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Thought I would start a thread where we can just chat about EVERYTHING...even if its about how our day has been :)
This year I have promised myself I wouldnt talk about babies and TTC so I have been keeping myself really busy. I have started a new small business and also I am doing the 365 day project, which is taking a pic a day and posting it on their website! I have been flat out. I must say though on Sunday i wasnt as busy and the thoughts and feelings start creeping back in...argh so depressing...I spoke to a friend and she said some days will be tough and other days easy you just have to take 1 day at a time.....my feeling of wanting a baby will never go away I just want some of the hurt to subside so I can move on.
Hey GG & Ladies
GG I also try to promise myself that I won't chat about TTC or Babies, so have instead turned my focus onto my furbabies. I have two breeding/show girls and one pet. All three of the furbabies are West Highland White Terriers and fill my life with absolute joy.
My middle girl Vana had her first litter on 4 Dec (the Brady Bunch) with 3 girls and then 3 boys. The little ones are 6 weeks old now and getting ready to go to their new forever homes :eek: time flys with that much doggy waste around :laughing:
I also actively show here in Victoria which occupies most of my spare time on the weekend. I have found this to be fairly theraputic for me.
GG what is your small business, that sounds exciting and very full on - I wish I had your gumption.
Im glad your woofers bring you some joy! OUr small business is designing tshirts, invitations, notices etc etc, I then have a little side thing called Nat's sweet treats... I make yummy chocolate creations, birthday cakes, chocolate bouquets, hampers etc etc. I have been wanting to do it for years but was so consumed with baby related things. We have just started so we shall see if it brings in any extra cash lol so far its been ok not too busy but busy enough just to keep my mind of other things :)
I have also been busy putting together a hamper to sell raffle tickets for flood relief....i asked everyone to bring me something for hamper and we managed to get one together worth over $400....selling tickets now and just yesterday I managed to sell $240 worth we are hoping to raise at least $1000.....small donation on the scheme of things really but hey any donation small or large is a bonus right :)
Well ladies I am off up the coast this afternoon for a girl weekend away.....my little sister is turning 15 so my mother and my 2 sisters a family friend and 4 of my sisters friends are all going up to spend 2 nights at a beach chalet....first time I will be away from my husband since Dec 2002 lol!!!
Well I better get cracking I have aircon guy coming out to fix it this morning and I have to ice my sisters birthday cake :) I hope you all have a lovely weekend and I shall chat when I get back! Oh and Noodle never say never to a meet up...even though we are all in different states it can still happen....I have been to meet ups in Melbourne as we frequent that wonderful place often and I have meet heaps of lovely ladies here whether they live here or have come over on work related things or holidays so we could possibly meet one day :)
Bye for now
GG I hope your sister has a lovely birthday :celebrate:
OMG sounds yummy and clever - if I wasn't scared of them going missing in the post :laughing:
I do enjoy the woofers - spoilt though they are
and you are right I shouldn't discount a meeting at somepoint in the future who knows what could happen - planes make the world a smaller place.
have a great weekend:wave:
thought I would respond to you about BALI in here and leave the other thread just for introductions :)
What hotel are you staying in??? I stay in Kuta at the Dewi Sri....I love it there :) When have you booked for?? I would have heaps of tips for you...where did you want me to start hahahahaha. The one good thing about Perth is that we are so close to Bali and it cost us not much to get there :)
To start off you must do all the touristy things such as kintamani volcano, Barong dance, wood carving, Tanah Lot Temple.....this is just awesome all up closer to ubud so you would probably try do all those in one or 2 shots! The safari is another awesome place to go again up in the countryside of Bali! IF you can go on a Bali Hai dinner i recommend this....a bloody fun night with heaps of entertainment!
We eat out at all places....not too sure about seminyak but in Kuta Bamboo corner is the cheapest place for meal....looks like **** inside I must tell you but im telling you food is good and cheap as hell!!! Another place we go to run by an Australian woman named Marie is Munching Inn...the best bruschetta I have ever tried and she serves up some good aussie tucker which I gobble up like I have never eaten before....yummo!
Char grill express on legian street you have to go there, not for its food but for its $2.50 cocktails...there are 12 at this price and we sat there until we had tried the whole lot lol!!!!
This will do for now hahahahaha let me know if there is anything in particular you would like to know!
Hi Nat & Noodle,
Just popping in to let you know I'm still here (just hidden under a workload avalanche :D).
Noodle, your furbabies sound gorgeous! We have a westie in our street who is besties with our cat. She wanders down to our place nearly every day for 'playdates'. It is so funny...the 2 of them hang out & chill together. Last night, when I was madly dashing out the door to Zumba (yep, I'm trying to get rid of my delightful IVF tummy roll :p) there she was at the screen door nose-to-nose with Cino doing doggy-licks on Cino's nose through the screen (Cino is our furbaby kitty).
Oh Nat, how creative are you? I am impressed :highfive: I am also drooling at the sound of those delicious fudgy, sweet, lard-butt inducing treats! What a fantastic idea your hamper is. I live in Brisnyland & the flood devastation here & throughout Qld is unbelievable :(. Loved your Bali info...I'm trying to somehow see if I can include Bali as a stopover on the way home from a business trip I'm hoping to weasel my way into later this year.
Lets put it on our 'Bucket List' that we will all catch up one day. Count me in :celebrate:
Have a fantastic weekend!
