10mth old waking

[Mumma_al]

I really nee a hand with this oen.

My DD had slept through up until about 5 1/2 mths when she started to teeth she started to wake, which is understandable.

a few mths on and she is still waking but its getting worse. I've tried all the suggestions from the childhood clinic nurse and all the sleep info i can find on the net, but it doesnt seem to work.

lately they only way i can settle her is in my arms, If DH picks her up to calm her she screams her head off until i come and get her, if I try and put her into her cot before she is in a deep sleep she will wake as soon as i lean over to put her into the cot screaming. most nights she has ended in my bed sleeping on my chest, as this was the only way both her and I can get some sleep.

I need help on how to get her to sleep and stay asleep and how to stop her being so dependant on me

[lovemybub]

I know exactly how you feel. Unfortunately that doesn't necessarily mean I have an answer for you. My DD is 10 months and is fine with dad during the day, but only wants me at night. We are co-sleeping though, so when I go in to her I lie down on the bed with her until she settles again, and I can get away pretty easily because she's already lying down. She usually just wants some reassurance that I'm still here.

You need to remember that it's perfectly normal for babies to be 'mother dependent' at this age, because they are realising that they aren't actually a part of you any more - I'm sure that's pretty scary when you're 10 months old! It doesn't mean they'll always be that way. I know sometimes I can get a bit frustrated because I have other things that I need/want to be doing, but in a few years time I will probably be wishing I could cuddle up with her again so I figure I'll make the most of the cuddle time.

So I guess I haven't really answered your question, but I just wanted to say that you shouldn't feel that letting her sleep with you is a cop out or somehow going to make her more dependent on you. If letting her sleep with you means you both gets some sleep, then go for it I say.

Sorry if this is long winded and doesn't really help you :ecomcity: but I just thought I'd share how I'm dealing with the same issue, so that you at least know you're not alone. Hope things get better for you soon :hugs:

[lovemybub]

Hey, wow. I just realised you're in Newcastle too! :smiliedance:

[MrsMiggins]

I really nee a hand with this oen.

My DD had slept through up until about 5 1/2 mths when she started to teeth she started to wake, which is understandable.

a few mths on and she is still waking but its getting worse. I've tried all the suggestions from the childhood clinic nurse and all the sleep info i can find on the net, but it doesnt seem to work.

lately they only way i can settle her is in my arms, If DH picks her up to calm her she screams her head off until i come and get her, if I try and put her into her cot before she is in a deep sleep she will wake as soon as i lean over to put her into the cot screaming. most nights she has ended in my bed sleeping on my chest, as this was the only way both her and I can get some sleep.

I need help on how to get her to sleep and stay asleep and how to stop her being so dependant on me

Uh! I could have written that post!!

I will be watching this thread!!

We have good nights & bad nights, but it seems we've had a string of really bad nights of late. I just wish I had a bub who could settle herself! I think we'd all be much happier!

:hugs: - No! Wait!! Better yet - :sleeping: :sleeping: !

[MrsScatterbrain]

Your little girl is absolutely gorgeous!

Your little one's waking patterns are pretty much identical to my DS's. :hugs: In the end we had to sit in front of the TV at night with him in our arms, then sleep with him in bed with us at night, otherwise he wouldn't sleep!

What saved me in the end was a visit to Sleep School for a week. It was a matter of giving him a clear message that he was going to stay in his cot all night, so that he was eventually able to self-settle. He knew there was no reward for crying (eg. being picked up), and went back to sleep instead! It sounds a little mean, but it has worked wonders.

The nurses basically taught me really good settling methods (no controlled crying) and supported me in settling him over and over again during the night, until he got the message. (They settled him overnight from 10pm until 6am while I slept :) ). He screamed blue murder for 10 mins each settling session for the week, but is now much more accepting and is coming along in leaps and bounds.

Maybe its worth considering a sleep school? It cost us $500 but it was worth every cent - we now have our quality of life back! :D

[Wivi]

Hi there,

My little monkey went through a bit of this aftre he got his first tooth a couple of weeks ago. He is a late teether (he is almost 11 months) and I think we were sucked in thinking he was probably getting tooth 2. I am sure this is not your case. Anyway, he got used to getting up in the night and having a bit of a play as sometimes we had done that when he wouldn't settle and when he showed tired signs we put him back in bed.

Then one day I worked out there wasn't anything wrong with him, he had just gotten used to getting up. So we tried something my friend had learnt at a sleep school. It is worth mentioning that Will has never had any trouble putting himself to sleep so I was confident he knew how to do it. When he woke in the night we would let him cry/grizzle for 5-10 minutes and then one of us would go in and tell him to "lie down and go to sleep" or "it's still sleep time". We might lie him down and stroke his forehead if he seemed very upset but most of the time we just said something like that and left. If he was still crying 10-15 minutes later we would do it again. The frist night he went to sleep after 20 minutes and woke up in the morning at an appropriate time. We continued with this method and each night the crying was shorter and shorter. It was all over in about 3 nights. If he does wake up and cry for more than 10 minutes now I know something is not right - and it is usually that he is too hot or too cold. If all things are fine - he sleeps great!

This worked for us - but it took me a long time to try it as I struggled hearing my boy cry. He was always a good sleeper and I thought it wouldn't be necessary. When I did do it I was glad but I udnerstand that it is not for everyone.

If you are unsure about what to do but it is really bothering you then I would give a sleep school a go. They are very supportive and lets face it - sometimes we need help doing the hard stuff!

[Desertress]

I dont really have any advice for you as i am struggling with this exact same problem. My little one has just turned 1 and hasnt slept through in about 4 months. At first he just woke twice a night... at 10 and then2 but now his is waking anywhere up to 6 times a night and i just dont know what to so. I have tired giving hima big feed b4 bed... letting him cry it out... trying to settle him and put him back down but i dont know what else to do.

I might try the lying him back down thing but if that fails i am at a loss. I am in cairns so there is no sleep schools here and its not possible to travel to one either.

I just wanted to wish you good luck and hooe that he starts sleeping for you again soon.

[EskimoMumma]

My DD who is nearly 10months has discovered screaming. I could handle the "wah wah" cries.. but the screaming.. :eek:

No idea why she is waking but im putting it down to teething/growing. Poor thing. I hope it settles soon so we can all :sleeping: peacefully

[cjb/jbvd]

sounds like alot of us have bad 10 month sleepers.
but i'm lucky, he only gets up once a night unless he's sick.
mine settles if i pick him up and cuddle him for a while.
although lately he has decided that it's play time when he wakes up, so it's taking a bit longer.
i can't stand hearing him cry, so i've never tried to let him cry himself out.
i figure that the cuddles won't last forever, so i might as well enjoy them depsite the lack of sleep. it's another great bonding thing between him and i.

[Mumma_al]

thanks for all your responces. I guess its good to know im not the only one.

I thought I was a bad mother because I breast fed My dd to sleep when I was told not to by Clinic Nurses - But this is the only way to get her to sleep

Last night was feral - she stired all night, I think i got an hours sleep.

I tried the big feed before bed, lying down with her, Everything that you have all mentioned. I even thought it was teeth but we are still waiting on them to come through.

Would lover to hear if you have any more suggetions