Not sure where to put this..

[tinynosetinytoes]

I'm lucky to have never gone through a miscarriage myself, but I was hoping to seek some advice or such from someone who has.

A friend of mine announced she was pregnant on Facebook at ten weeks. A week lately she had her ultrasound and it showed the babys heart had stopped beating and she was sent to have a d&c.

Since then, she hasn't announced the miscarriage on Facebook (as I doubt anyone would) but my concern is that lots of people are still commenting things about her having the baby and asking how far along she is and has she thought of names etc. I really feel so sad for her and I can't imagine how hard it would be to lose a bubba let alone have people reminding you daily of what you have lost.

I'd really like to let her know I'm here if she needs to chat and I'm just really unsure of what to say/do having never been in that situation myself.

[Livvey]

You could visit her and just gently remind her that you're here for her no matter what? Without saying why you're bringing it up (unless you're comfortable to do so, or think she might be receptive to it), maybe reassure her that you're a shoulder to cry on...

[TurnedBatty]

Just send her a private message asking if there is anything you can do to help her, or to keep those others quiet. How horrible! The bad thing is if she doesnt tell them then they will all continue thinking that she still is pregnant. :(

[tinynosetinytoes]

It's a hard situation and she felt she was so close to the 12 week mark that it was safe to tell everyone. She is also only 18 and while I don't judge her (I had DS at 19), I'm not sure how supportive the friends are that she has told about the miscarriage. I think they (like many people) are unsure how to handle the situation aswell.

I sent her a private message saying that it must be a hard time for her especially with the comments I've noticed and if she needed me to do anything I'm always here.

I'd love to visit her but she lives in another state (which we just moved from).

Thanks for your advice. It really makes me so sad.