You may want to move this post to Egg donation section :) I have used a donor before and there is alot to think about on the donor side. you must really think about it before you jump into it! There is counseling with the donor and recipients then a 3 month cooling off period ( over here in Perth this is how it works ) and then another counseling session. Probably best if you head off to the donor section and ask one of the ladies who have donated before. If you decide to go with it I wish you all the best....its the most generous act you could possibly do :)
Im Back and I had a wonderful time with all the girls....it was like having another 3 little sisters lol!! Another day off for me today waiting for the aircon guy to come out and fix it AGAIN....he came out on Saturday while I was away and claimed he had fixed it......yeah right so DH rang him and got him out today...he want leave this house until its done.....this has been going on for months now :|
Are any of you ladies on Facebook??? My little business is on there until we get our website up and running......we are called In ya face creations :)
Oh and we have raised over $400 for the raffle for flood relief not too bad.....looking at hopefully raising $1000, I have all my little helpers out there selling tickets and they are doing an amazing job :)
Ok ladies I better go run along.....hope you all have a wonderful week :) We have a public holiday in the middle of it so yay yay yay:smiliedance:
Hey Nat & Cino
Great weekend weather wise here in Melbourne (managed to get sunburnt AGAIN!!!!), yet today the weather is all over the place - wish it would make up its mind.
Nat we are staying in Seminyak, first ever visit to Bali (have been to Thailand, Egypt, Jordan, Dubai, Noumea, Vanautu and all over Aus), the place is called Villa Seminyak Estate and we booked the Grand Delux Pool room (Over the top in every way but figured we deserved it after everything else :goodvibes: )
Looking forward to shopping, eating, drinking, swimming and not necessarily in that order :laughing:
Nat I'm on Facebook will PM you my details if you wanna add me as a friend let me know.
Cino whats happening with you precious lady, still snowed under at work??? Were you affected by the flooding? Stay safe and dry.
Nat glad your weekend away was lovely, how did you cope without DH?? Damn Aicon people, we had the same with our Evap cooling, didn't work from the day it was installed and it took several tantrums loads of threats and 3 months to get them out to fix it - honestly shoddy as would never recommend them to anyone.
AFM spent the weekend at dog shows or playing with the puppies - ohhh and getting eaten alive by Mozzies, the damn things are in plague proportions here in Melb at the moment. Any way better go and do something productive at work :freakingout:
Take care my friends
What a terrrific idea to set up this chat
What a beautiful decision to make-to bring hope to so many people:celebrate:
Hi Ladies hope you don't mind if I join you, what a great thread, finally somewhere to chat with others in the same situation as us. Will go and do the introduction part.
Hi! :ecomcity:My turn! My thing I am big on is study - I've just completed a bach of teaching and currently transferring into bach of education. Ironic that it is all in the area of early childhood.
My current work involves working with early childhood (I know again ironic) services and their inclusion of children with high support needs, CALD and indigenous.
C my heartbreaks for QLD at the moment - I cried some much that I got excema (Sp?) around my eyes from the salt in my tears!
Noddle I have baby woofies as well - okay well they are 7 and 6 - chinuana X (Sp)
Welcome Jackie & Karly (wishing none of us were here! that said....)
Nat & Cino how are you?
how did everyone enjoy the day off yesterday. Me as per normal spent it at dog shows, bonus side is our boy Bailey finally made Aust Champ and on Australia Day to boot, now onto our puppy Poppy (she has 14 points only 86 to go :eek:)
Bali is in full swing now (well as soon as DP picks up his passport from the PO - that will teach him to let it expire), the count down is on to sitting by the pool knocking back cocktails :celebrate:.
I also will confess (damn my iPhone to hell) that I am addicted to Angry Birds and its driving me insane :laughing:.
Getting ready to see Michael Buble on Feb 23 with my Bestie, then off to Canberra for the Royal Canberra Show, with the dogs. I have put an album up in my profile of two of our three 'girls'.
What is everyone up to at the moment?
Hope you all have a lovely day
Yay on your boy getting getting Champ and what a day to have it on :) WOW you are a busy lady!!!
I didnt do much yesterday it was my lil sister bday too so we just went out to dinner and just sat around doing nothing before hand!!!! I am home from work early thank god honestly that place gives me the ****s and I went and told my boss exactly that before I left hahahahaha....im not one to keep things to myself ;)
Well I have just had an order come through for baby shower gift....they need it by tomorrow argh so I better go get into my creative mode!!!
Hi Nat, Noodle, Jackie & Karly:wave:
'Hope that you all had fantastic weekends. Can you believe that its Monday afternoon already?? I also can't believe that I'm still at work :eek: . I've been here since about 7 today. Time for me to go home soon as I can hear the chilled Verdelho & the cheese & crackers calling my name :p
Nat, did you end up making the baby shower gift on time? You'll have to post a pic so we can all have a squizz.
Noodle, I dream of having an Iphone (pretty sad dreams I have hey?), but I just know that I will become totally addicted to it. I'm even tempted to go & google 'Angry Birds' to see what they are...:laughing:
Jackie, I used to teach Early Childhood for years. I must say that I absolutley loved it & would love to go back teaching part time.
Karly, I read your post in the Intro thread, but that was at least a day ago...& now I've forgotten your story :o (I don't mean that it wasn't memorable...just that I am having a shocker today with remembering anything. Far out...how can I have babybrain with no baby???).
Anyhoo treasures, its hometime for moi. Just going to sneak in a peek at Noodles woofers album before I disappear.
Will pop back in again soon.
:wave: Nat, Cino, Jackie & Karly
How are all you lovely ladies doing?
Holy Moley its hot here in Melbourne - been running the Evap cooling flat stick to keep the house & furbabies cool OMG even with that on I barely slept last night.
Nat - ditto Cino's comment did you get the Shower gift done on time?? Photos perhaps? and how have you been?
Cino - lovie working at 6.43Pm :freakingout: levels of wrongness definately go home to DH, the cheese, crackers and Vino what a brilliant plan. How is Brissy going with the clean up. Now a cyclone for far Nth Qld, you guys can't catch a break.
Jackie & Karly - how are you hoping all is well.
AFM well work work swealter some more work, then home to clean up littlest furbabies trail of destruction, yesterday she ate one of my flip flops (thongs) dragged all my toys of the shelf (not that they don't have plenty of their own) - all becuase I nice enough to leave the evap on, which means the house is left opened up for circulation. Problem is she is so happy to see me I can't seem to stay mad at her :eek:.
