polony
06-09-2006, 15:59
I am wanting to break it off with my new partner. I am feeling so suffocated by him.
He has so far confronted the father of my child (who is a good friend of his) on more than one occassion to tell him to be part of my DD's life. I never asked him to do this and am a little angry at him for butting in. It is my thing, not his and I am ok with how the situation is for now, even if it is hard. But my new partner felt the need to say something to him, thinking it would make a difference, which it didn't and I knew it wouldn't. I feel like my new partner has overstepped a boundary there. Sure he had good intentions, but I think he should have asked how I felt first.
Secondly, he is over ALL the time and I hardly have enough "me" time without him having to be there too. I try to sit on the couch and he feels the need to be close to me all the time. I go on the computer and he constantly looks over my shoulder and questions what I am doing and why do I need to chat to strangers.
There are so many other things that drive me nuts too, but these are the most serious to me.
Ok, he did come from an untrustworthy relationship before me, but he needs to back off. I feel like I have to sneak around to do things and that he feels unvalidated if I am not with him. He wants to cuddle all the time and I am not really a touchy feely person. He sees this as a challenge and tries even harder to cuddle me more. It drives me insane. I feel so suffocated.
Am I being selfish for feeling this way? I think I just want to be single. I am so busy with uni and DD that I find it hard to deal with a partner too. I just feel so selfish about it all. What do you think??
He has so far confronted the father of my child (who is a good friend of his) on more than one occassion to tell him to be part of my DD's life. I never asked him to do this and am a little angry at him for butting in. It is my thing, not his and I am ok with how the situation is for now, even if it is hard. But my new partner felt the need to say something to him, thinking it would make a difference, which it didn't and I knew it wouldn't. I feel like my new partner has overstepped a boundary there. Sure he had good intentions, but I think he should have asked how I felt first.
Secondly, he is over ALL the time and I hardly have enough "me" time without him having to be there too. I try to sit on the couch and he feels the need to be close to me all the time. I go on the computer and he constantly looks over my shoulder and questions what I am doing and why do I need to chat to strangers.
There are so many other things that drive me nuts too, but these are the most serious to me.
Ok, he did come from an untrustworthy relationship before me, but he needs to back off. I feel like I have to sneak around to do things and that he feels unvalidated if I am not with him. He wants to cuddle all the time and I am not really a touchy feely person. He sees this as a challenge and tries even harder to cuddle me more. It drives me insane. I feel so suffocated.
Am I being selfish for feeling this way? I think I just want to be single. I am so busy with uni and DD that I find it hard to deal with a partner too. I just feel so selfish about it all. What do you think??