Scan coming up an im alittle nervous.

[EthanandTysonsmum]

Ok so i know there has been a few of these threads already and im sorry to be now starting another but i really just need to get this out there.

I have my 18wk scan on tuesday and am finding out if its a girl or boy. I dont know how im going to reacted if i get told its another boy cause i know my partner is going to look at me and wait for the disapointment. I know i will be fine with it as i love my boys very much and wouldn't change them for anything. But when i found out DS2 was a boy i cried my eyes out that night and all i got from DF was "are u f**ken serious get over it". I dont think he understands y i want a little girl so bad i have tried explianing it to him but i dont think he gets it. Well i did get over it and was very excited to have another boy, i think i just needed to let it out and do some shopping.

This is our last baby as i know i wont be able to cope with anymore. It just makes it harder when u tell everyone ur pregnant and they turn around and say "bet u want a girl this time" or "i hope its a girl for ur sake".
I dont wanna go around and tell everyone that its another boy cause i really dont want the aww u poor thing.
No its not poor thing ill still be happy as im having a beautiful healthy baby that i know will all be great friends when they get older but i just feel i need to greive not having my little girl if thats the way it goes with out being critisized.

Sorry if this seems all over the place but my head is going 100miles atm.

Im also scared that ds1 is going to be upset. He really wants a little sister. I have tried telling him that it could still be a boy. Hopfully he will just be excited by the US and not worry so much.

Thanks for taking the time out and reading my post i just need to get it out there.

Just thought i would add that i do think its a boy so maybe that will help abit as im prepared for them to say boy.

[jdsmummy]

:hugs::hugs:

I know excatly how you feel. I really wanted ds2 to be a girl as we only wanted 2 kids and really thought I would have 1 of each. I was so dissappointed when I found out he was a boy, and then felt quilty for feeling that way as he was very much wanted and all that mattered was that he was healthy.
I would not change him for the world now tho.

This baby was not planned. I would love to have a girl but I was not gonna plan another baby just for this reason. Anyhoo a little accident happened and no 3 is on its way lol!

I found out im having a girl (as you know) but I still dont believe it and am trying to talk DP into a gender scan or early 3D scan lol.

I dont have any advice but I just wanted to let you know I understand how you feel and I didnt have support from DP either :hugs:

[EthanandTysonsmum]

I know what u mean. As bad as this my sound but if ds2 was a girl we wouldnt of had another and i know by getting pg there is a 50 50 chance of having another boy and im prepared for that. I tried to do alittle gender swaying but i didnt let it consume my life and after having a mc sometimes all u want is just a healthy bub growing inside u no matter what s3x.

It does help knowing that other people have had the same feeling as u. Makes u feel not as quilty and that its kinda normal i guess.

And congrats on the girl. I would prob be the same as u in wanting another scan but i dont think DF would go for it either. I guess u could just go for ur pink stuff and if it does turn out to be another boy he will just be wearing pink for alittle while :laughing:

Jdsmummy did u have any feelings about what u thought u were having???

[Hokey Pokey]

I am a Mum to 4 girls and those comments from people were hard to take at first but now I am so used to it, as I get it every time I am in public. I don't hold my tongue anymore and I come back with something sharp lol they won't go saying that again in a hurry :gl: for your scan!!!

[GabberQueeN83]

This is what i'm scared of if we decide to have another... but goodluck with the scan hun i will be thinking of you :):hugs:

[1+1=5]

I went through this with all 3 of my boys and it got worse with each bub. its such a horrible feeling. Looking at each of my boys, there is no way I would change any of them....i would have loved a little girl though. I think if we had a little girl second time around, we probably wouldn't have tried for #3 which would have been such a shame. DS3 is just magic, he is so precious and happy, I cannot imagine life without him.

good luck with your scan hun. Its okay to be upset, I wasn't harsh on myself which allowed me to grieve and move on to be excited to have my third little man.

[BaileysMummy08]

I posted a thread very very similar to this not long ago.
I only have the one DS, but we are only having the two so i desperately wanted to have a girl.
Plus my entire family kept telling me it better be a girl (lots of boys in the family and one girl now 12)

So i know how you feel! I so did not want pity off anyone, didn't think i could stand it! Plus i knew i was going to be dispointed and didn't want anyone to know that.

One lady on here suggested that if i did find out it was a boy to pretend that the sonographer couldnt tell what sex it was, that way you have time to come to terms with it and once bubs is here they wouldnt dare give you pity... besides bub will probably be so adorably squishy they will fall in love immediately and not even cross their minds that it isn't a girl!

I had convinced myself i was having another boy- only to cushion the fall i guess if it was.
But lo and behold, i am having a girl.

Goodluck with everything, i really hope you get what you wish for, but even more so i hope you get a very healthy gorgeous little bubba!

[EthanandTysonsmum]

Thanks guys for ur reply's.

1+1 I remember ur last thread when u found out u were having ds3. I was so hoping u were getting ur little girl only cause I could relate. but im glad u have ur beautiful little boy now and I know I'll be the same once they are here and have there only little personalities u wouldn't change it.

Atm I don't feel that bad I'm just nervous as hell but I think I'm more scared about how I'm going to react after I find out.

I'll have to come up with some of my own comments if it is another boy. I just know the nxt thing people will say is "are u going to try again". They just never give up do they. Don't they realize that sometimes it might be a raw subject and just to keep there month shut.

[EthanandTysonsmum]

Baileysmum. It's not so much the family. There are lots of girls in the fam and I'm the only one with the boys. It's just the random comments u get from people that u really don't know. I was thinking about not telling anyone anyway and either saying they couldn't see anything or just saying I don't want u to know yet but I'm not sure yet cause I'm sure if it's a girl I'll wanna tell everyone lol.

[1+1=5]

I asked the sonographer to write it down on a piece of paper for me and to pop it in an envelope. this gave me the opportunity to open it when I was ready and to react in a way that i needed to in peace. I would highly recommend that if you are afraid of your reaction.

[EthanandTysonsmum]

I have thought of it but ds1 is coming along to the scan and is very excited to find out what it is so I wouldn't want to disappoint him. I'll be able to hold it in till the night when everyone is asleep and let it out then if I need too. I'm seeing a friend after my scan to as it's the only time we can catch up and havent seem her is ages. It's all good but I'm very good at hiding my feelings lol well I hope so anyway.

[Hokey Pokey]

I asked the sonographer to write it down on a piece of paper for me and to pop it in an envelope. this gave me the opportunity to open it when I was ready and to react in a way that i needed to in peace. I would highly recommend that if you are afraid of your reaction.

Hubby and I asked if they could do that for our second and he said no :frustrated:
Different places I guess have different rules?

[krystallxx]

We going thru a same thing ATM .. Going for my gender scan tomorrow and everyone is hoping it's a girl, I'm really not fussed! A girl would be nice as this will probs be out last but I'll be more then happy with another boy.. The pity people will give me if it's a boy is really going to **** me off .. Someone said to me today don't ring me if it's a boy cause I don't care .. Yeh well don't call me again cause we ain't friends!!
Hope people leave you alone an you have one perfect beautiful little baby .. Boy or girl :)

[EthanandTysonsmum]

Thanks heaps Krystal. Wow I can't believe a friend said that. It is so rude. Oh well just don't call her either way. If we can be happy enough with it y can't other people.
Goodluck with ur scan tomorrow. U will have to come on and let me know what ur having.

[krystallxx]

Will do:) hope u feeling better xo

[singa06]

Good luck with your scan. We are TTC for #2 soon and deep down I would love a girl, but tell myself it doesn't matter, and it doesn't, but somewhere inside me would love a daughter.
Either way, we still love them the same!!

[EthanandTysonsmum]

I am feeling alot better. It's just nice to get it out in the open and off my chest without getting put down.

And it's true we will love them no matter what.

[krystallxx]

Thats good to hear :) people can be so nasty sometimes .. Its very frustrating! Take care and good luck with ur scan :) xo

[MamaKoala]

When I was pg with dd it felt like the weight of the world was on my shoulders because I wanted a girl and everyone expected a girl. I cried at the scan when I was told a girl and I didn't believe it. I knew that sometimes they were wrong. I even asked the midwife when I delivered her and she told me to look.
I don't know how I would have reacted if she was a boy. Good luck on your scan and I am thinking pink for you.

[EthanandTysonsmum]

Well I had the worst night sleep. Its all I could think about when I woke up.
5 more sleeps man I hope it goes fast.
Krystall Goodluck with ur scan too.

[muls]

I know the feeling and posted a discussion similar to this a while ago. I found out that I was pregnant before trying and was planning on trying for a girl but didn't get the chance. I was so worried that if it was a boy I wouldn't cope and would find it hard to hide my feelings. I found out early at 15wks that I was having another boy because I couldn't wait and I was really happy either way even though I didn't believe that I could be. I had times during the pregnancy where I though maybe they were wrong and that bub could be a girl even though I knew that was a pipe dream.
Anyway fast forward and my newest little man is 11 days old and he is honestly amazing just the way he is and we named him Nate 'gift from god' because even though he wasn't planned just yet he was meant to be and Nate was the name we were going to use for DS1 and then DS2 so when we found out about bub's gender the name seemed to fit perfectly. It might be hard to deal with at first and until bub is in your arms you may have times of doubt and emotional moments when your by yourself (I know I did) but when you are holding them and they look up at you with their perfect eyes and tiny limbs and they need and want your attention you know that they are perfect and that no matter what we wish for being a mum comes in all different shapes and sizes and we wouldn't swap the job for the world!! Hope I didn't babble on but I am so happy with my newest little fella that I don't know how I had doubt at all. In saying that I still dream that maybe no.4 will be a girl since we are now planning no.4!
Good luck though maybe you have a little princess growing right now!!