Have to bath them all tonight and do some more laundry. Figured if I get it all done during the week then DP and I could have a 'date' night at gold class on Saturday given its the first weekend for a while that I haven't dedicated to dog shows :laughing:
Anyway enough rambling - take care wherever you are and be kind to yourselves we deserve it
I know noodle how bloody hot has it been!
Even my toes are sweating! eewww!
Hope the :dog::dog::dog: are doing okay in the heat! My :dog::dog: are a bit confused by it all. They keep following me around - well more than normal which is a lot anyway.
CP If I can avoid it I won't go back to working on the floor in Early Childhood - but stick to roles of supporting early childhood professionals - this is what I have been doing for the last 15 months.
Actually I have an interview tomorrow (my contract where I am now finishes soon) for an organisation I have huge amounts of professional respect for and it would be the best opportunity.
To all you Ladies on here,
I don't belong here because I have 3 children, but I felt compelled to express my sincere sorrow for you all and what you have gone through.
The majority of women understand the intense desire for a child and we all believe it will just happen, it must be extremely hard to reach that decision to say "this is the end of our journey" in another way it may also help you to move on.
I hope you have wonderfully supportive partners, friends and families to help you to deal with this pain.
I am going through early menopause at age 37, so our masterplan for number 4 is out the window, but I am blessed to have my 3 boys.
I believe in my angels and I am praying for you and all other woman like you for a Miracle. You all deserve to experience the wonder and joy of motherhood. Your little souls are out there waiting to join you, don't be afraid to have faith and ask your angels for a miracle either.
God Bless you all
Gracie thank you for your lovely thoughts
Jackie - the heat is over woo hoo (where did you get the woofer emoticons hilarious), did the furbabies cope ok.
Nat how are you lovely, any more orders?
Cino - what are you queenslanders doing, you can't take a trick ATM with the weather. stay safe I hope your not far north.
Karly - :wave: how are you sweets
AFM - its nearly Friday :freakingout: no dog shows, think I shall take myself to Costco for some bulk retail therapy :laughing:.
Take care special peoples
Hi everyone I forgot my password :laughing:, so couldn't get on.
Hope everyone is doing well, I have been reading but can't think who has been up to what :rolleyes:. I will have to have a read back to see whats been happening.
Havent posted in awhile! How are you all going??? Well I have been pretty busy, Yes I did get out the baby shower gift and she loved it :) I have since been making birthday cakes chocolates etcetc as i said im not making lots of $$$$$ out of it but it is keeping me busy enough to stop me thinking about babies :) I have had a few moments in the last couple of days however (call me an idiot) i watch shows like parenthood and i cry right through it Packed to the rafters again cry right through it....these family orientated shows as much as I love them just remind me of what i still haven't got and that is my own little family. I know those feeling will never go away and i am dealing with it quite well...just have a few setbacks at times!!!
I have a FB page called Inyaface creations this is where I am advertising all my cakes and things I am doing...if your a facebook member you can go take a look if you like. Hubbys birthday today we arent doing much for it maybe a dinner out somewhere still not too sure! Money is even tighter now as my hours at work have been cut by nearly a half so we really need to watch our pennies....i usually would stress over it but im done with stressing and im just going out to find another job, im over this one anyway been there long enough!
Hope your all doing well
so glad i found this area of the forum, i had to have a break from the forum coz every where i looked it was happening to everyone but me ..... glad to know there are others just like me !!!!:hugs::hugs::hugs:
I've just been diagnosed with menopause and are totally **** ed about it, as they could of done the test years ago. can i have maybe a few coping strategies on dealing with this monster? i added a post to the other area (so this page doesn't get clogged with bad vibes...:) )
GG - i'm very much like you love packed to the rafters and parenthood but man they make me emotional as I'm slowly coming to terms of being childless at the age of 32 and when everyone has a baby, to the point of missing out on jobs coz I'm in the baby age bracket..... aaarrrhhh if only they knew and your not going to go into a huge medical explanation at a job interview
i think i'm going to have to order one of your cakes they sound delicious and i'm in perth so i could totally receive one without to much bother :-D sorry eastern stater's :-(
Noodle - we have 2 furbabies (red heeler x dingo x = campdog and a staffy x ridgeback x something little) that we rescued from SAFE after our other furbaby died of a stoke (totally devastated and still coping with that) but these girls are helping with the grieving process and have wormed their way into our hearts and are slowly developing their own personality and behaving better but as they're only 6mths we have a long way to go yet.
found the dogs smileys when you click on [view all smillies]
cino - enjoy that wine and crackers & cheese - my favourite dinner :p:p:p
should really go to bed it's about time goodnite all and once again glad to have found you !!!
Totally know what you are saying with the whole everyone else getting PG on the forum.... I have actually had this happen to me on 2 other boards too being the last one left....never gets easier I tell you :|
I was with concept too...they have been ok with my situation but my last donor cycle they totally stuffed up and I blasted them about it...donor cycles cost a lot more than just an IVF cycle, I was so mad i took it to the CEO!
Hahaha about the cakes...you will have to take a look at my facebook page and see how they look :)
Hi the other wonderful strong ladies...i haven't had a good day today the what ifs creeping back, I have no idea why this is happening now...argh I dont think it gets any easier even when your trying so bloody hard!
Anyway off to Volleyball now...hopefully smacking a ball around will snap me out of it :)
i just popped in her to check what your fb page was called coz i was about to search it
sorry bout the bad days i totally know what their like and yes smashing a ball around would probably help heaps i have counseling again tomorrow so that tends to help me through to the next week - i go to robin winkler practice at UWA coz it's $15 a session (students doing their majors or doctorates) the girl (i say girl but shes prob about 25) i see is wonderful and tells me how normal i am as it's all circumstantial not me as a failure which i really need to hear ATM
I've had a bad week and started drinking way to much wine and eating far too much chocolate but it's a coping strategy - we made a list of 25 so i can try the list before flipping out hehe i must stop the choc and the wine and start exercising especially since I'm to wear a hot pink cocktail dress for my sisters wedding in 10 weeks, I've still got the ivf weight to get rid of
my husband keeps asking if being on here is a "good thing" as i get real sensitive but i explained the concept behind these posts and said atm it's a good thing as we all have something in common and it's not the airy fairy positive "it'll happen" stuff so he's back off a bit but keeps checking on me - he's a good boy sometimes! :)
ps: i forgot i hope you got some money back that's totally disgusting and unprofessional - i know mistakes happen but this is NOT an area where human era can happen
the longer I'm there the more horror stories i hear, which makes me even more upset about the whole situation
I refused to pay coordination fees of $1500 and I have yet to get this bill so I think they listened to me :) Who is your FS....Im guessing Lucy or Linda as they are the only ones who take public patients...i had Linda and i swapped to Lucy last year but I dont think it made any difference!! They both refused to try different things.
yes they were the doctors to take public and i went with Lucy big mistake. I have only just been given a AMH test, and a different drug cycle coz i asked for it to change, I'm getting the impression that I'm a hassle coz I haven't got pregnant so it's not worth her time
I'm going to see Doc Simon at Hollywood tomorrow for a second opinion and I've been advised that he's brutally honest and that's just what I want, I have a big list of questions for him so he can earn my $155 but then if I continue with Hollywood I'll have to come up with the 10000k for my cycle or donor ?????
I think to tell the truth I'm screwed but it wont hurt to ask, it's just accepting it that I'm having problems with
anyway enough talk about silly doc's how's everyone weekend, We have had a lazy one and are finishing it off with a roast YUM!! ..... I'm about to get ready for a new job tomorrow morning so a little nervous. I totally know the position but haven't been in the industry for a couple of yrs, but it should be like riding a bike
well have a great week everyone xo
Happy Valentines day :) Hope you and your DH's have a great day together!
Well my hours have yet again been cut so Im home all day today...not impressed at all and I have had it out with my boss so we shall see if things change! Since im home all day Im making my DH a heart cake with yummy ganache icing :) Nothing like a home baked gift!
We went to a travel expo on Saturday and picked up our flights to New York for a really good price we actually saved $600 each ticket going to it, so really happy, its going to be a struggle getting our spending money together and paying mortgage etc etc with hardly any work but its something we have put off for the last 5 years due to IVF and my DH mum is turning 60 so we cant miss that! I will just have to sell more chocolate and more cakes lol
EM: Good luck with your appointment today, let me know how it goes. I have had 3rd and 4th opinions nothing really changed or was said different, though I was so hoping one of them said oh yes lets try this but NOTHING :|Good Luck with your new job too :)
Hi to everyone else and hope you all have a great week :)
Hi Sunshines :sunshine:
Just popping in to let you know that I'm still here & haven't abandoned you all. My life seems to be crazily busy at the moment....we have had to find somewhere new to live so I have been spending any spare second I have house-hunting. Ergghhhh....after looking at a gazillion places that are about the size of a matchbox its no wonder that I'm :freakingout:(nothing that a few wines won't cure though ;)).
For some crazy reason, I have also decided to amp up the exercise to try to budge that oh-so-lovely IVF tummy roll that I still have hanging around. I think that I'm still recovering today from doing a Zumba class in 40 degree heat on Saturday. Why is it that on the Zumba ads on TV, everyone is so co-ordinated & movin' & groovin' like Shakira while I looked like a boiled emu having some kind of fit :laughing:
Anyhoo, 'hope that all of you gorgeous girls had a fantastic weekend. To everyone who has been having bad days :hugs:, I have them too & they just seem to hit me from nowhere (how can I be laughing hysterically one second when watching Modern Family & the next minute having a little tear or two trickle down my cheeks :confused:)
:kissykiss: to your DHs for Valentines Day.
GG...yummo....that cake sounds delicious!
Noodle...I'm in Brisnyland, & so very lucky to be well away from the cyclone. Thanks for thinking of me!
thanks for the well wishes!!! i needed them with the no sleep, period pain all night (but it's a week early and I'm back on the pill WTF!!!) dogs driving me crazy and hubby sick, all before fighting with traffic to get to appt that goes for 2 hrs instead of 1, finally getting to my "new" Job at 12pm.... i just couldn't wait to come home for a big glass of WINE!!!!
well we decided that we could give my ovaries one last chance but we'll throw everything at them!!! pumping more and different drugs plus chromosome testing but doc had suspicions i may have adenomyosis (internal endo) so have this ultrasound only to discover that i did!!! i got really angry then, as i just had "endo" surgery in Oct 2010, he now has to speak to my old specialist as she is also is kemh / public doc too, to see if they can get me back for more surgery before "last chance" or egg donor as nothing will stick to my womb if it stays as it is... AAAARRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHH
really banging my head against the wall now..... just so fed up
gg: sorry bout your hrs getting cut but i've ordered choc to help:-)
cino: i really want to do zumba but so far haven't had the extra dosh to try i think i'd look similar to u as my mum always said that i look like a praying-mantis on heat when i dance LOL
everyone else hope you had a better day than me, if not I'll raise my glass for you !!!
:hugs:Ladies how are we all?
Emma hi and welcome, good luck with everything.
Cino glad to hear you are in Brisvegas and not affected by Yassi (I had friends in Townsville so it was a bit scary).
Nat - bummer about your hours, I hope it all works out, and the cakes sound totally yummy (I think my butt just grew a bit thinking about them:laughing: )
Jackie - how are the furbabies going, and how mental is this weather down here, boiling one minute, swimming pool in the backyard the next :freakingout:
AFM - not much been dog showing as normal, getting ready to go to Canberra for the Royal Canberra Show (we have 2 dogs entered). Going for testing as a live donor for my dad (he requires a kidney transplant, mum was first choice but has been knocked back, so my turn now - I guess things really do happen for a reason).
