Wont go to sleep by self anymore

[Mollyandtaysmum]

I'm hoping someone here can help...............................
DD 9 months, used to go to sleep on her own when i put her to bed of a night. She is teething at the moment and will not go to sleep even though she's tired. She has her last bottle at 6.30pm and normally goes to bed around 7.30-8.00. Lately she hasn't been going to sleep til 10ish and thats only because i let her cry.
Why would she be doing this? Also she's waking nearly every hour all night!

[misskittyfantastico]

I don't have any real advice - sorry! I just wanted to let you know that it sounds pretty normal. My DD goes through periods when she's really unsettled and needs extra comfort (usually when she's teething) I just rock her to sleep - less painful for both of us:D I'm sure she'll settle again soon. Good luck:)

[lovemybub]

Apparently when babies are first born, they don't realise that they are separate from their mother, and so when they do begin to realise this, they can become a bit clingy to mum. I can't remember exactly when this happens (and it's probably different for everyone anyway), but I think it was somewhere in the second 6 months of life. This could be what is happening with your DD.

Giving her a cuddle and reminding her that you are there might be just the thing she needs. We co-sleep with our DD, so when I put her to bed for the night I lie in bed with her and she plays with my face until she falls asleep. She sometimes wakes once or twice before we go to bed for the night, and I just lie down with her again for a few mintues and as soon as she touches my face she relaxes again and you see her eyes close and roll back as she goes back to sleep. I figure she just needs the reassurance that I'm still there.

Having said that, if you DD is teething that could also be playing a big role in the sleeplessness. Try rubbing some teething gel on her gums, or even giving her a bit of panadol.

I know it can be wearing though. Hugs to you :hugs: and I hope things get better soon.

[the_queen]

I'm hoping someone here can help...............................
DD 9 months, used to go to sleep on her own when i put her to bed of a night. She is teething at the moment and will not go to sleep even though she's tired. She has her last bottle at 6.30pm and normally goes to bed around 7.30-8.00. Lately she hasn't been going to sleep til 10ish and thats only because i let her cry.
Why would she be doing this? Also she's waking nearly every hour all night!



You sound really stressed out about this. :hugs: to you, matey.

You've answered your own question: why is she waking? Because she's teething, probably. And maybe (please don't take this as an attack on you) letting her cry might be giving her a negative association with sleep-time.

My advice would be, give her the last bottle, then cuddle together in your bed until she falls asleep, then you can get up and do what you need to do in the evenings (I personally do aaaall the housework in the evenings after the kids are in bed :thumbsup: oh except the vaccuuming :p) and just let her have heaps and heaps of cuddly time with you for a little while, until she settles into a better routine. After a while, when she starts sleeping for longer periods, you could try putting her back into her cot after she's asleep. Then slowly, get back to putting her in her cot when she's awake but drowsy.

I just think that cuddles will fix most problems. They are only little for such a short time. Truly, cherish this time when cuddles can fix everything. Remember how nice it felt when you were a little kid, and you had a bad dream, and you jumped into bed with mum and dad. Sometimes babies just need lots of cuddles to help them transition - yours might be having a growth spurt, or her teeth might be really aching at night-time.

:hugs: