Samantha83
08-09-2006, 10:37
Yesterday afternoon my beautiful little man rolled over for the first time! He went from tummy to back over his right arm. Being a first time mum I never could have imagined the feeling I would experience over such an event. I could see in the faces and hear in the voices of everyone I told they were really trying to receive the information with as much enthusiasm as I was giving it.
When my baby boy rolled over it felt at that moment like the happiest and proudest moment of my life, but also a little bit disquieting, how was I going to explain to his sister whom doesn’t fully understand that one day her little brother may walk that he, being a baby could do something that she can’t. Suddenly a whole new world opened up for me, all of a sudden I realized my beautiful little baby boy was going to grow up.
I have a 3 year old step daughter who I love and raise as my own as much as I can whom is in a wheelchair. She has a condition which causes a progressive muscle weakness due to a loss of motor nerve cells in her spinal cord. Unfortunately she will never roll, walk or crawl until they find a cure.
When we first told my DSD that she was going to have a little brother she was so over the moon and one of the first things she said – to paraphrase - was ‘he can have my wheelchair when I grow out of it’ at the time my DH explained it to her that he might not need a wheelchair but she very knowingly said “yeah he will dad, he is my brother he’ll be just like me”.
After all that ranting, my question to anyone who takes the time to read this is, do you have any suggestions about how I could explain to her what’s happening or more importantly how do I celebrate DS’s milestones with all the enthusiasm I have without upsetting DSD with celebrations about things she cannot do.
When my baby boy rolled over it felt at that moment like the happiest and proudest moment of my life, but also a little bit disquieting, how was I going to explain to his sister whom doesn’t fully understand that one day her little brother may walk that he, being a baby could do something that she can’t. Suddenly a whole new world opened up for me, all of a sudden I realized my beautiful little baby boy was going to grow up.
I have a 3 year old step daughter who I love and raise as my own as much as I can whom is in a wheelchair. She has a condition which causes a progressive muscle weakness due to a loss of motor nerve cells in her spinal cord. Unfortunately she will never roll, walk or crawl until they find a cure.
When we first told my DSD that she was going to have a little brother she was so over the moon and one of the first things she said – to paraphrase - was ‘he can have my wheelchair when I grow out of it’ at the time my DH explained it to her that he might not need a wheelchair but she very knowingly said “yeah he will dad, he is my brother he’ll be just like me”.
After all that ranting, my question to anyone who takes the time to read this is, do you have any suggestions about how I could explain to her what’s happening or more importantly how do I celebrate DS’s milestones with all the enthusiasm I have without upsetting DSD with celebrations about things she cannot do.