Need your help ladies, I nominated my Partner as an unsung hero and need to get some more votes - he is located on page 4 Supporting State Emergency Service members Martin, if you can pass the word around and help me out by voting for him would really appreciate it.
I hope the link gets posted if not PM me and I will send it out.
Cheers Ladies and have a lovely day
after having a busy day and finally meeting the wonderful nat, i've had a crap evening and feel like punching the wall.... started arguing with the hubby over nothing and bawling for no good reason, god i hate ivf and what it has done to me!!!! phsyically and emotionally i'm just screwed
:hugs::hugs:hugs to everyone that needs them
i think im just gonna have a few very strong alcoholic drinks, some of nat very yummy rocky road and put myself to bed, hope everyone had a lovely weekend.
talk soon xo
Sorry you have had a crappy night...there must be something in the air as I was nearly in tears watching The Grammys DH downloaded to watch...lol...honestly I laugh as what the hell is there to cry about watching people singing and dancing lol. It was great meeting you too :)
I have just opened a bottle of wine and already half gone....I must say DH poured it into a small glass and I have just be gulping it down...so its his fault :)
Hi To Cino, Noodle & Karly hope you all are having a FAB weekend!
i think the whores-are-moaning!!! hahahathats what we call girly moments in our family......
had a better day today and trying to have a alcohol free day but i don't think it's going to work i can here the jacks calling and I've already had some chocie and a drumstick
well getting organised for another week of work, i think it'll take me a while to get used to working mon to fri again as for the past year i only worked 2 days a week
nat hope you find something to fill in you days off
everyone else have a great week
I had a meltdown last night and I blogged about it so I thought I would just copy it here so I didnt have to type it all again!
So the plan was too just stop trying for this baby and live a little, so we put all the money we had into a trip to New York as Braulio (DH) has not seen his family in over 5 years. I thought i was fine with this and fine with the whole giving up on the baby thing but tonight Braulio said something that has had me bawling my eyes out to the point I could not breathe.
We were watching a movie and in it there was a lady who wasn't married looking after her ill mother, Braulio as a matter of fact blurted out "Who is going to look after me when I get old" This got me thinking WHO IS going to look after us???? This scares the hell out of me! ITs not the looking after part but its the part of having noone around us when we get older that scares me....by that stage my parents wouldnt be here and who knows about brothers and sisters if they will still be with us. I dont want to end up the 2 lonely old people with no children who noone cares about :|.....Im not sure if im explaining how Im feeling the right way but lets just say IM TERRIFIED.
It has made me question my decision to stop trying. Will it be too late to just have a break this year then start again next year, will we be too old next year to start the adoption process if this is what we choose??? I am so full of emotion at the moment, it is all just confusing me. I wish i had a magic wand and I could wave the bloody thing around and make it all just disappear for good. I need another sign on what I should do.
I had calmed down a whole heap by the time I finished the blog and i was able to go back to bed but I woke this morning still feeling a little BLAH!
Have a good week ladies :)
ffffffffffffffffffffff for the 3rf time now and changed computers so my laptop doesn't delete the post before i get to post it
:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs: OH nat i totally know how you feel!!!! and my heart goes out to you
josh and i have these "when were old" conversations all the time i think that's part of the reason we keep going back for more torture. It's very hard to fill the void that not having children and what to do instead is probably the biggest decision as we have huge debt and no goals to work for apart from removing the debt so what the hell are we working for materialistic crap cant be taken with you when you die if you dont have kids who are you going to leave it to etc etc etc
the always say that you want what you haven't got but when having children is a natural cycle of life why does life have to be so unfair for people that would be the best parents and most caring and the parents that have kids for all the wrong reasons have them so easily i don't understand it
ok part 2, i had to refill the wine glass and didn't trust the computer :-)
i've just have news from both kemh and doc turner about my adenomyosis (internal endo) which means i'm screwed !!!! my choices are the following:
1. blast my ovaries one last time and hope like hell i get eggs that turn into great embryos and stick and stay the full 8-9 mths, giving us the ultimate gift - preferable option
2. use egg donor and hope like hell it works as above - my friend 37 wants to give me her eggs if suiable but her gp wont give her the bloodtest forms for amh because he doesn't know what it is even after she explained everything - dumb*** - now i have to book her into my gp ---- doc turner said my sister 28 currently 5mths pregnant is a better egg donor if i can get her to do it, haven't asked
3. have a egg donor that also becomes a surrogate - best possible chance of having a baby according to doctors
the reason i now need a surrogate is because internal endo double / triples the chances of miscarriage so even if my or egg donor embryos stick i may loose them anyway
so after 7 and a bit years of trying to have a baby at the ideal age, not toooo young and not toooo old. I'm a 32 yr menopausal woman that is facing the hard facts of having a child is an unobtainable DREAM
totally unsure of where to go now except to continue counseling on a weekly basis as I'm a headcase !!!
oh and go out for a catch up with a long time friend that i haven't seen for a couple of months on Friday night (hanging out for that only 21 hrs to go, but who's counting) :celebrate:
nat my thoughts are with you!!!
noodle all the best and prayer are with you concerning your Dad, i've voted for your hubby !!!!hope he wins
everyone else have a good week end !!!!!
Hi Sunshines :sunshine:
I haven't been on here much lately :o, so I have decided that I must be the worst, worst BH buddy for neglecting you all. Never fear tho, you are always in my thoughts (& not in a freaky, stalkerish kind of way :laughing:)
Life has been pretty crazy for me at the moment...with moving house coming up next week (I am soooo disorganised...guess I will have to go & live in a tent somewhere), organising DH's OS work trip, creating promotional brochures etc for work, revamping our business website...OMG...the list is like a never-ending story! Just as well I have my vino & cheese waiting for me every day :rolleyes:
Em...I am still in hysterics over your whores-are-a-moaning. It just cracked me up. Love it! What huge decisions you have to make...gosh...why is nothing every easy or straightforward? I guess thats what makes everyone here and on the IVF threads such amazing gorgeous girls. Mega :hugs: for you honey.
Nat, here are super mega supportive :hugs: for you too. I know just how you feel. I have often mentioned to DH that I am scared to be this old lonely lady with no family. He of course has to add that I will be like the crazy catwoman from the Simpsons...lol. I have a Great Aunt (well we adopted her as a Great Aunt, I think she is something like a second cousin of another Aunt). She has never married, never had children and has had the most amazing fulfilled life. She is 88 and still independent, living life to the max & travelling everywhere. If we could all be like her when we are older we will have had the most wonderful rich life. Anyhoo treasure, please don't be terrified. When we are in our eighties we can hang out with our walkers & motorised scooters together.
Noodle, I voted for your DH too. What an wonderful thing you are doing for your Dad. I would do it for my Dad in a heartbeat too. How did the tests go?
Jackie & Karly...a big Hi to you girls. Where are you??
Okeydokey...back to this thing called work for me...ergghhh. Have a fantastic weekend everyone (& sorry to everyone I've missed. I'm too scared to hit any random buttons on my computer to read back through our thread as I've already lost this post today!)
Love, love, love
cino all the best with moving, god i hate it over the years we've had to do it so often im just glad we now have a brilliant landlord and moving somewhere else would mean giving that up
well the night out with my friend was just the best although i think it was about 30oC and 100% humidity so getting tipsy was hard work as every drink was sweated out within minutes although it didn't stop the peeing (hehehe)
I finally had a good night sleep last night and my God it was great !!!! i think I've survived on 3-5 hrs a night for 3 months so getting 8-10hrs was the best
well better find something for dinner, hope everyone had a great weekend xo
Hi girls :wave:
Where is everyone????
Emm, DH & I move so often that I think that I should write a book about it (& become the Shannon Lush of moving tips :laughing:) Woohooo for a great night out...there's nothing like a night out with friends to put you in a happy place (a few drinks helps as well...not that I'm a huge drinker...one sniff of anything alcoholic & I'm doing my deranged emu Zumba moves again :D) Yay too for getting a great nights sleep. 8-10 hours...now that is bliss & enough to make you go :hyper:
Hi girls :wave:
Where is everyone????
Emm, DH & I move so often that I think that I should write a book about it (& become the Shannon Lush of moving tips :laughing:) Woohooo for a great night out...there's nothing like a night out with friends to put you in a happy place (a few drinks helps as well...not that I'm a huge drinker...one sniff of anything alcoholic & I'm doing my deranged emu Zumba moves again :D) Yay too for getting a great nights sleep. 8-10 hours...now that is bliss & enough to make you go :hyper:
hahahahahaha thats so funny yes a good night out was great and the sllep was even better pitty i haven't really slept properly since
but the doctors have finally giving me some sleeping tablets yay!! bring on some sleep
well happy moving, we have a long week end this week so looking forward to 3 days of doing whatever i please :cheerleader1::cheerleader1: and not getting up monday morning will be the best bit !!!!
I have been MIA...sorry...been really busy. I have been feeling a little better however today I went into the spare room where my positive HPT are and I got them all out.... a whole 12 of them lol to look at those beautiful 2 lines again...gee I wish I had a baby from that result :| Half of me want to throw them out but the other wants to hold onto them why im not sure..i hope I guess!
Nothing really new here I had a great weekend out last week dancing a drinking...I tell you though im glad a wore flats as my legs were so sore in the morning it was unbelievable...im an ex dancer too..i must be getting OOOOOOOLD:freakingout: I caught up with a friend that i met through BH on Monday she was over from Brisbane and we had lunch together...she is now 20 weeks pg i think...and im really happy for her :)
As Perthies have a long weekend YAY not sure what we are going to do, I would love to start painting our bedroom but getting DH to do anything is like pulling teeth ARGH:hair:
That is all I have to report I think...very boring here ATM!
Have a great weekend ladies :smiliedance:
i must be having a crabby hormonal moments i have been going through some of the posts on this area of the forum and i'm getting really annoyed that there are peopleamd post that dont belong
im sorry if what i vent here offends anyone but i joined this area of the forum coz i wanted to chat to people who are experiencing and going through simular emotions about accepting the fact i cant not have kids full stop
(unless we get a decent lotto win the other options are not really there for us)
i dont want to hear any airy fairy stories, i dont want peoples sympathy. i dont want any of the garbage just relax, give up and then it'll happen it's all bullsh**!! Go to the other pages to put you little say on things don't do it here
yes i would love things to be different i do wanna give it one last go but when you have less than 5% chance of icsi working and then not havin the womb reject the inplant, i really dont know if we can put ourselves through it one more time but i know if we dont try we will regret it AAAARRRRHHHHH
well i've had my little rant talk to you all soon xoxo
Dont be sorry I read them too and thought cant these bloody woman freaking read!!! Do they think we have not relaxed do they think we have not tried everything I mean all they would have to do is read our whole freaking story and then they may not respond with the whole relax and it will work crap....do they think that in the 8 years i have been trying...YES I SAID 8 that i haven't freaking relaxed gone on a holiday ARGH I just couldn't be bothered responding to those posts....dont let it get to you that much just put it down to stupidity :P. Maybe we should write a book on high fsh low amh so people actually know why its not as easy as relax and it may work after you stop IVF :|
Well I had an alright long weekend Saturday was just spent at home cleaning and gardening I then had 2 long time friends come to visit, yesterday we went o see my grandparents and then to the beach and today was just spent relaxing at home watching movies and baking. I have had thoughts of asking my mum and step dad for a loan so we can do another donor cycle and i started the convo with them last night then changed the subject so didn't really get around to asking them hahaha dont know what stopped me!