[QTB]

I was the same with boy #3.... we found out at 13wks he was a boy... i cried and cried and cried... then at 20wk scan we found out he probably had trisomy 18 - everything instantly changed, i didnt care what sex bub was as long as he was healthy... (he is!) although im still disappointed i dont have a girl, Kai is just beautiful and i wouldnt change him for the world <3

if you need to cry, just cry and remember you will love him the minute hes born!

good luck though, i hope you get pink <3

[EthanandTysonsmum]

Muls what u said was just perfect. I had tears in my eyes. I just can't wait to hold a little bubba again and know that it's all mine and apart of me. Thank you so much for those words they ment alot.

[EthanandTysonsmum]

QTB. I'm glad that ur little boy ended up being ok I guess it does change things alot when u think there could be something wrong. I know deep down that all we really want is a happy and healthy bubba no matter what.

And muls good luck with number 4 and I hope it's ur little princess.

Now I just need to play the waiting game. I have decided that before the scan we are going to go to macca's for breakfast. Ds2 is sleeping at grandmas so we will just have ds1 and it should be a really nice morning. I'm so glad my appointment is at 9am. I don't think I could wait a whole day.

[muls]

Ethanandtysonsmum - That's ok. I hated feeling the way I did when I found out I was pregnant and know that the feeling is hard to shake but we can get through it and our bubbas are so loved and the feeling has nothing to do with the bub we're having it's to do with the bub that we're not so we shouldn't feel ashamed at all!!
Oh and that's exactly what we did with the scan DS2 stayed with nanny and poppy, we too DS1 and he's reaction of the scan was just so beautiful that we walked out estatic!!
And thanks I really do hope I get a princess just got to work out the details now well in a while LOL!

[raisingthree]

I felt that way with my second son - you aren't alone, there are many people who feel that way, lots that just won't admit it.

Definately get them to write it down and read it when you are ready. I wanted to be by myself when i read the news - then had a big big cry.

[EthanandTysonsmum]

Thankyou everyone for being so great and giving me some great advice.

Muls ur correct once again its not that i wouldn't be unhappy with my bub if its a boy its more being sad knowing that i wont get a girl.

For some reason im feeling more convinced its a boy and maybe thats because im feeling more peace with it. Who knows i might get disapointed if they tell me its a girl (:laughing: i highly dout it thou)

one pro bout having a boy is that i will save a sh*t load of money:laughing:

[EthanandTysonsmum]

Ok so I'm starting to freak out again. Its so close and I'm getting so nervous it's all I can think about atm. God I wish it was tomorrow.
Only 2 sleeps to go. I don't know how I'm going to sleep tomorrow night.

I would really really love a little girl.

[LibranTwin]

I have my fingers crossed for you :fingerscrossed: I hope you have a healthy bub in your belly and it's a girl!!

[mummyjac]

Just wanted to pop in and give you these :hugs:. I know exactly how you feel. We found out the sex second time around, and kept it to ourselves,just pretended we didn't know. I was glad I found out and had time to process things. I am in two minds about swaying for a girl,as I am not sure how I will feel if it doesn't happen. GOOD LUCK today!

[Hokey Pokey]

Good luck today ;)

[EthanandTysonsmum]

Scan is tomorrow not today but thanks for the well wishes.
I had such a rough nite sleep last nite and have a feeling tonight will prob be worse. So glad my scan is first thing.

[muls]

Good luck tomorrow and I'll be thinking of you and keeping fingers and toes crossed for a girl but another little man will be special 2 :fingerscrossed:

[EthanandTysonsmum]

Thanks muls :)

[jdsmummy]

Good luck tommorrow, please dont hesitate to pm me if you need to :yes:

I have my scan a week fri and im nervous!

Just remember no matter what you will still love this bubs.

[the girls mum]

Good luck tomorrow OP.

I can sort of understand how you feel, but in a different way - haha sorry that makes noooo sense.

OK I have a DD and we are trying for no 2 now - this will be our last bubba as 2 is all I can handle haha - I REALLLLLLY want another girl - and like you I would be happy with and totally in love with a boy, but for some reason I want another girl? I get the comments 'ohhh going for the pigeon pair, hope you get your little boy this time!' - haha I just nod and agree.

