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marcelsmum
07-09-2006, 19:34
:wave: Hello everyone.
Well, as many of you are aware I am TTC number 2 after a M/C in June.
I thought I would start this thread for any of us who have M/C and are trying to TTC again. I know sometimes I have had specific questions about TTC after M/c that I have been hesitant to put in other threads. I also know that sometimes I just feel down and want to talk about it with others.
So this Thread is for us - for good and bad and hopefully quite a few BFP's.:yes:
Thanks for starting this thread. My misscarraige is still so fresh in my mind but my hubby and I have decided we want to try again as soon as possible..well as soon as my body calms down so to speak.
I am filled with fear of trying again at the same time and afraid that I wont be able to become excited if it does happen.:fingerscrossed: that when the time is right it will happen for us all.
marcelsmum
07-09-2006, 19:52
Hi India.
I know exactly what you mean. I couldn't wait for the bleeding to stop so I could try again. I don't know if it was a subconcious way of trying to get back what I'd lost or just a need to be intimate with DP.
We also tried again immediately ( after talking with our DR to check if everything was alright with my body).
I'm also not sure how I will feel when I get another BFP, I know I will be worrying until I at least pass the point that I m/c'd last time, and then I will prob keep worrying till bub is out.
Good luck to you- how are you feeling now?
kyannas*mum*
07-09-2006, 21:10
hi,
thanks heaps for the tread,
hope you are feeling good about ttc again,
me i had mc on 6th july, i feel i handled it very well and think of it as that something was oviously wrong and that im blessed to at least have 1 healthy bub which some ladies can not even have,
in saying that though we have decided to ttc again this is my 1st cycle i am in my ttw as we speak but am worried that i will mc again but at the same time excited about getting a bfp its hard cause if i do get a bfp i will want to share with all, but also want to wait in case anything happens again as i dont want people to feel sorry for me if anything was to happen again
well thanks again for the thread its nice to chat with people in similar situations i wish u both the best and heres :fingerscrossed: that we are all lucky this month
cmd'smum
07-09-2006, 21:27
Hi M'MUM, thanks for starting this thread! It's a really good idea to be able to share our fears off TTC after a M/C.
Like everyone has said, I'm excited about getting a BFP but also anxious as I know the worry will start as soon as I find out I'm pg.
Almost 4 months later I still have times where i'll remember and start crying...... does anyone else do that?
Well, tomorrow I have a BT and Scan to see if all my levels are ok and if they are, then I will start Clomid! :fingerscrossed:
heaps and heaps of sticky baby dust to you all!
xo
I agree with everyone else - a great idea to start this thread. It was a bit spooky actually, because I was really dwelling on my m/c yesterday for some reason. I have been pretty good about it really, but yesterday was a bad day because I got another BFN.
I too am going to be extremely anxious when (hurry up!) we do get p/g again. But I have to take comfort in the statistics, that it is very unlikely that the same thing will happen again.
Happy baby dust (and sticky vibes) to everyone.
Things are still very raw I guess and it took a full week after I was told we lost for me to actualy bleed so am still going through that. I have cried lots, read lots cried some more and sort of come to peace with things more.
Hey MM i was only thinking about a thread like this. Good job:thumbsup:
I'm also so desperate to fall pg. Both times i have fallen pg straight away and a little upset i didn't fall last cycle. I had a follow up appointment today and they said i just have to wait until the body is ready to realse an egg, it could take awhile until all the hormones are gone.
Well i don't want to wait.... but anyway that is life i guess
Has anyone else had light cramping since the m/c? Mine is not bad, but light period like pain.
marcelsmum
08-09-2006, 12:07
CMD's mum- tell us how your appt went.
India- honey I am sorry:hugs: - I know you are still in the hardest time. :fingerscrossed: It will get physically better for you soon.
I am now in my 3rd cycle past m/c. So many people have told me that they gpt pg within 3 months of a M/C . (apparently something to do with the body being primed for a PG) so :fingerscrossed: for me this time.
How is everyone else going- chicken whats happening with you how many dpo were you when you tested?
how many days till testing kyanna's mum?
- good luck everyone
marcelsmum
08-09-2006, 12:16
Hey MM i was only thinking about a thread like this. Good job:thumbsup:
I'm also so desperate to fall pg. Both times i have fallen pg straight away and a little upset i didn't fall last cycle. I had a follow up appointment today and they said i just have to wait until the body is ready to realse an egg, it could take awhile until all the hormones are gone.
Well i don't want to wait.... but anyway that is life i guess
Has anyone else had light cramping since the m/c? Mine is not bad, but light period like pain.
Yeah - In my first cycle after M/C - I had cramping all the time, for the first two weeks I thought it was due to the M/C- (probably was I bled for 10 days.) then for the next week I convinced myself it was O pain, then for the week after that I convinced myself it was implantation pain, - then I started testing everyday and was getting BFN's (I hadn't even O'd yet) then finally the cramping stopped for a week then started again (finally after 45 days it was PD pain.):D
Since then I have had next to no cramping - even when AF arrives so i think it was just my body trying to get back to its pre PG self.:rolleyes:
Good luck with everything- I hope it all happens soon for you.
We will be here for you when it does.
Yeah - In my first cycle after M/C - I had cramping all the time, for the first two weeks I thought it was due to the M/C- (probably was I bled for 10 days.) then for the next week I convinced myself it was O pain, then for the week after that I convinced myself it was implantation pain, - then I started testing everyday and was getting BFN's (I hadn't even O'd yet) then finally the cramping stopped for a week then started again (finally after 45 days it was PD pain.):D
HAha that sounds like me... except i didn't test cause AF arrived early. Now im conviced im not ovulating! :gloomy:
kyannas*mum*
08-09-2006, 12:39
hi,
india :hugs: to you its hard when its first happened and you dont want to talk about it, i just wanted to be preg again and i suppose get back what i lost but i had to wait for 6 wks for af to return although it did help for me to talk to people and that helped me accept it so much more
i to have heard its more likely to fall preg after a mc so that what i have my hopes up for i will be a upset if i get a bfn :no: and im just holding onto the fact that so many people mc and never have this heartache again
i think i od on either the 2 or 3 not sure excatly so i will prob test with early test about the 14th then i will do my proper test with original date on 17th which will be 14dpo :fingerscrossed: i asked this in another thread but i will ask again i am cd25 which is approx 6dpo and still have a lot of cm is this a good or bad sign
:fingerscrossed: for all us ladies testing i hope we all get happiness we deserve
marcelsmum
08-09-2006, 15:52
Hi Kyanna's mum.
I had lots and lots of CM after O this cycle. But this was not unusual for me before the M/C.
In my first cycle after the M/C I had none at all, so when it came back last cycle I was so glad to see it. - I don't think it is either a good or a bad sign. If it is still fertile cm - then keep Bding you might not have O'd yet.
:fingerscrossed: for you - I hope you get your BFP soon.
Hokey Pokey
08-09-2006, 16:08
I want to wish you all the best of luck!
We are not sure when we will have #3 after a m/c in July. Right now, we are not TTC.
cmd'smum
08-09-2006, 18:16
Hi all :wave:
M'Mum.... I went for a scan and BT today, and the fertility centre called me a little while ago and told me that the Dr wants me to go on the pill for 6 weeks as i have may little cysts on my ovaries and my levels are still not right! They said if they were to start treatment now, the cysts would keep growing and that would not be good! :shame: So after being on the pill for 6 weeks I will get AF, then start treatment! :fingerscrossed: 6 weeks go by fast. I actually don't mind, I sort of had a feeling that I would'nt get a BFP till November/December anyway, which will hopefully mean i'll have a September/October 2007 bub!
I'll still hang around though, you can't get rid of me :shame: and will be trying again in November!
kyannas*mum*
08-09-2006, 20:12
hi
cmds mum glad you got some answers today but :thumbsdown: about having to stop for 6 weeks dont worry it will fly by and in no time at all you will be back.
i hope that i have od i got a positive dark line on my opk but is there a chance even if i get this that i didnt actually o how do u no? i have no idea at this kinda thing with temps and all just using opks as they seemed to be the simpliest what do u feel is the best to use for ttc.
marcelsmum
08-09-2006, 20:28
I chart and use OPK's. (cause the OPK's dont work too fantastically for me.) If you had two good lines on the OPK test then you could probably say you O'd within 2 days of that test.
OPK's are good if they work for you, with charting it takes a few months to see the patterns to help you predict O, (the charts only confirm O not really predict it.)
- I'm still not too fantastic on the predicting side of things so at the moment as soon as I see EWCM or Watery CM. I am making DP BD, cause my cycles are a little eratic at the moment.
(poor DP has had more loving in the last few months than he ever thought possible- can you have too much of a good thing?)
Tristans_Mum
08-09-2006, 20:28
Hey, thanks for starting this thread.
I found out on wednesday that once again i had a M/C. Thats 3 now. :crying: The last 2 M/C i got through them really good, wasnt too upset just more scared that i had to have a D & C. This time i didnt have to have a D & C (thankgod) but am really upset and scared to TTC again. I dont think i could handle having another M/C. My friends have been really supportive and i thank them so much for being there for me especailly when one of them has recently had a M/C herself, but she has been great.
My partner wants to start TTC again straight away, and i really want my bubs to have a small age gab between them, but i dunno :confused:
If anyone would like to chat feel free to add me to your msn tristans_mummy@hotmail.com
Thanks for listening, sorry about my spelling lol
marcelsmum
08-09-2006, 20:52
Welcome Tristans mum.
- :hugs: to you,
Have the Dr's given you any advice as to why you have M/C'd 3 times?
- I am a firm beleiver in listening to your own instincts, nobody knows your body as well as you do, If you feel you need to wait then do so, don't let your partner try to talk you into something you aren't ready for.
I would have loved for my bubs to have a closer age difference though (DS will be at least 8 years old before he gets a brother or sister.)
Do what feels best for you,
We are here to talk whatever your decision is.:D
Just having a vent here.
In the past week i have found out 3 people i know have had a baby...
Just found out my BIL girlfriend is 11 weeks pregnant!! SHe would have been falling pregnant while i was losing my mine:gloomy:
Life is so depressing...it feels everyone is beating me.(i know it's not a race, but where is mine?)
Not wanting a reply just some where to vent my feelings!
monique13
17-09-2006, 16:13
Hi girls well i had my first m/c on the 10th august 2006 and i just got my first af after my m/c but im really worry about being pregnant again i know i will worry the hole until im past 12 weeks i still cry and it helps me cope a bit more i just hope this time bub will stick :fingerscrossed: i dont know how i would be if i had a nirther m/c i hope none of us have to go throught it again.
Hi everyone, I've spent the last hour or so reading all your posts and hopefully some of you have had some good news since your last post. I found out I miscarried last week (TTC#1) and for me it wasn't painful and there wasn't any other major signs.
I just want to get back into it but I know I don't want to do any tests this time. I caught on really early with this one and I don't want to do that next time. I also now have a phobia of scans and am in no rush to have another one, particularly internal. The dissapointment of nothing being there is heart breaking.
I was TTC#1 for about 3.5 months (Since going off the pill), so it actually happened quite quickly for us, especially because I had a two month delay in between periods. We just bd every second day and it happened.
I have no idea of my cycle length or when I'm ovulating - I feel so useless with all of this and I'm just not sure whether I should continue on with every second day or try and work out when I'm ovulating.
I had a bit of spotting while I was pregnant, which I'm assuming was my miscarriage but still haven't got a proper period....I'm scared that when I do get my period it will in fact be the miscarriage??
Goodluck to you all:fingerscrossed:
Hi guys,
Im going to intrude on this tread LOL!
I had a miscarriage just 2 weeks ago with my first baby.
I feel the same as Adria at the moment a couple of my friends have just annonced that they are pregnant and another friend had her baby on Thursday night. I feel silly for feeling left out but I just want it to be my turn. I am still bleeding and eager for it to stop so we can become rabbits LOL!!!!
Baby Dust to all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mand
*Mandy
*Pete
1 Angel baby (edd whb May 2007)
Welcome Muls and keesha..please come and join us....though i find it a little depressing at times.
Keesha i never wanted and early u/s with my 2nd pg (only had had one withDD) unless something was wrong, but now i want one at 8 weeks, i want to wait until there heart beat..... i think waiting until longer would be worst to find out something is wrong later than earlier.
marcelsmum
07-10-2006, 20:19
Welocome Muls and Keesha,
- :hugs: to you both, I know how hard it is,
Muls - I felt exactly the same as you - I hadn't finished bleeding and just wanted it to stop so I could start trying again, (I must say the first time we did babydance after the MC was the most intimate I have felt with my DP in years- weird hey *sorry if TMI*)
Keesha- Have you seen your doctor since the M/C was confirmed, If you need a D&C - it is probably better to know now.
- I am waiting for either a positive HPT or AF to arrive tommorow, If I am Pregnant this month my due date will be the same day I Miscarried only one year later - How odd is that, But maybe it would make a sad aniversary happy.
AS I said before :hugs: and:kiss: to all.
Marcelsmum - :fingerscrossed: I hope that you got the result you wanted.
I called my Doctor that afternoon to confirm the blood results. I'd had a scan that morning and the Radiologist had stated that there was nothing at all, not even a thickening of mucas in the lining of the uterus (Sorry if TMI). He just said that I'd miscarried and he was sorry and asked if I had any questions....well no because I was trying too hard to not cry!
I physically feel normal, emotionally....well that will take time. I can only assume that the hormone caused a delayed effect?? I was due for my period (Technically but still hasn't settled down since going off the pill) about a week ago, I got some really mild cramps and a bit of spotting and that's it. So, I'm not sure what to do there!
Adria - I totally agree and so does my husband regarding having the u/s to make sure everything is alright. It's going to be really scary though but I know it's the right thing to do.
Muls/Adria - Yes, it's hard not to be jealous, it really is. My sister in law is due in 5 weeks and none of them know we m/c so it's going to be tough for us both. At the same time it's going to be nice at xmas being around a baby.:fingerscrossed: 100 times that we'll have some news to share at xmas. I can't help but think it's going to take longer than that...
I guess we all know we can get pregnant so full steam ahead!
:shame:
If I am Pregnant this month my due date will be the same day I Miscarried only one year later - How odd is that, But maybe it would make a sad aniversary happy.
Ditto, not 100% sure of date, promised i wouldn't work it out until i was pg.
Good luck MM.
Good Morning Ladies
I have just spent the last half hour reading all your stories and am really sorry that you have all had to go through this experience. And I truly hope you don't have to wait very long for your BFPs!! We too just found out last week that we had had another m/c and I only had my d&c yesterday, but it is helping to talk about it. My husband is being amazingly supportive. And we both had a little cry together this morning. Now I am wondering when we should start trying again. Part of me wants to move forward and ttc again straight away and another part of me feels like it needs a break. But unfortunately age is not on our side. We have asked the obstetrician to run some tests this time to see if we can establish the cause. Unfortunately most times it's a chromosome abnormality apparently but if it isn't then we know there is another cause which we may be able to do something about.
Anyway, sorry for the long ramble. It helps to talk to you lovely ladies who can understand what we are going through.
Julie
x
Julie - my heart goes out to you:hugs: I didn't have a D&C so I can't say I know exactly how you feel because I don't. I do know that documenting it all has really helped me. Just like a diary of every day since I found out I was pregnant and through to the miscarriage. I've decided that I'm going to keep it going because it helps so much.
We haven't stopped bd since I found out I was pregnant and because I didn't realise I'd miscarried we just kept on going anyway. So, we didn't really stop and because I didn't have any irregular type bleeding we didn't have to.
I still feel a little empty inside (Since last week when I found out) but I know I'm ready. I waited so long to start trying that I couldn't get any more ready. So - TTC will be on my cards until the day it happens, successfully!
Good luck to you and to all:fingerscrossed: :shame: :fingerscrossed:
Hi guys
I am eagerly waiting to TTC (still haven't finished m/c).
I desperately want to be pregnant, have the belly and then the joy of such a miracle - but at the same time I never want to forget me angel baby - my first baby.
I laminated my positive pregnancy tests so that I will always remember the joy he/she brought our lives. I also made a diary of the time we found out we were pregnant and then after we found out we had lost our angel. This helped me to let it all out and begin getting ready to TTC.
It's great to have a vent every now and again and i hope you guys know how much you all mean to me already.
Thankyou
Mand
Baby Dust to All (P.S. have anyone heard of the parsley plant at the front door LOL it's an old wives tale but it worked for me we fell the month we put it out!!)
marcelsmum
08-10-2006, 21:00
Oh Julie I am so sorry,
I hope you get your answers soon,
:hugs: :hugs: :kiss: .
