 5 months and he only took about 1 day to understand it and now I dont get my cuddles coz if hes tired he wants bed. Although Its the best thing I ever did. I used to sit there and cuddle him to sleep only for him to wake as soon as I layed him down.

He is a fantastic sleeper! Sleeps from 5pm til 7am( with a dreamfeed at about 8.30pm) and 2 good day sleeps!

I love the fact that he rubs his eyes and puts his thumb in(he ditched the dummy when we CCd too) and I know he wants bed. Pop him in cot and he nods off to sleep straight away.

Good Luck with the CC! and enjoy bubhub...warning...ITS HIGHLY ADDICTIVE!!!:laughing:

[maad]

Hi Rosie

I have just spent 2 nights at Tweedle Sleep Clinic with my 15mth old twins. We do CC 2,4,6,10 min intervals has worked great 4 me. They are sleeping so much better 7.30pm till 6.30-7.00am. She is sleeping through now, but he is stll waking but going back down with minimal fuss.
If I can help at all just pm me.

Anne

[aimz]

Hi There

i am so relieved to find this thread. i am currently working on the controlled comforting/routine theory with my 8 week old. now a lot of people have said that this is too early but after having a baby that screams 8 hours straight a day from being so overtired it has been bliss for the past 3 days to have chloe having 3 naps a day.....

my question is today she slept an hour and a half from 6 - 7.30am, 2 1/2 hours from 9.30 - 12.00pm and when she went down at 1.30 woke after 45 mins. usually if she does this she has been able to put herself back the past 3 days, today i had to continually go up for an hour (originally thinking that she was just having trouble getting into the deeper sleep) and i then changed her nappy and offered her a feed thinking this could be the only solution. she drunk 70ml (usually she takes about 130ml). she then went straight down for you guessed it another 45 mins. Just wondering what is going on here??? she got up happy enough and didn't seem hungry. we fed her again at 6pm (she is formula fed) to stick to our routine and she drunk the full 130ml.

she went down without a fuss after her bath.

also the routine that we are doing is feed, sleep, play. Does anyone else do this as all i seem to read about is feed, play, sleep. i tried this with chloe but she didn't take to it at all and the sleep nurse i called out for a home visit recommended this routine.

any thoughts??

[Lisa&Davey]

When my bub was 8 weeks old, even up to 4 months I think, the longest he would sleep during the day was 45 minutes. That was one sleep cycle for him. He would however sleep really well at night, just waking for feeds, then straight back down.

All babies are different, I tried every technique under the sun to get him to sleep longer but after 45 minutes he was always ready for another 'awake cycle'. Those would go for 1 and a half to two hours and involve a feed. A this age I think it's often good to go with the flow if you can't get bub in a set routine. They won't form any bad habits or anything. Just knowing how to spot tired signs and put them down (even if it involves them grizzling in theor cot for a little while) is a great start.

After about 4 months DS just naturally went into a really good routine. He now has 3 day sleeps and then goes down from 8pm to 8am every night with one night feed.:smiliedance:

[Nan]

.....also the routine that we are doing is feed, sleep, play. Does anyone else do this as all i seem to read about is feed, play, sleep. i tried this with chloe but she didn't take to it at all and the sleep nurse i called out for a home visit recommended this routine.

any thoughts??
Hi Aimee.
I guess feed, wake, sleep is recommended so that your bubs doesn't get into a habit of needing to be fed to go to sleep. Having said that, at your bubs might need the help of a full tum to nod off, so I'd keep going with it. Perhaps try varying to feed, wake, sleep when she is a bit older.

Many babies begin waking after 45mins at Chloe's age. Sometimes they just get into a habit. I used to go in to my daughter' room and help her settle off again without picking her up. 9 times out of 10 she'd go back to sleep and the other 1 time it would be a nappy change or feed for her.
Love,
Nan. xx

[aimz]

thanks heaps for your advice!!! the lady i saw about her sleeping and who set up the routine recommends changing to feed play sleep between 3 - 6 months anyway which is good.

Another question... today we had an appointment with the health nurse which threw her routine a bit (she was overtired and upset all afternoon, only going down for 30 minutes).... will this settle down or is it like starting over when you have a hiccup? mind you she slept for 3 hours for her morning nap and i had to wake her to feed her as it had been over 4 hours.

[aimz]

thanks nan!!!

its all so stressful, this afternoon i threw her routine as we had a health nurse appointment.... she was so grumpy all afternoon and i was stressing that this will throw her routine. Do you think this will? She went down quite easily tonight after her feed and bath

[Mrs Potts]

Hi Aimz!

Things like your appt will throw them out of whack, mainly because they end up overtired. It's what happens with our DD.

We find that it takes one or two "routine cycles" for her to settle back down again. We sometimes will give her a dummy to help her settle in these situations as she is too tired to self settle. As long as you are still consistent with the settling routine, she will get back into the swing of things in no time!

Good luck!

[aimz]

thanks for all your advice - today was a bit crazy as well. She was brilliant first thing this morning, waking up after 45 minutes but i called the lady who came out and she said jsut leave her it might take half an hour of crying but she will put herself back which she did.

however this afternoon she would only go down for 50 minutes at 12.30 and refused to go down at all after her 3pm feed... how long do you perservere for before getting bubs up until the next feed? and how long should her naps be at 8 weeks?

sorry for al lthe questions i am stressing out i hate leaving her to cry but know that i need to in order for her to establish her own sleeping routine.

[mumofcaleb]

I did CC with out little man. Didn't start until he was 9 months old though. Personally, I don't think it's recommended to do under 8 months. I think babies younger than that don't really understand what's going on and don't realise that you will come back into the room or that you will come back at all. They need to be able to build trust with you first and I don't think they understand this until past 8 months.

By the way, this is just my opinion and what I feel is best for my son and any future children I have.
Not here to offend anyone.:)