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Okay, so this might sound a bit strange, but since I lost bubs I've become obssessed with doing something to remember him/her. I've decided maybe a tattoo might be one way of doing this, but my DP thinks I'm being morbid. Has anyone else gotten a tattoo in remembrance of a loss? What else do people do to remember their angel babies? :crying:
rynosmum
07-09-2006, 20:22
No it's not morbid at all.
I planted a garden when I came home from hospital (after my D&C) but we moved:( .
I still have a treasure box with her ultrasound pictures and a little teddy angel that a friend gave me before bubs had passed.
I shed a few tears every year at the time we lost her. Not morbid, it's remembering someone who grew inside you and was a part of you and your family.:hugs:
*Sparkles*
07-09-2006, 20:27
Okay, so this might sound a bit strange, but since I lost bubs I've become obssessed with doing something to remember him/her. I've decided maybe a tattoo might be one way of doing this, but my DP thinks I'm being morbid. Has anyone else gotten a tattoo in remembrance of a loss? What else do people do to remember their angel babies? :crying:
Was your loss as a result of a M/C or a full term bub? It's hard to offer advice without knowing the full circumstances.
However, it's important to morn the loss of a child, but also some closure is needed so if you got a tattoo, would that be a permanent painful reminder? I will probably post again when I know more info.
Very sorry for your loss :hugs:
It is certianly not morbid at all.
I would have loved to get a tattoo as well, but DH begged me not too. Instead he made me a little id bracelet with the name on it. We called him Thomas.
I also have a little box with ultrasound piccies and a teddy.
Im really sorry for your loss, and hope that you find a way of remembering your little angel.
Lots of :hugs: for you.
Blessed Mum
07-09-2006, 20:45
Not morbid at all , if that's what you would like to do then do it. I like the idea. I have two seperate friends one who miscarried & one whose bubba died of SIDS & each of them have their bubbas name tattooed on them.
Hels, the bubbie was an M/C at 14 weeks. It only happened 2 weeks ago and is still very painful. I thought of planting something but plants tend to die on me, whereas a tattoo I thought would be a more permanent reminder. Anyway, I haven't decided yet, until I get more feedback. Thanx.
A friend and her hubby are both getting tattoos in rememberance of their bubs... Do what you feel is right
babylover111
07-09-2006, 21:57
a friend of mine passed away this year who was 18, i know its a different situation but thought id let you know that his closest friends and girlfriend who is one of my best friends have all got tattoos to remember him by. Some saying his name, the date he passed away and angel wings. If you feel it will help you go ahead, its a nice idea I think not morbid at all.
bronny-jane
08-09-2006, 06:05
:wave: my sister got a tattoo in remberence of her mc....she was 5 weeks:eek: i thought it was a bit much, but your circumstances are different;)
if your not sure about the tattoo, why not plant a special garden to remind you, it could be a place to go when things get a bit to much
Lizzie0808
08-09-2006, 10:29
We have a lovely David Austen rose in a pot which we can take with us if we move so we don't have to leave our Chester behind. It's nice to have something to remind you of your bub. But I guess it is up to you to decide what is the best memorial for you.
It's not morbid, it was your baby and you get to choose the way you grieve and the way you want to remember him/her. Your DH may not want to choose this method of remembering but that doesn't mean it's not right for you.
Would you get a ttattoo of a name or the date?? You wouldn't have known the sex which I think would make it hard to choose a name unless you went for something that suited both genders.
It's definitely not morbid. My friend has just recently gotten a tattoo of her little baby on her breast. The father of the baby did the tattoo from a photo she had, and her name is underneath the picture. She got the tattoo on her 30th birthday, which is 9 years after the baby died. It is a beautiful tattoo and she is really proud of it.
Dachsdragon
08-09-2006, 16:12
Not Morbid at all!!!
Im getting my baby's feet tattooed on me for his second birthday remberance. I also have photo's of him around the house, I keep his urn sewn into a teady bear that I sleep with at night and I made up a website for him. I also did up his baby book with photos and sympathy cards and poems Ive written. You need to do whatever is right for you to help you with your grief. Our children did exist and shouldnt be forgotten. They brought us love and happiness even though it was for just a short time.
hugs to you.
mum2angels
09-09-2006, 16:25
My husband and I both got tattoos after the stillbirth of our baby. I don't regret doing it at all. It is a permanent reminder, but she was our baby girl and I will never forget her.
subaruforestermum
09-09-2006, 16:31
With my father being a tattooist, when I was in the studio, lots of people would get tattoos of deceased loved ones........ I think its a way to always have them close by IYKWIM.......my mum has my sisters and my name and DOB on the branches comming off a rose on lower leg, and if we pass before she does, she will get our DOD on there also.....
Its something permanent which means it can never be lost, unlike other items that can be destroyed in fires etc....... If you really feel strongly about it, go for it....
:hugs: And sorry about your loss.....
I think that is a beautiful idea. That way you can have bubs memory with you always. A friend of mine got the foot print of her still born daughter tattooed over her heart so she always has a part of her close to her heart. I think it is a great idea, whatever is right for you. Lots of people feel differently on what they should do, if you feel this is right, go for it.
Ys_Woman
09-09-2006, 20:33
What else do people do to remember their angel babies? :crying:
I think that sounds like a fine idea hon. I personally bought a pendant with her initials on the back from www.labelledame.com (http://www.labelledame.com) and also where we buried her we planted a tulip and some wildflowers. We also kept the book the birthing centre gave us when we booked in and we filled out all the details up until the loss and put it with the baby books for our other children.
It is so up to you and what will help you come to terms with the loss. Anything goes and nothing is morbid.
Hugs,
Amy:)
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