Take care and vent if you need, you know we love you.
marcelsmum
08-10-2006, 21:04
Well AF due date is here, but AF has gone missing in action. I took a test thismorning and had a BFN, but the test also looks damaged (there are white bubbles where the positive line should be.)
I'm not feeling like AF is about to arrive but I'm also not feeling very confident of a BFP either, If I am Pregnant I think I will panic as lack of PG symptoms were the first sign for me that something was not right.
Well I will test again tommorow If AF has not arrived overnight.
Just found this thread and just wanted to pop in and say hi....
My story is very similar to so many of you....I m/c in july @ 9 weeks....DH and I are TTC again and am due to test on October 19.....very scared/nervous/excited about the whole thing.....worried how I'll cope if I get a BFN but also worried how I'll cope if I get BFP as I really don't feel like I could handle heart ache like that again.
I really hope we all get our wish very soon.
:hugs: to all those who need them today. x
Good Morning Ladies
Thank you all for your kind words!! :hugs:
MarcelsMum - I hope you get your BFP very soon!!
I know how scary this journey can become. I think now after m/c twice that our next pregnancy is going to be filled with very mixed emotions. The though of going for another scan terrifies me, but going for weeks thinking you are pg and then to find out you had a missed m/c weeks before, that is also truly awful. So I think next time we will be having lots of early ultra sounds. My two closest friends are currently pg and we were all due to have our bubs within a month of each other. I want us all to remain close friends, but at the same time it is going to be hard when their babies arrive. It's just so unfair isn't it. I wish them both the very best though and hope they have safe pregnancies.
Thanks again for letting me vent here - it helps to talk to you ladies who understand what we are going through.
Wishing you all a BFP very soon! :fingerscrossed:
cmd'smum
09-10-2006, 10:29
Jules, I think thats pretty much how we all feel about getting pg again after a m/c :( Its good to know we all have eachother. I know its hard when your friends are pg. A mum from my mum's group had a baby boy yesterday, and I was pg with a boy and would've been due in about a month's time. It's hard, I know, but we will get past it and have a successful pg!:yes:
Have the drs told you how long all the testing is going to take?:hugs:
Thanks CMD's Mum!! :hugs: I hope you get your BFP very soon!!
The doctor just said he'd see me in six weeks - and that they would test the embryo. I guess we'll discuss further tests when I see him.
Hi guys,
Just another question. I had about six blood tests because originally my hcg levels were not dropping, now they have dropped but i have been bleeding for about 22 days and i was wondering if this is normal, or should i see the doctor. No one had even suggested a d & c because when i had my ultrasound there was nothing to be found. I am eager to try again but worried that i'm not going to stop bleeding.
Mand
Muls. Am sure it wouldn't hurt to chat to your doctor.
I phoned my ob's secretary today and she's made me an appointment for me to see the doc in mid November when they will start doing bloods. Am thinking it's probably not a good idea for us to start trying until we have these bloods. So much waiting.
cmd'smum
09-10-2006, 21:16
Muls. Am sure it wouldn't hurt to chat to your doctor.
I phoned my ob's secretary today and she's made me an appointment for me to see the doc in mid November when they will start doing bloods. Am thinking it's probably not a good idea for us to start trying until we have these bloods. So much waiting.
:hugs: waiting sux! :mad: If you don't mind me asking, what was your Dr's opinion re when to TTC again?
I know you've prob heard stories like this before, but a very good friend of mine had 2 m/cs within a few months apart. She fell pg again for the third time and now has a healthy 15 month old DS.:hugs:
Hi guys,
Just another question. I had about six blood tests because originally my hcg levels were not dropping, now they have dropped but i have been bleeding for about 22 days and i was wondering if this is normal, or should i see the doctor. No one had even suggested a d & c because when i had my ultrasound there was nothing to be found. I am eager to try again but worried that i'm not going to stop bleeding.
Mand
I would be going to see my dr!
Hi Guys,
Thanks for your advice I will ring my doctor today and I will keep you posted.
Mand
:hugs: waiting sux! :mad: If you don't mind me asking, what was your Dr's opinion re when to TTC again?
I know you've prob heard stories like this before, but a very good friend of mine had 2 m/cs within a few months apart. She fell pg again for the third time and now has a healthy 15 month old DS.:hugs:
Thanks CMD's Mum!! :hugs: I am flying to Perth tomorrow - looking forward to seeing family to take my mind off it all. The ob and I haven't talked about ttc yet - just meeting up in six weeks for a check up and to start bloods. I think it would be sensible for us to wait until after our chat. We'll see how we feel anyway.
chindonly
10-10-2006, 10:14
Julie - I am so sorry * big hugs* to you!! I was so happy to read about your BFP.
We were in one of the preg threads awhile back. I lost mine too at that time and have lost another since ( last April) so I know how sad you must be feeling :-(
Keep believing that it will happen for you okay! We have one bub already and if for some reason it doesn't happen again then we know we are still very blessed - and I know this everyday:-)
I pray you get your 'one' too:yes:
Hi all i'm a little hesitant in asking this, but has anyone been on medication ( im assuming anti depressants) after a m/c. When it happened to me the Dr said he could give me some medication if it was all too much, though not recommended if i want to TTC. I'm not really thinking about it, because i don't think it work anyway:laughing:. I think i'd still be depressed if i saw a pregnant lady and we arre badly TTC.
In saying all this im not a blubbering mess who can't handle life, it's just that my mind constantly wonders back to it all and whenever im alone (especially at work) it's all can think about. So i don't think i'm need of them but just curious)
Hi Adria
I think about it all the time. I work in childcare and see mothers come in everyday annoncing their pregnancy and at the supermarket last night 13 ladies I passed were pregnant. It hurts so much especially since I am still bleeding. I need to keep trying though. I need to try and focus on being healthy and enjoying my families company - no medication is necessary you just need to look outside the box and look at what you have and what you want and work towards that and power on through the pain - never forget just remember how happy you were when you found out you were pregnant that works for me.
Love Mandy
Hi everyone,
I was wondering if I can join this group? After 3 m/c over the last 2 years I think I belong here… we started ttc#1 in may 05. we got pg but sadly m/c’d at 4.5 weeks in October 05 and then again in April this year. Due to my pcos, the doctor tried us out on puregon/iui with progesterone supplements and that worked – we got another BFP in june this year. Unfortunately, that little one was not meant to be. Our 12week scan showed that bub had a very abnormal heart rate and large nuchal fold measurement. Cvs tests showed there was a chromosome missing and we were told we would miscarry… At 13 w it was all over. We had the D&C on the 30 August and are now getting ready to try again… and truth be told, I am absolutely terrified. I really want to be pg again, but I am so scared of getting a bfp and then what will happen for the next 13 weeks after that… I hope I might be able to hang around here and chat to all of you
Bluey
Hi bluey, so sorry to see you here and to hear about your losses!
It's a good place to come just chat and have a vent!
cmd'smum
10-10-2006, 15:54
Hi Bluey, so sorry for your losses! :hugs:
I also had a m/c at 13 weeks, but tests showed that there was apparently nothing wrong? We are about to TTC with first cycle of Clomid and I'm also terrified of the first 13 weeks after getting a BFP!
Is there anything at all the Drs could do to prevent the chromosomal abnormality from reoccuring?
cmd'smum
10-10-2006, 16:06
Jules..... hope you have a great time in Perth. Please call me if you have time and or are up for a coffee as I would love to meet you! :hugs:
Adria.... I used to wonder the same thing. Its normal to still think about your m/c. I still think about mine too and what really annoys me is that I'm still not pregnant!! I just remind myself how lucky we are to have one beautiful DD and know that it will be my turn to have another one soon someday. When I see pregnant ladies, I just remind myself that I will be in their position very very soon!!!!:yes: My ob offered to send me to counselling, but I refused as I think I have handled the grieving process ok. However I know that come towards end of november I will feel :gloomy: as that would've been my due date! I just :fingerscrossed: that I will be pg again by then! Its good that when we all do get our BFPs we can support eachother through the worry.
Hi Guys,
Dr rang today and asked why I needed to speak to her. I explained that I am still bleeding and asked if this is normal, she said that the bleeding tapers off after about a week normally but didn't even seem worried that I have been bleeding for so long! She asked what the ultrasound lady had said and I explained that she said that she couldn't find anything so she said well there's no point doing another ultrasound so off for another blood test tomorrow - that will make 7 blood tests!
I wish I knew what was going on...This isn't normal....I really just want to start trying again but just won't stop bleeding.
Mand :confused:
Thanks Mandy for what you said earlier:)
What is the dr hoping to find in a blood test?:confused:
I would be inclined to see a different dr... bleeding for that long just doesn't seem quite right to me.
But trust yourself, listen to what your body is saying.
You could also go to the hospital.....though your wait may be long:thumbsdown:
I'm only guessing but maybe you do need a d&c and especially if you want to ttc, (which you do) TTC is a bit hard when your still bleeding.
R u back at work...? Are you lifting children? I was told that lifting wouldn't make a difference, but noticed i was bleeding heavier after work each night.
Hi Adria,
Yeh I am lifting children but I didn't get told not too. I am still clotting slightly so it's obviously not finished, I'm thinking maybe I need a D&C. I hope not I'm hoping it finishes - I've never been at hospital I'd be scared, but I do want this to finish so we can TTC ASAP! How long are you meant to wait after a D&C?
I'm worried but can't get into a decent doctor. The hospital were worst than the doctor - go home there's nothing we can do was their reply a couple of weeks ago when I went to emergency.
Mand
Hey Mandy.... sorry to hear that you can't get service you need.
We had to wait until the bleeding had stopped from the d&c b4 bd. Which took two weeks, which is why i am concerned, cause you may have an extra two weeks ontop of your 8 weeks already.....you poor thing. We were told to wait one cycle b4 trying again... i think its mainly so you have an idea of dates, but i guess it depends on the type of m/c, though i think yours and mine may have been the same thing.
THe hospital stay was short and an easy.
Good luck i hope the dr can help you
Thanks for the welcome ladies.
Cmd’s mum – no, there is nothing they can do about the chromosomal abnormality if it happens. It’s just one of those things. The one our little girl had is such a random event (1 in 2000 chance of happening) and it doesn’t increase our chances for the next one which is something I guess… we’re about to start ttc again although I still haven’t got my AF after the D&C… I have a suspicion that I might have managed to get pg again but am too terrified to test and about what implication that may have considering I haven’t had an AF since the m/c…does anyone know if your chances of a m/c increase after m/c or d&c?
Muls – how long have you been bleeding for? My FS said that anything more than 2 weeks is not normal and should be investigated.. there may be left over tissue etc that may need to be removed with a D&C… if you’re not happy with your current doctor, may I suggest finding someone else. Remember, it’s your body – you know when something is not right if that makes sense?
Hi guys
Thanks Bluey and Adria,
I am waiting for the blood test results tomorrow before ditching my doctor but just got my blood test in my lunch break and now my arm is killing me - it never normally hurts.
I hope they find whatever the problem so I can join you guys with the TTC. Just want to keep going and stop thinking about negativity.
Thanks heaps Mand
Jules.....
Adria.... I used to wonder the same thing. Its normal to still think about your m/c. I still think about mine too and what really annoys me is that I'm still not pregnant!! I just remind myself how lucky we are to have one beautiful DD and know that it will be my turn to have another one soon someday. When I see pregnant ladies, I just remind myself that I will be in their position very very soon!!!!:yes: My ob offered to send me to counselling, but I refused as I think I have handled the grieving process ok. However I know that come towards end of november I will feel :gloomy: as that would've been my due date! I just :fingerscrossed: that I will be pg again by then! Its good that when we all do get our BFPs we can support eachother through the worry.
Thanks for that i know everything you have said is true. I always said i'd be happy if i only ever had 1 girl and she was healthy and normal. I have that...and i am wonderfully blessed. But now i just want one more....lol
I'm sure it part of the grieving process...and i don't think counselling would make me feel any better...its not going to get me pregnant right?
I hope you get your BFP soon i don't know how i'll feel if im not pregnant by the 20th of feb.( come on body we have a dead line now!)
Thanks girls i could just never imagine it was going to be this hard!
marcelsmum
11-10-2006, 14:56
Well Girls AF arrived again yesterday:gloomy: ,
Oh well at least my cycle has sorted itself out - I now O at day 20and have a 13 day luteal phase, (or at least thats what I have had for the last 3 cycles) - It is a little diff than before the M/C - but at least I now know.
Bluey- My sister got PG the first cycle after a M/C and she now has a healthy 8 week old daughter - These things do happen.
Apparently and I'm no doctor - but this is what my sister was told, pregnancies in the first 3 months post misscarriage are quite frequent as the body is already prepared for pregnancy.
Take care everyone- I am getting ready for my big move - (a good thing as it is taking my mind off TTC and my M/C)
Marcelsmum - :hugs: next month! I just read your comment to Bluey and it has given me some hope- thankyou!
I still don't know when I actually m/c but I think it could have been 3 weeks ago, however I didn't know officially until last week.
Tonight I was sitting on the couch and I got up and felt like I'd wet myself - I went to the toilet and found clear gooey stuff (Sorry if TMI).
I still have no idea re the big "O" but I can only assume that this is a good sign :fingerscrossed:, particularly because I recently m/c...????
Anyone out there who can shed any light on this???
Cant help to much sorry..my bod is still so out of whack I have had pms symptoms for the past 2 wand half weeks but still no af. I have poas constantly and it showed I ovulated after my mc but still not af. How long did it take other peopel to get back a reg cycle after mc?
I had the whole ewcm etc at ovulation and then a bit more after so not sure if i did or not and my body is just playing tricks on me. Trouble is the more I stress about it the more af is goign to stay away I think.
Muls – (((HUGS))). It can be really hard:hugs:
Adria – (((BIG HUGS))) to you too. One never imagines being in the situation where you lose a baby. Personally, I didn’t have any counselling but I had my mum (a nurse) with me and that helped a lot… it’s a day at the time process getting over it. And trying again can be even more difficult… but we will all get through it and getting the BFP and a bub at the end of the line will be so worth it :)
Kirsty – yeah I have heard that too. I also heard that it’s also more frequent to get another m/c after the first one as your lining isn’t thick enough to sustain a pg. but this may not be true either… there is no studies to support either theory. Having said that, I don’t think this is our month despite all the symptoms. I think it’s just my body recovering after D&C. MY temperature dropped down today and I’ve started cramping which would put me right online to have a 12 day LP as per usual. Just waiting for AF to turn up today… sigh.. on a positive note, it does mean DH and I can start our assisted cycle soon – we’re going to do puregon injections and iui due to my ovulation issues…:yelclap:
Keesha – sounds like EWCM that you get around O time to me… get BDing! ;)
India44 – I don’t know about others, but I have found I get several patches of EWCM before O. but that is mainly dues to my pcos. I can only really tell whether I have O’d by either BT or charting…
Anyway, I’ve rambled enough – got to get back to work. Babydust to everyone
Marcelsmum so sorry Af turned up....its such a disappointment when it does arrive.
India44 after the d&c i had a 24 days cycle than a 21 day cycle, than a 28...we will wait to see what the next one is..
So that was technically two cycles to get back to normal
Keesha i agree with bluey04... bd now!..lol
Well im stuck with a deliema..(when am i not?:laughing:)
Sorry about the TMI but when i squeeze one of my breasts i get milk/discharge. But only when i squeeze. I read is
The medical term for losing milk from your breasts is 'galactorrhoea' and there are a number of causes. These include an underactive thyroid gland and physical stimulation of the nipples, although in many cases there appears to be no obvious reason. The most important possible cause from your point of view is overproduction of the hormone prolactin. This is the hormone which naturally stimulates milk production during pregnancy and breastfeeding. When too much is produced at other times, it can prevent ovulation and lead to subfertility. I think it would be a good idea for you to have a blood sample taken to check your prolactin level.
Opk are showing im ovulating ....do you think i should go and have it checked out. Im kinda scared cause im there every couple of weeks about something, and im still not pregnant and i keep asking the dr questions about it.
Or should i just hold out a bit longer.
Should i go back on the pill...maybe that would dry up the milk and i have always fallen pg first monh of the pill.
Thanks guys
marcelsmum
12-10-2006, 12:38
Adria- I am exactly the same - discharge out of one of my nipples and only one, This never happened before I had the M/C, It only happens when Im in the shower (hot water) I have tried squeezing when I am not in the shower and nothing happens. Hmm Odd:confused: .
I have asked about it but was told not to worry some women get it during and after pregnancy, but I still find it odd. I'm pretty sure I am ovulating as my cycle is now pretty regular, I have also had some pretty definite lines on my OPK.
If you get told it could be inhibiting ovulation let me know.
India- I didn't get my period for 45 days following the M/C - my last 3 cycles have been 33 days. Beore the M/c I was 28- 31 days. I guess it takes a while. I actually want my cycle to stay at 33 days, cause I have O'd on day 20 each time, - It takes the guessing out of TTC If I know thats when I am going to O.
Oh I hope it;s not 45 days I am so over it I am bloated beyond belief and so very uncomfortable..I cant stand to be away from my husband but cant stand him to touch me either becasue I am so sore all over. :-)
I had bloods yesterday becasue I need tohave some antibiotics and they wer eof course negative which I knew they woudl be but I stil got upset at being told I wasnt pregnant..silly I know.
GIVE ME AF PLEEEEEEEEEEEEASE I need a good clean out *L*
India44 – lol.. it really does vary from person to person. With my early m/c’s Af came back after 30ish days. With the last one at 13 weeks only just arrived – day 45… anywhere between 4-8 weeks is normal though.
Adria – sorry can’t help on the milk thing. My motto is’ if in doubt ask’ so I would talk to my gp regardless even if I am seeing here pretty much every week so something…lol..
Marcelsmum – hi!
Hi Guys, :wave:
Sorry haven't got any results for you yet I'm still waiting on the doctor to get back to me. The results have taken 3 days this time instead of the next day so I'm a bit worried there may be something wrong - well obviously there is I'm still bleeding (23 days and counting). It's my 1st wedding anniversary on the 29th of October and I'm hoping they've figured something out by then so we can relax.
I probably joined this thread too early because I can't even TTC at the moment but I'm waiting............
Thanks
Mand
HI guys, thanks for all your responses.... have been thinking about it over the weekend, talked to DH about it and decided if im not pregnan this month ill go to talk to dr. MIght go back on the pill for a few months. (might be a good to be ttc and just have a lay back approach next time.
Muls- can't wait to hear what your blood tests say and what is happening... all very strange
marcelsmum
16-10-2006, 12:00
Muls- Don't worry it is not to early to join this thread, It's still nice to have people to talk to, Just cause you are still bleeding doesn't mean that you don't want to TTC- Feel free to vent as much as you need with us.
Adria- :fingerscrossed: - I hope you get some answers soon, and let me know if your Dr says the discharge thing could be hampering TTC in any way.
I realised how bad it was on the weekend when my little 6 week old neice was sniffing around my boosies while I was holding her, she kept opening her mouth like she wanted a feed, My sister said she had only ever seen her do that when she could smell milk.:confused: .
OOOH I am so desperate to fall PG again I need a bub to love and kiss and take care of DS is just getting too old and independant now:banghead:
Hi guys :wave:
The Dr rang today and said that my levels have dropped again slightly but were still a little bit higher than they should be and that my body was just releasing the hormone slowly. She said she spoke with another dr about what was happening to me and they looked over the ultrasound results and found nothing so there is no point even trying to do a d&c. She has said that after the m/c bleeding stops I will probably start my period and not even know. So crossed fingers the bleeding stops and I've already had my period and I can start making this damn baby that I think about, dream about and wish for soo badly.
Baby dust to all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Luv Mand
Hi muls, i don't know what more to say... except hold in there.
Marselsmum- that must have been hard on you, with the baby smelling milk.
And yes my DD hates being caught and kissed to death.."no mummy, no kisses" douh! oh well.
But now i have given my body the ultimation make me pregnant or back to dr for possiable the pill, or something drastic, hopefully i will have it all sorted. If i do end up going to the dr about this milk thing, you will be the first to know all about what he said. My dr is blood test happy, so no doubt that will be the first step!
AM up to 42 days after mc with no af but looks like I might be ovulating so:fingerscrossed: the next period I skip will be becasue I am utd.
Hi Ladies
Sorry I haven't posted for the last week but have been away in Perth catching up with family. It was nice to have the change of scenergy to take my mind off everything.
Just a quick question - has anyone noticed they have sensitive bowels after their m/c? On Sunday night I had fish and chips and then yesterday morning I woke up in agony like I had bad constipation or something. I family managed some movement but my stomach was in agony all day - to the point where I could hardly walk - and had to take panadeine to get through. I phoned the ob's secretary and she's arranged a scan for tomorrow (had some heavier bleeding too) but today I've been okay. When I was pg it felt like my bowels were a little sore so am wondering if it's all connected. I might cancel the scan tomorrow 'cos all feels fine now. Very strange.
cmd'smum
17-10-2006, 23:36
Hi jules! Glad you're back!
Hmmm.......no can't remember that happening to me after my D&C. Maybe just keep the appointment for tomorrow anyway just for piece of mind?? I guess our bodies do weird things when they're readjusting!
I read you're going to TTC in November in the November thread........ how exciting for you! Am sure you will get your BFP in no time!:hugs:
Thanks CMD's Mum. I'm not sure I'm honestly ready to ttc - I think it will be more us going with the flow for a while. I'll keep the scan appointment just to ensure all is okay. A friend of mine is having all sorts of complications after her d&c and so I think it's best to know now that all has been removed safely.
How are you going?
Hi Guys,
I could see that no-one has posted for a while and I'd like to try and keep this post going.
I finally stopped bleeding on Monday!!!! :thumbsup:
I've already started TTC even though I have no idea where I am at in my cycle. It's so exciting to be able to try again, I though the bleeding would never end.
I hope everything is going well for everyone else.
I can't wait to hear from the rest of you how you are and where you are at.
SOOOOOOOOOOO excited had to share!!
Mandy
Hey Muls
Glad to hear the bleeding has stopped!! Yes you are right we should keep this thread going. My bleeding has stopped finally aswell. Am thinking of ttc although am wondering if I should wait until after AF.
How is everyone else going?
Julie
Muls and morganj its so nice once the bleeding stops. You kinda feel normal again. I hope you girls fall pregnant first go!
Well i no longer belong here, i got a BFP last sunday and 5 weeks today. Due end of June.
I hope to see this thread continue as well, something i was thinking of starting was a testing calander after a m/c.... they have one for thoses on clomid...so why not.
To everyone else good luck hope you get your BFP real SOON!
Adria - that is fantastic news!! Well done. Am so happy for you.
I'm not really into testing calendars - just like to chat without the pressure and let us all go with the flow. What do you guys think? I like the support of this thread - somewhere to chat about how we're feeling. Which is different to those who haven't experience one or more m/cs. My hubby and I have only bd'd once or twice in the last three weeks as I've been bleeding most of the time - so I'm not sure we will have any joy with catching the egg this month. I think I'll wait until AF and then try properly.
Hi may I join
I had an early mc in april and then tried for a bit and then stopped trying to plan and execute our wedding (next weekend). I started a new cycle today and this cycle will give it a good thrashingly hard go at TTC.
Still feel nervous that something isn't quite right in my system but all tests have been fine.
Good luck everyone
cmd'smum
28-10-2006, 15:42
Hi girls :wave:
Jules...I'm ok thx.... am on CD18 and waiting to O. I'm waiting for some BT results from a test I did this morning to see how close to O I am so :fingerscrossed:
Adria...congratulations on your BFP, I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy.
I was also nervous about TTC after my M/C, the same questions that were going through your minds were going through mine. Tests showed we were ok to TTC, still was scared though. At the end of the day I thought, well if my body is ready and it's meant to be then we will get a :bfp: . It really depends on how you feel about it though. I know I felt much more confident after I had my first proper AF!
Hope you girls are having a fantastic weekend! Hope Adria's baby dust rubs off on everyone in this thread!
:hugs:
Hi guys,
Congratulations Adria thats fantastic news about your BFP!!!!!
Send some of your baby dust my way.
Happy to be hope your wedding goes great on the weekend. Maybe you will get a nice honeymoon suprise!
It was our first wedding anniversary today and we went away for the weekend and relaxed. It was really nice. We have started to TTC even though I haven't had AF yet but fingers crossed I'm ovulating.
Hope to here some good news off all of you soon.