Hi to everyone and hope you all have a great week :)
GG and Emm I couldn't agree more!
do they think that in the 8 years i have been trying...YES I SAID 8 that i haven't freaking relaxed
I love it - freaking relaxed
To use GG words - freaking relaxing doesn't create the production of eggs when there is none.
On a positive note - DH took me for a helicopter ride on the weekend - and I can tell you I was 'Freaking scared out of my mind' - tiny helicopter. I think he now wants to become a helicopter pilot.:laughing:I think he might be serious!:cantbelieveit:
:highfive::highfive::highfive: all round girls you've made me feel better i'm just not coping very well atm and no one understands, to top it off my ***** r moaning, i'm getting hot flushes to the point of wanting to vomit, i've got a face full of zits from the pill, and all the chocolate i've been eating, i'm still getting pain from my stupid overies and period pain even though i'm skipping it, i cant sleep even through im on sleeping pills, and alcohol makes me feel chilledout and then i have one to many and im a bubbering wreck.
now i have to make a decision about having zolodex injections just to make all the above symptoms worse and maybe have a possibility of giving ivf one last shot so i dont regret giving up.
i did have a spend up at the myer sale on the week end which felt really great, went out looking for shoes for my sister wedding as i'm a bridemaid and brought every but :) handbags and shoes and underware i'm sold !!! and didnt get wedding shoes oh well
i also mowed my mil and our lawns and that felt good not sure what it is about pushing a mower up and down the yard that is therapeutic
well im off to have a glass of red in the bath, tht usually makes me feel better
thanks for your support !!!!! xoxoxoxoxo
Sorry MIA as well
GG, Em & Jackie :hugs: drives you nuts doesn't it.:impatient:
Cino my love are you still moving or all done - hope it went smoothly
AFm - well Dh was lucky enough to WIN one of the red balloon unsung hero prizes and was absolutely gob smacked:laughing: thanks to all you lovelies who voted.
Been :dog:showing per normal, had a good win at the Royal Canberra with our little one Poppy - which now qualifies her for Crufts (not that we are doing that lol its just fun to know).
Testing still being done to see if my kidneys are ok for Dad, had a CT scan yesterday (HORRID) talk about experience menopause symptons YUCKO, but all for a good cause. Off to see the surgeon on April 4 so should know more then.
More dog shows this weekend :fingerscrossed: for nice weather.
Have a few wines and smiles ladies we deserve it
Hi. Im not sure if I fit here as we have 1 DD, but we were trying for one more and are probably off the IVF treadmill on that. I would keep trying if the chance came up, but it probably isn't. DP lost motivation after the first attempt in trying for a sib, but he allowed me to keep trying because it was important to me. Now he really is over it and Im not sure how supportive he would be on another attempt. I don't feel as desparate about this as I used to, but it is still constantly on my mind.
We were considering fostering as DP has friends who fostered a little girl(some kind of long term arrangement where their new DD (2yrs) stays with them always) after being unable to expand their family the other usual ways (They have a DS 7yrs). We are not actively pursuing fostering at the moment.
Anyway, if you don't mind the DD references (I don't wish to make anyone uncomfortable if it is a child reference free haven you're needing), I think we have quite a few issues the same and there just isn't any other thread I've seen where reluctant giver uperers can share.
I'm drowning underneath homework for Uni and my new but little more challenging job that I thought! Promise to be back soon when I am more on top of all the work.
:cantbelieveit::geek: Too much work!
Hi Ladies havent posted in awhile as I may have written before I started my own little chocolate business venture to help me take my mind of TTC and its working, I have been so flat out I havent had the chance to really read this thread post etc etc :) The thoughts will always be there but they are not my main focus.
How are you all going not many posting at all so assuming you are all just as busy :) I started this thread topic for the ladies who clearly have stopped trying for 1 reason or another and I have just gone through a few posts and noticed we are getting alot of oh I tried for 2 years stopped and now im PG :| I didn't want this to happen as its not that easy for all of us...I know they are probably trying to be positive BUT this is a thread stating we are no longer ttc so I wish they would keep there stories to themselves :|
Anyway hope you are all going well :)
I agree Nat -
Do you like the new sticky that admin have created for this area.
This section of the forum is for people who have reached the end of IVF/ egg donation etc.
This is an area to discuss/ mourn the end of their journey, and to support/ advise each other.
Please keep the discussion polite - and all off topic/ negative comments will be removed.
NOTE- please consider the specific title of this forum area before you post. If you have a child(ren) and are considering ending your IVF/ fertility program journey - than perhaps another area (conception or otherwise) would be a more appropriate area to post.
This section is specifically designed for the support of people who do not have children.
Inappropriate and/ or off topic posts will be edited/ moved or deleted by the moderators.
Sorry been flat out. Have finished all the testing and been given then green light. So now waiting on dates for the transplant (am donating a kidney to my dad- one way of giving life I suppose).
Am writing this from our villa in Seminyak Bali. This place is amazing. Haven't done any shopping yet (should really pull my finger out I suppose lol). We are leaving on Thursday to return home but I'm really enjoying the rest.
Happy Easter to all you special ladies be safe and have wine and chocolates.
Hi gorgeous girls :sunshine:
Just checking in to see how you all are today and to give a big group :hugs: to us all.
I haven't been meaning to neglect everyone...just had a tough Easter & didn't want to whinge & vent to you all like I was some kind of deranged froot loop :laughing:
Anyhoo I will try to pop in this week (its always a bit tricky as I have to be shhh secret squirrel at work as we have not internet at home).
Love, love, love,
First and Foremost - NOODLE you are AMAZING girl! :smiliedance::wizard::bowdown: what a wonderful woman you are doing that for your Dad!
