Help!! what do i do???

[mrsbutterflygirl]

After doing 2 years of a teaching degree (so half way) my husband has told me he doesn't want to finish it.. he doesn't want to be a teacher anymore...He hasnt been coping very well with uni life..he isn't really a study type person.. he is good at working hard in a manual labour job. But i wasn't expecting it.. and it has changed everything we were working towards.. I dont know what to do.. ia m hurt by it all but i still lvoe and support my husband fully. I guess i am alittle confused cause he says he might finish it later or he might not...i'm not sure what to think.. can anyone give me some advice as to what to do?? i want to support my husband in his choice but do i encourage him to go back later or not??? :crying:

[Rachel&Emma]

Just tell him that whatever he does you will be there to support him.

[mrsbutterflygirl]

I guess i havent really explained the whole situation well.. and i feel so selfish for feeling hurt.. i just want my huisband to be happy and i can't seem to help him at the moment cause he doesn't know what he wants.. it's hard.. i'm just vetning alittle too

[RedPanda]

Oh Hannah! :hugs: to you. Being a uni student is tough (I was one for four years). Budgets are tight, and homework is so annoying. The temptations of a full-time wage and a freer life are always looming. Maybe just ask your husband if it's really a decision based on his future aspirations or the frustrations of student life. I was tempted to drop out several times, but with uni fees the way they are at the moment, is it worth paying two years worth of fees to finish without any credentials? Once you have a degree, no-one can take that from you. It's an achievement that you keep forever.
I hope everything works out ok in the end. There's nothing wrong with pulling out half way as long as that's what he really wants to do. However, he also has to think of his family!

[SamanthaJane]

Just support him :) He may change his mind, or this may be what he wants. I know it's hard to accept but you just need to support him and his decisions, his prorbabaly having a tough time at the moment and theres nothing stopping him from picking it up again later :)

[clarebear1983]

I know this isnt the same as what you are going through but I can kinda understand how you feel: My husband started doing the grad dip in education this year (cos he already has a bachelor of science).......he failed his first prac and decided that he didnt want to study any more........he only had to repeat his first prac and then do semester two which is only a few more months but he is adamant he doesnt want to do it. he found a really good paying job and has decided thats where he is meant to be.

At first i was RAVING MAD!!! I mean why all that work just to pack it in!! I was hurt because I gave up a lot of my study time to help him and give him time to study because his was only a one year course and now it was for nothing. i could have focused on my studies. I thought he should at least see this through because what happens if he hates the job later? He says hes not cut out to be a teacher-well thats what he believes in his heart.

DH and i had a talk and we compromised. He took the job and arranged for a leave of absence from uni to see if he is happier that way. That way he can go back to uni in 6-12 months to resume the course if he wants to or he can quit and keep working with the job he loves. So far he loves his job and doesnt see going back to uni as his prefered option.

Would your DH do this? (Take a leave of absence to give himself time to think because they can do them from 6-12 months at most unis and its easier to get back in than if you quit out right)?

Support him and just let him do what he feels hes being lead to! At least he has a job he likes and he is making money and thats a bonus. Sit down and talk about it and tell him that no matter what your behind him.................