Mand
marcelsmum
31-10-2006, 13:35
Well girls, It has been a while since I logged on - I have now officially moved to Brisbane. Arrrrgggghhh what a hassle that was.
I still do not have the internet at home So I can only log on during my lunch break,
Well It is 2DPO for me - but I am not feeling overly confident this month, Because of the move we were to tired to BD to much, We did manage to BD on O day and also about 4 days before. so who knows.
- Congratulations Adria - well done I hope we will all be joining you soon,
- Happy to be - have a great day this weekend - I can feel a honeymoon bub coming on.
Good luck to everyone else .
Just want to say thanks for the Thread Marcels Mum.
My scan went well and we have a baby this time round:smiliedance:, so ill be offically leaving this thread. Good luck to all and im leaving you lots of postive baby dust:wizard:
cmd'smum
13-11-2006, 09:52
Adria, that is fantastic news!:hugs: :hugs:
Have a wonderful pregnancy!
How is everyone else doing these days?
Adria - that is fantastic news!! :smiliedance:
I am still waiting for O after my d&c five weeks ago. Am getting stronger each day although am still having a few teary moments. How is everyone else going?
Hi all :wave:
Can I join too? I had a M/C in August (at 10.5 weeks) and we weren't quite ready to jump back on the horse straight away as it took a huge toll on me emotionally and I was advised by my Doctor to wait as there were some ongoing health issues which meant that TTC would have been a bad idea at that time. Am fully recovered now and we're going to start again after the next af :smiliedance: .
I can't wait to be pg again, but am terrified of the thought of losing another bub. It's great to know that there are others out here that feel the same and I can't wait to read about all of your BFP's (hopefully very soon :fingerscrossed: ).
KatieKitten
13-11-2006, 16:06
Hi everyone - does anyone know when you can start TTC after m/c? I miscarried today at 5 weeks :no: I realise i will need time but i also want to be informed about how soon i can start (the sooner the better). Please let me know.... thanks
KatieKitten - :hugs: I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Take care of yourself. I think you can start trying as soon as you feel you are ready. Good luck with it all. Take care and big hugs.
Milis - welcome to the thread! Sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you get a BFP again very soon. Feel free to PM or MSN me if you want to chat.
Hi everyone, it's been a while.....Unfortunately I don't have a BFP to report:no: well not yet anyway. I too have had strange things happen since the m/c and just wish my AF would come once and for all. I was positive I ovulated last month and then I had spotting for about 5 days, spotting that was exactly the same after the m/c...not sure if it was some half **** AF or not or just some left over (Sorry if TMI). I'm still TTC big time but it's a bit hard if you're not ovulating and since the m/c I have no idea where I'm at with my cycles. I don't really know how I feel about it all now, it's some what surreal the m/c. Has anyone noticed as soon as you m/c you see pregnant women everywhere, everday....??? They make it all look so easy but I'm sure that some of them have taken the windy road that we have..
Goodluck to you all and I hope that we all get the xmas present we all want:bfp: xxxx
KatieKitten
13-11-2006, 20:12
Thanks guys - i guess it will be interesting to see how soon i ovulate after todays nightmare...
good luck every1
cmd'smum
13-11-2006, 22:57
Kattie...... sorry again for your loss, MorganJ is right about TTC again. ?Look after yourself sweety :hugs:
I have been spotting today so it looks like AF is here already (unless it's an implantation bleed - wishful thinking). AFter my first m/c it took 8 or 9 weeks to return - and it's only 5 and a half weeks so am really pleased. :smiliedance:
Morganj - thanks for the warm welcome, and great news that AF is back! May it be the last one for at least 9 months ;) .
KatieKitten: Sorry about your loss, it took me about 6 weeks to get my af back after my m/c, I hope your cycles get back on track soon.
Keesha: I can definitely relate to seeing pg women everywhere, and I hope you get to the bottom of what is going on with your AF... there's no way you could already be pg again is there? Just thought I'd ask as I've heard some women get a lightish AF during the first few months of pg, and if you haven't ovulated - maybe???
Well, not much happening here, I'm just waiting for AF so that we can finally start trying for that Xmas BFP:smiliedance: .
Hey Ladies!! How are we all. Well after 8 and a half weeks - AF has finally returned (last one three weeks ago was only spotting) and we are back in the fun world of ttc!! Hopefully we will all start the New Year off with a sticky BFP!!
cmd'smum
05-12-2006, 15:01
Hi girls
Just wanted to send you loads of :wizard: and a :bfp: for :tree:
Good luck!
xo
marcelsmum
05-12-2006, 15:58
Julie - good luck hunny - I hope you get that BFP really really soon.
CMD's Mum- CONGRATULATIONS, you deserve it, best wishes for a happy uneventful pregnancy.
- How is everyone else going?
I am resorting to desperate measures to get a BFP, I am willing to try anything now. Any suggestions?
Well everyone have a good :tree: -
All I want for Christmas is my 2 big lines.
Well I thought AF was here - turns out it was just spotting again. I wish I knew what was going on:confused:
Kirsty - the three things that have helped me get my two BFPS are chinese herbs/acupuncture, opks and charting. Not sure if that helps at all. Do you chart? Are your cycles quite regular? :hugs: I hope you get a BFP very soon hon!
Sorry girls I did not know where to post the questions i have about pregnancy after m/c.
I had a m/c in september 06 at 11 weeks
Been trying TTC ever since and relized after looking on another forum that i might not be ovulation so I have know brought an ovulation kit, just started testing 2day. I was lucky and got my period the next month.
I just wanted to know how long it took for you girls to start ovulating again?
Den - I am so so sorry to hear of your loss. Unfortunately I have no idea for me if I have O'd yet. My m/c was two months ago and I still haven't had a proper AF - only spotting to teast me. My temps don't indicate I've O'd even though I've had cramps and cm to indicate I have. I have just figured that I need to let my body sort itself out until AF arrives properly. Then I will start monitoring properly and hopefully will O shorlty thereafter.
oscarsmilkbar
05-12-2006, 21:58
Hi guys..thought I'd jumo in on this thread and say that I have been TTC #2 since our M/C in August this year. I ended up requiring a second D&C in September due to large blood clots forming but all seems to be well in the land of the uterus now!
My October and November AF were on target but I was due for AF on 2/12 and no sign...hoping that somthing good is happening..have had negative tests but no symptoms of AF appearing. I normally have about a 3 day lead up of bloating and cramping but not this time.
It has been replaced by tingling boobs, nausea and tiredness so if AF still hasn't shown up next Tues I'll head to the Dr's for a blood test......stay away AF!!!!!!!
Sounds very promising - :fingerscrossed: for you!!
Sounds promising oscarsmilkbar - keep us posted!
Julie - how frustrating for you! I really hope your cycles sort themselves out soon and you start the new year off with a bfp :fingerscrossed: .
den - sorry for your loss :hugs: . It was about 4 weeks before I ovulated after my m/c, but it's still a little erratic even now (4 months later).
Well, I think I'm still waiting to 'o' here. My temps are still pretty low, but I think it's due to happen in the next couple of days, and then it's the TWW for me.
kyannas*mum*
06-12-2006, 08:09
hi all,
although not ready to ttc as yet i have come to join you guys for the 2nd time around i had first mc in july and have just had my 2nd on 8th nov d&c on the 9th so really not to much happening yet
all i wanted after 1st mc was to be preg again and after the first i was within a month ttc was consuming me so i have decided to shift my focus this month on trying to lose some weight first and have joind tony furgason till i fall pg
well hope to hear some :bfp: soon and in the new year ill be activly ttc again
marcelsmum
06-12-2006, 11:58
Den- I too am starting to wonder if I am ovulating,
I have been taking my temps and they have consistently shown a rize on about day 20 (except last month when I was moving and couldn't bother temping.) I have had 2 positive OPKs (1 last month and one the month before) But I have not had much CM at all since the M/C. before the M/C I was on a 28-30 day cycle, now I seem to be on a 33 day cycle. (3 out of the 5 months since the M/C)
I think the only way to confirm if you are ovulating is to get a blood test - at least that is what some of the other forums have said, I will be contacting a FS and getting everything checked out if I am still not pg by February, (6 cycles of trying post m/c)
Arrgh as soon as I think my body is going back to normal it plays up on me 4 months of 33 day cylcles and then last month bang I have a 37 day cycle:banghead:
Hi girls thanks for all your answers and support.
Maybe santa will give us a presious gift for christmas. :xmas:
I wish all of you the best of luck.
well i think i am one o fthe lucky ones as i got my AF back exactly 28 days after my d&c and it has just finished. We are going to TTC again this month so i will be testing around the 27th December.
I am so nervous though to get a BFP as i will be panicking the whole pregnancy i reckon! It took us 2 tries to fall pregnant with DD and 7 months to fall pregnant again after her and that ended in a m/c so i hope it doesn't take as long again.
I suppose my body will only let me fall pregnant when it is ready and healed.
Good luck to everyone else.
Good luck this month - I hope it doesn't take so long this time for you to get your BFP!!
I am still waiting for AF!! :confused:
xpectant
07-12-2006, 17:58
Hi!
All the best to everyone hoping for BFPs this month. The last few days I have had lots of CM - does anyone know what this means? It seems to be lots more than I usually have. Does it mean I can expect AF back soon? It's only been 16 days since m/c.
Hi!
All the best to everyone hoping for BFPs this month. The last few days I have had lots of CM - does anyone know what this means? It seems to be lots more than I usually have. Does it mean I can expect AF back soon? It's only been 16 days since m/c.
You could be o'ing - i did 16 days after D&C and that is my normal cycle (28 days with O on CD16 - 12 day luteal phase)
:fingerscrossed: that your body bounces back as quickly as mine seems to have - i am quite shocked it has behaved as if i was never pregnant.
That is one of the annoying things - i am so regular its scary and yet it took me 7 cycles last time to fall pregnant - how does that work? I suppose it "just has to be the right time" as everyone keeps telling me. Doesn't stop me from feeling anxious and impatient thugh!
Well still no sign of AF here so I have decided to do a HPT tomorrow!! :fingerscrossed: for me. I have my doubts but my chinese herbalist thinks there's a possibility. :confused:
luckymama
08-12-2006, 16:28
Wow goodluck Julie :fingerscrossed:
Just wondering how long everyone o'd after their miscarriages, mine was 10 days ago, at around 5 weeks. I o'd CD 21 the cycle i got my BFP, but am on metformin again, so hopefully is earlier, what do you all think?
WFMH - Everyone seems to be different!! I didn't think I'd even O'd as my temps haven't done much. I remembre after my first m/c it took six weeks for me to O, but others just go on as before. I hope you don't have to wait too long.
marcelsmum
09-12-2006, 18:04
WFMH- I am so sorry aout your M/C- hopefully you are one of those people whos cycle jumps back straight away. apparently (told to me by my DR.) the chances of a succesful pregnancy in the first few months after a M/C are very high- something about the body being hormanally primed for it.
I really hope you get that succesful pg really soon. you deserve it.
Julie how you going any news yet- I want to hear all about it.
Well I do not know where I am in my cycle now- I went and bought another BBT thermometer yesterday and compared it to the two I already have (one the battery is nearly gone and the other one just was giving me odd temoeratures and only measured to one decimal, well all three are giving very different temps. I am going to trust my new BBt one though, I am pretty sure I o'd in the last few days but I just cant be sure.
Take care girls- you know I love you all and we all are (or soon will be) the best mums ever.
marcelsmum
09-12-2006, 18:05
WFMH- does metaformon help - I really want my cycle lenghts to go down?
Kirsty - acupuncture and chinese herbs are good for regulating cycles if you can find a reputable chinese herbalist.
Did anyone else find that their first AF was extremely light after their m/c? I had spotting for most of last week and my GP thinks it may have been AF:confused: She said that there isn't much in the way of lining to come away after a d&c hence only having a very light AF. Just so confused.
cmd'smum
11-12-2006, 22:31
Kirsty - acupuncture and chinese herbs are good for regulating cycles if you can find a reputable chinese herbalist.
Did anyone else find that their first AF was extremely light after their m/c? I had spotting for most of last week and my GP thinks it may have been AF:confused: She said that there isn't much in the way of lining to come away after a d&c hence only having a very light AF. Just so confused.
Hi Jules. My 1st AF after my d/c was very heavy and lasted for 12 days :eek: . I even bled 2 weeks after D&C. I guess everyone is diff though. Out of curiosity, have you tried doing a hpt?
Hope you lovely ladies are all doing well :hugs:
Finally 13 weeks after misscarriage AF arrived in full force. 4 days of spotting then (tmi here) I bled like I wasnt goin to stop. What a huge range of emotions. Relief it had arrived, grief because I wasn't pregnant, excitment becasue now we can try again.
I bought some new opk's and bbt themometer this week so wish me luck as I climb back up on the wagon so to speak.
:wizard: for everybody I Hope Santa brings us all what we are wishing for.
India - 13 weeks!! I guess I shouldn't be complaing at 9 and a half weeks then. I've had lots of spotting on and off though. I hope you get a BFP very soon!!
CMD's Mum - got a BFN on the weekend - although will try again this weekend just incase. I feel very dizzy and tired but I think it might be just exhaustion and the heat.
Last night I got a copy of a letter in the mail which was from The Alfred address to my obstetrician, in response to some enquiries he's made about my blood results and a mutation that was detected. So it seems the bloods weren't such a waste of time after all (which my gp ordered and he said weren't necessary). A nice way to find out about it all though - not!!! I am just too upset to phone the ob myself so DH is going to phone him tomorrow when he gets back from interstate. He thinks it's all positive though 'cos the ob is doing everything he can to help us - but none of this has been mentioned to us and here we are ttc'ing again without any knowledge of any of this!! I just feel so angry and hurt.
Bunny_79
14-12-2006, 09:38
Oh Morjanj:hugs:
I hope that everything works out ok and the results r nothing to worry about :fingerscrossed: for good news.
marcelsmum
14-12-2006, 14:59
Oh Julie,
I hope this gives you some answers- there are so many things that can be done once the causes of misscarriages are known, :fingerscrossed: for some answers that will helplead you to a succesful pg
:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
Thanks ladies. I finally phoned the ob and he said that the results all come back fine and that he had just been making some further enquiries, but there is nothing for us to worry about, and that there is no reason why I can't carry a pg full term un assisted!! Thanks again! :hugs:
xpectant
29-12-2006, 08:38
Hi - just wanting some advice. I had a m/c on 21 Nov and then af came 13 Dec. Yesterday and the day before I have had some brown discharge and am not sure what this is? I don't think it could be implantation bleeding as it only 15 days since my first day of period. Any thoughts? I don't have any pg symptoms like I did with my failed pg.:confused:
marcelsmum
29-12-2006, 09:52
Hi Veiled.
I too had spotting in my first cycle after my m/c,
I have not had it before or since then, a friend of mine told me it may have been ovulation spotting, (I didn't know this happened, but apparently it can)
Who knows- I guess If you are worried about it call your GP or the health hotline.
If you are PG and it is implantation don't worry about not having symptoms- It is waaaaaay to early for them to start.
Good luck - and try not to stress:o
xpectant
29-12-2006, 16:06
wow, marcelsmum - I've never heard of that. I thought I would be past my o time but being first af after m/c who knows?? Seems strange though. Not sure what to expect or think.
Good Morning Ladies
How are we all going? Happy New Year to you all. Well after three long months my AF finally returned in full swing a week ago so we are now getting ready to finally ttc again (six months after last falling pg - where does the time go). How is everyone else going with ttc?
Julie
YAYAYYAYAY MORGANJ!
I feel so happy for you that you are finally getting your normal cycle back!
We are still just plodding along on the neverending race to catch the egg!!! :laughing:
No luck so far but i feel like it might happen soon.
I worked out that if i fell pregnant this month i would be due on my birthday! Also it would be another Libran (my DH, DD & I are all librans). That would be pretty funny.
How are you all feeling about TTC again. I still kind of feel nervous about it.
Hi Abeckaj
My birthday is in October too - am also a Libran. I have been thinking the same. Although I turn 37 in October so am a bit down about that. I just feel like I"m too old to be ttc'ing for my first child now. When I started ttc two years ago I thought I'd be thinking about No 2 now, not still trying for No 1. Have to stay strong I guess. I don't know what I'll do if I m/c again - I guess I'll cope but not sure if I could ttc again if I had to go through all this again.
:fingerscrossed: for you!!
Julie
sniper wolf
09-01-2007, 10:02
come on morgan - it's just a number - the best thing you can do is to be as healthy as you can.
my mum had me when she was 41 (although she had had 3 kids previously). plenty of women have kids post-35, dunwurryabootit, she'll be cool!!!!!:cool:
Hi Abeckaj
My birthday is in October too - am also a Libran. I have been thinking the same. Although I turn 37 in October so am a bit down about that. I just feel like I"m too old to be ttc'ing for my first child now. When I started ttc two years ago I thought I'd be thinking about No 2 now, not still trying for No 1. Have to stay strong I guess. I don't know what I'll do if I m/c again - I guess I'll cope but not sure if I could ttc again if I had to go through all this again.
:fingerscrossed: for you!!
Julie
My Dh is 26th September, Mine on 2nd October and DD on 19th October! A lady i know had 3 out of 4 sons on her own birthday!
I am quite lucky that i am still only very young so i don't have that added pressure of thinking i am too old. I am also blessed to have already had one helathy child too so i think will send most of my baby dust to you so that you can also have the joy of being a mum!
I'll just keep a tiny little bit for me so i can maybe have a sibling for DD! :D
:fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: for all of us!
come on morgan - it's just a number - the best thing you can do is to be as healthy as you can.
my mum had me when she was 41 (although she had had 3 kids previously). plenty of women have kids post-35, dunwurryabootit, she'll be cool!!!!!:cool:
Thanks Snake Eater!! :hugs: I am still very yound in mind and body - I just keep trying to tell myself that my age doesn't matter - it's more how I feel. How are you feeling these days? I am CD 9 so we're on the same track I see. Fingers crossed this is our month.
Abeckaj - My birthday is 16th October. Would love to have a bub on my birthday!! What a great present that would be. :smiliedance:
sniper wolf
09-01-2007, 10:28
yeah i'm going swimmingly thanks. like everyone else i'm waiting around ready to strike like a panther. although i think it is important not to wish too much of one's life away with this whole waiting bizzo.:thumbsup:
easier said than done i know.:rolleyes:
It is important to not wish your life away. I'm trying to make the most of each day as I know that I won't have the same freedom I have now when I'm a Mum.
:wave: hello,
I have been reading this tread and thought I would put my two cents in! I had a m/c in August 06 and again in end October 2006. we are now TTC for the third time and im waiting to hear if im pregnant (AF due on friday). Im totally nervous and worried about whether i am pregnant and if i am whether it will last! Very frustrating! anyways best of luck guys hope that it all works for you and you get the little one your hoping for.
Bexter11
15-01-2007, 19:30
I don't really know what category I fit in at the moment, but I'm guessing I fit the TTC after M/C (induced)?
On Friday before Xmas I had my 12 week scan only to be told there was a 1:4 chance our bub had a cromosome abnomality, but due to the 4 day xmas break we had to wait to have further tests...
We were ment to announce to our friends and family on xmas eve and xmas day that we were expecting :( The first bub on both sides with Xmas presents already wrapped and ready for bub...
I had a painful and emotional CVS test on the following Wednesday and had to wait a further 24 hours to know more...
The Dr phoned at 5pm to confirm our bub had down syndrome. My husband and I had already decided this was going to be the outcome, not allowing ourselves the chance to believe it could be good news and therefore had made the gut renching decision to terminate the pregnancy.
As if that wasn't enough, I then had to wait until the following Tuesday when my Dr came back from holidays to discuss next steps....
More bad news to come, as I was then nearly 14 weeks my Dr decided it would be better to induce a miscarraige/labour so as to reduce the possibility of scaring and future problems with conception. I had a grueling 3 days in hospital followed by an emergency D&C... I still cry everyday and feel like this story belongs to another person.
Today is day 11 and the bleeding is on and off, I also have PCOS and am praying that I get my AF back in the next 4 - 6 weeks....
Good luck everyone, I hope there are some BFP coming our way shortly to help eze the pain!
sniper wolf
16-01-2007, 08:30
:no: oh man...:hugs: to you...
hope you get well quickly.
Kmika - welcome to the thread and :fingerscrossed: for you!!
Bexter11 - I am so so sorry!! Feel free to chat away and get it all off your chest. Big hugs to you!! :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
Bexter11
16-01-2007, 18:08
Thanks Moran J and Snake Eater. I sure did vent in my last post! Probably because we have only had the support of our very close family during this time.
I think the vent was a result of going back to work yesterday was hard after 3 weeks of planned annual leave. We were supposed to go to NZ but couldn't because of what happened, the trip had been planned for over 6 months...
So telling lies to close friends and colleagues at work about why we didn't go and then when you try to just say you were unwell and had a short stay in hospital every asks what was wrong?!?!
Luckily a close friend works in the hospital I went to and was able to help me to make up a plausable story for close friends and I have just ignored the question from colleagues. Just all adds to the emotial stress of the past couple of weeks
Sorry more venting, still very raw....:crying: Thank god for this site and you kind ladies!
Question: May contain TMI! Did any of you have a watery light brown fluid after your D&C towards the end of the bleeding that came in patches and just gushed out? I have had a few of these but no real red for a few days... Could the bleeding be nearing the end?
Bexter11 - vent away!! It's the best thing you can do right now!! I wish I had vented more too - I just felt so angry and teary for ages. After my break at Christmas I am starting to feel strong emotionally now and feel that I am ready to ttc this month!! The bleeding sounds very normal - mine was all over the place for a good seven to ten days. Don't be surprised if the red bleeding comes back - I had a lot of red blood a week after. Big hugs to you hon. You have really been through a lot!! :hugs: :hugs:
Bexter - Wow your story sounds so similar to mine! I found out I was pregnant on 8th Dec but then we got told on 22nd Dec that my baby had not a very good chance of survival due to low HCG levels. I went through xmas worrying and stressing and then got told the following week that my oestrogen had dropped and my HCG still low so my baby had a 1% chance of survival. New Years was hell and then 5 days later a scan revealed that my baby had died. They had to schedual a D&C and they were talking about doing it the following week (after the holidays!) I was so upset and kicked up a bit of a fuss so they got the doc in and they did it that day. I was 8 weeks pregnant. I had light brown discharge for over a week after my D&C. It finally cleared up on the weekend. Tomorrow is 2 weeks since my D&C and I know how you feel, I still have a cry almost every day. Its very sad. Vent away, that is what this thread is here for! :hugs:
nappiestacks
14-06-2007, 13:03
Hi Everyone,
I was pregnant for the very first time and lost my baby about 2 weeks ago. I was 10 weeks pregnant when i had my D/C done.
At the moment, I can't wait to try again but feeling scared at the same time.
I'm scared that it will happen again and i don't know how am i going to face it if it happens for the second time.
Does anyone know how long you should wait before you try again and does anyone have succesfull pregnancy after misscariage?
Thanks!
Hi nappiestacks!
I was 11 weeks when I m/c and had my D&C done as well. Most people try and wait for a cycle after their D&C to make sure all is well before trying again but some (like me) didn't bother waiting (or couldn't wait :D )
My doc said it was ok if I wanted to try soon after the D&C as long as the after bleeding had subsided - I fell pregnant soon after my D&C - they say sometimes it's easy to fall pregnant soon after because you are nice and "clean" there....
Anyway sorry to hear about your loss, a lot of us have gone through exactly the same thing and then TTC again but you aren't alone and we are all here for support.
All the very best :hugs:
Also meant to add that there are lots of successful pregnancies after a m/c - it's not as uncommon as it seems even though you feel so alone sometimes. I've known many many people (every woman on both sides of my family too have had m/c's at some point but yet have had children) to have m/c before their first child and even after they have had children.
nappiestacks
14-06-2007, 13:29
Dear Emily's Mom,
Thanks for your quick response.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for this time.
My obs asked me to wait for at least 3 periods and i dunno whether i can wait for that long :D
But one thing i know, if i get pregnant again, i will keep it to myself (and my husband of course) for at least 4 months, just to be safe!
I will let u know how i go.
Wish me luck!
Yup yup :yes: your OB just probably wants to make sure your cycle is all well but I know waiting 3 periods would be just too much for me! I couldn't wait!!! I was sooo miserable after the m/c that I just wanted to jump straight back onto the bandwagon so to speak.... :D
But all the best and :fingerscrossed: !!!
oh and I didn't tell some people that I was pregnant again until I had the big anatomy scan at 19 weeks so totally understand how you feel!! (although some smart people guessed)
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