What a great holiday, I hope it was wonderful
Hey C hope your doing okay! As for me my new job takes up a lot of time and Uni makes my time stretched pretty thin! I guess I should get back to the :bookworm: now
Thanks Jackie:hugs: least I could do for him, however the 6 weeks at home will probably have me :hair: HA HA. All being equal the transplant is scheduled for mid August.
Cino you know you can go postal here any time you need. Hope all is ok.
Bitter Sweet Mothers Day for me with a friend announcing that they are expecting - happy for them but somehow I always seem to think bugger it why not me. Oh well need to harden up and build a bridge I guess.
Holiday was lovely - onto planning the next adventures :laughing:, we are thinking 4wd to the Kimberley's next year and Vegas the year after for the big 40 that I am in denial about :freakingout:
Hope you are all well.
Nat hows the chocolate business going - mmmm chocolate
Take care special ladies
Hi Gorgeous Girls :wave:,
Where is everyone??
I am in Pakistan - its hot & humid UGH
Here as I have to look after my dad while my mum is away for 10days! .... he has dementia so he really can't be left by himself so I have flown from Central QLD to take care of him.
When I get back DH and I will have some time in Melbourne :smiliedance: Ive never been so CANNOT WAIT, foooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooood yuuuuuuuuuuummy
meanwhile I am here scoffing lovely food ... taking FULL advantage of being home ... i will prob be a blimp by the time i get back to Oz!
someone mentioned Chocolate *drool* - Nat i think ... so what exactly is the business? how do u resist eating chocolate all day ! i wud totally!!!! :laughing:
Looks like its just you & I chilling out here at the moment (but I know that the other gorgeous girls aren't too far away) :sunshine:
Gosh you're in Pakistan - I will send some of the Brisnyland winter to you (not that its very cold, but I'm pretending that it is just so that I can wear a scarf & boots to work :laughing: ) 'Hope that you are having a fabulous time being with your Dad.
Ohhh, I loveeee Melbourne. Such a great place to visit & did I mention the food??? I'm starting to :Drool_2: over my keyboard, which is not a fetching look at all. What delicious food are you indulging in at home? I'm a bit of a foodie & all this reading & thinking of food is making me wonder if its too early for me to escape early for lunch :D
Whereabouts in Central Qld are you & your DH? I'm a Qld girl so I'd be interested to see where you are. I may even have friends who live in the same area as you!
Anyhoo, I'd best get back to this thing called work (I'm a happy girl as I've just found a Caramello Koala in my desk chocolate stash - always a bonus when you find something lurking there!).
Cinopuss - mmmm food ...well I have been having lovely home cooked Pakistani food, Biryanis, and Kormas & kebabs and all sorts of delicious stuff ... we have a cook at home and he cooks the most yummalicious food EVER ...its pretty much the highlight of coming home.
My dad & I do not really talk much, past him asking me how I am and if everything is ok he does not say much, he kind of lives in a world of his own...we have never been close so its ok
We lived in Brisbane and recently moved to Tieri (1 hour North of Emerald) due to DH getting a new job.
Its nice being home, recently caught up with my BF from school who i hadnt seen in 3 years (pretty much since she was 3 mnths preg) only to find out she is 4 mnths preg now ... that kinda put a damper on my spirits but i am blocking it out as much as i can
well i better go too as have to meet one of my mums friends for lunch
Fefe you had better be bringing 300 hundred blankets with you when you come to melb - it's been very cold.
I'm a melb girl and I love melb - even in the cold. I love the change of seasons but I know in about 3 to 5 weeks I will be over the cold. I get just over half way through winter and have enough of it.
I hope you have been loving the food at home.
As for me - I'm just busy (did I say VERY busy...........did I say REALLY busy) with work. I'm in charge of organising a special event that requires setting up in the middle of July and takes up half our building and goes for a whole week at the start of August. I'm doing a training session on Sat nite - :eek: Something went wrong in the communication as the session was to be during the day - but it's been booked for this sat nite and I am just leaving it as the night because I would have to make 40 phone calls to rearrange the people. :angryfists:
I'm also starting my new subjects for uni.
So yes busy.
jackie - what are u studying? work sounds hectic, what do u do for work
I cannot wait to be working again, i was not made to be a housewife i find it agonisinginly mundane! lol
I will def rug up for melbourne, i will be there last weekend of July and i cannot wait though ... and i think after this heat & humidity i will luuuurve that cold weather... will prob remind me of blistering cold days in the UK mmmmmm
Hi Lovely ladies..
I am soooooooo :hyper: happy that I have finally found somewhere where i belong - even if its in cyber space!!
Me 41, DH 47 - been trying for 15 years to no avail :no: - failed vasectomy reversal, failed ivf attempts, endo, pcos - now starting the early stages of menopause.
Happy one day (vary rare) - wanting to hide under a rock the next!
My so called friends - seemed to have all moved on with their lives because they have kids and grandkids and i dont - i know that sounds horrible but its true.
Hubby now works away - so I am left with an empty house but luckily I have my 3 furbies that I love dearly.
After reading some of your posts, not only was I welling up with tears but also relieved that I finally have people that 'get' me.
People with children just DO NOT understand what its like to not be able to have kids. Over the years (and still do), i have needed support - a shoulder to cry on but they just dont get it! I get comments like 'I'll give you my kids for a day so that your urge will go away' or 'they grow up and leave you one day anyway'. This saddens me even more.
I am lucky that my hubby has been a tower of support - Dont know how I would have coped over the years with out him.
Anyway - take care and hope to chat soon :wave:
sorry I havent posted in so long...I know I asked for this thread but we have decided to give another donor cycle a shot :) Im just glad there is a place for the people who have moved on from TTC to have a chat now....not sure when everything is going to start but im thinking early next year. Just wanted to pop in and let you know why Im not posting here.
Hope your all well as can be :)
Jackie - never made it to melbourne, hopefully will at some stage though!
Catkids - :) i have 3 fur babies too ...dunno what my life would be without them
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