But I think finding out is a good idea, that way there is less of a 'suprise' factor if that makes sense? If and when I get pregnant we will be having a gender scan this time for the same reasons.

Anyway sorry if that post made zero sense - I will be thinking of you tomorrow - I hope you get the outcome you want - dont feel guilty about wanting a little girl, it doesnt mean you love your little boys any less or that you wont love your bubba if it turns out to be a boy - loads of hugs xxx

[DoneAndDusted]

Hiya,

Just wanted to pop in and wish you all the luck in the world for tomorrow :goodvibes: I'll be thinking of you :hugs: xx

[BaileysMummy08]

Good luck today! :fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed::fingerscrossed:

[krystallxx]

Good luck today .. Hope bubs is doing well and u get the result you want xoxo

[missymoo9]

goodluck!!

[EthanandTysonsmum]

Thanks everyone. I'm so nervous right now.

Df is convinced it another boy he was talking to my tummy last night and said if ur a boy then kick and there was nothing then he said if ur not a boy then kick and I got a couple of big ones haha.

I'll try come on straight after to u let know. 2hrs to go. Ds1 is so excited.

[Aurora21]

Good Luck today! I went through this last year in March. I have a little girl and was hoping for a little boy as we only want 2 kids. We did sway for a boy so when they showed me my little mans bits I was over the moon! little boys are so cuddly...
I was very nervous and didnt sleep for days before hand.
Good luck...I hope you get your little girl and if you dont as least you've escaped those teenage years with all those hormones.
little girl dust for you...:babydust1::babydust1:

[leahk]

Good luck! I hope your scan goes well and bub is healthy and you get the outcome you want. Don't feel guilty at all, I have a 7 month old son and am hoping the next will be a girl so I will be feeling exactly the same way! No matter the outcome I'm sure you will love you baby more than anything! I will be thinking of you!

[muls]

Just checking in to see how you went..... Everything's still crossed waiting to hear the news :yes:

[jdsmummy]

How did you get on????????????????

[Hokey Pokey]

how did it go? x

[EthanandTysonsmum]

The scan went well. Beautiful, healthy and was very active scan took 2hrs.

Anyway it a BOY.

I was pretty down after and I have had a cry. I just feel ripped off that I can't even have one girl. Ds1 was alittle disappointed which made it even harder even righting this now I'm getting teary. Oh well it the way it is and I can't change it so now just waiting to meet my little man and see what he looks like.

[LibranTwin]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

Take your time dealing with it and let the tears flow. Then when your next little man arrives you be all ready to bring him into your family :)

[krystallxx]

Sorry you didn't get a little girl ..
I'm glad you have another healthy boy though :)
Take ur time to deal with it .. Big hugs to you :) xxx

[DoneAndDusted]

Huge :hugs:'s

I'm sorry your scan didn't go as you hoped... It is ok to cry hun...
You must be a very special mum for this little man to have chosen you over anyone else. Thinking of you x

[Love is all you need]

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
Big hugs hun I can only imagine how you are feeling, there are some great girls on here who have been through similar feelings I'm sure they'd be more than happy to talk to you if you wanted to talk to someone that understands once again big big :hugs:

[Mrs Dolphin]

Aww it's a shame you haven't got a little girl onboard - however it is GREAT news that you have a healthy baby no matter the sex!! :goodvibes:

Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!! I am sure your boys will love another little brother to play with!! :)

[EthanandTysonsmum]

Thanks heaps. Everyone is so great on here and it's nice to get things out without being judged. I'm finding it alittle hard atm but I know I'll get there.

[muls]

Oh hun I'm feeling ya that was me last year....:hugs:
I was so happy when I left the U/S as it was my first 4d one and just seeing bub so cuddled up and happy was really nice but then a few weeks later I started to get upset about not getting a girl. I still really want a girl but my little Nate baby as my DS1 calls him is just so amazing. I know that it's going to be hard until you get to hold him but once you do you will be so happy - I promise!!!! Will you try again later for a girl - I know I am :freakingout:

PM me if you need to chat, It's nice to vent

[Lucy in the Sky]

So glad your baby is healthy, and I'm sorry that it wasn't the girl you wanted.
I remember crying a few times times after I found out DS was a boy. As you already know from your first two, never regret it for a minute after they are born :)

And just think, with three boys, how much attention you are going to get from them when they are older. My friend is one of four boys and they all adore their mother and would do anything for her. It's really sweet. Their wives must be jealous!

[Hokey Pokey]

Congrats and glad bubs is healthy.. you will be fine xx

[buddbub84]

I entirely feel you fear!, Im 12 weeks with bub no 3 and have two gorgeous boys and are praying for a girl as is my ENTIRE FAMILY its so stressful and im very nervous about my scan in 8 weeks too! I wish you the best if luck!:fingerscrossed: