naughty little boy...19 month old boy

[Little Gorilla]

Over the last 2-3 months my son has become increasingly misbehaved.

I feel like a failure for not implementing more structure prior to now when it comes to his discipline.

Main problems are him not listening when I say "no" - yet he tells me "no" for everything, he bit me today, he throws tantrums when he has to stop playing or doing something....mainly he just doesn't seem to listen.

Is there a book I can read or can someone give me some direction as to what they do or have done with their 19 month old.

I have smacked his hand a few times...but have now stopped this as he starting hitting me, his nanna and his dad back...so obviously wasn't working.

I just don't want to end up with one of those naughty little terrors....

[Can I?]

Hi

Little ones can be really frustrating at times, but they really don't so it on purpose. They are just trying to figure out the world, and they realise that they can effect the people and environment around themselves, and this is all an important part of their learning. I try not to ever refer to my kids as naughty, because I don't want them to think that I really think that they are.

In this age group The most important thing you can do is to encourage the behaviour you do want your child to engage in. Praise them for playing nicely, sharing, being gentle and loving and that sort of thing. Show them what to do...use their hand to gently stroke your face e.g. and say "Oh I love that gentle touching, that makes me feel tickly" or whatever.

If they do something undesirable, like biting e.g., get their attention, say something like "Stop biting....that hurts me" and then show them what to do - "Here give Mummy a big cuddle". You might need to assess why the child is behaving that way, and then it will be easier to know what to do afterwards, and before to stop it from happening again. If your child bites to get your attention, then it might be as simple as teaching them to take your hand instead, or watching them more closely for the cues showing that that is what they need.

This website has some great articles on discipline

http://www.parentingweb.com/discipline/disc_index.htm

Good luck....and enjoy that special little person.

[melbryan]

My DS1 is pushing the boundaries alot lately. I find he does it when he is tired and hungry. He gets delirious and starts hitting and jumping on things and throwing his weight around. I find that he doesn't listen so I have to be very consistent with him or he thinks its all a big game and he runs away laughing.
I think it is quite normal for them to behave like this as they want to be able to control some things in their life.
If he is getting silly he has to either stay in his room for a short period or sit on his mat.
I praise him alot but he uses this to get his way too. He is always saying 'I love you mum' only after he has tipped his drink on the floor,etc. I don't underestimate how smart they can be. I have a newborn so I try to play with him when I am not feeding so then he feels he is included.
I can't wait till this phase passes. I am sure he will be a good boy when he is four.

[HoopDeeDoo]

My DS1 is behaving the same way, I'm hoping that time will make it better, cause nothing I do seems to help

[reAllytee]

I just had a big talk with my CHN two weeks ago about this & ive basically got to learn to be consistant because Boof will listen to DP but wont for me.
He pretty much tears the house apart with me & wont listen while im tearing my hair out & nearly in tears. With DP all he has to do is raise an eyebrow & Boof does as he is told !
Its basically them learning their boundaries & they are also learning who is the weakest link so to speak & thats what we are :rolleyes:
Consistancy is the key so saying " if you throw the toy again i will take it away " has to happen even if they throw a tanty. You also have to get down to their level when talking to them. Ive started doing all of this & its been working funnily enough as well as praising him for when he helps me or for any good behaviour. I did a lot of this before but i admit to not being consistant enough & ive also learnt to ignore a lot of his behaviour as he was thriving off me getting upset etc. Any reaction is a good reaction to them especially at this age !
If he gets too much he goes to his room for a time out for both of us LOL ! He has some toys in there anyways so its not like its that mean but its just to say thats enough & we both need a break. Then we start all over again.
As the nurse said every child is different & some need certain techniques put in place etc.
Im just hoping the next one will be easier :rolleyes: :fingerscrossed: