Begging?

[Misschief]

DS has started a habit of "begging" whenever Im holding a drink or food in my hands.
He immediately crawls upto me and stands in front of me, while holding onto my knees, and starts clicking his tongue and opening his mouth every time I take a bite out of something.
Yesterday afternoon I ended up eating my icecream in my bedroom while he was in the livingroom.
It reminds me of my parents dog. She will sit in front of me and start licking her gob when she begs.
Its hard to say no to him too, but I do it anyway. Its cute and funny the way he opens his mouth expecting to get something. Yet I cant possibly give him a lick of my icecream, I dont want him to have sweets or sugar like that.
I also dont want him to learn that whenever he asks, he will be guaranteed to receive. Sometimes thats just not possible.

Does anyone else have/had a bub doing this? How am I going to stop this behaviour? I have tried ignoring him, but he throws a full on tantrum if I ignore him and keep eating without sharing :(

P.S. He doesn't only do it with me, he does it with my parents too! :(

[Boobycino]

Can you get him a snack he can have and likes?

Jasper is 2 now I can't eat junky food till he's in bed, because he'll fully meltdown if I don't share.

[Purplebird]

I give my children a snack at the same time I have one. Or I share with them. Don't worry, I'm sure he won't still be begging from plates when he's older! Like SB, I save my chocolate until nighttime :)

[Juzz]

Hi,

I agree with previous posters perhaps try and give him a healthy option.

Personally I dont think it's fair to eat in front of others if you're not willing to share (or give them something else). I can imaginemy reaction if my partner ate a yummy ice cream in front if me and wouldn't share it with me - I'd be pretty narky! I can imagine it would be the same for bubs!

[biscotti]

I have tried ignoring him, but he throws a full on tantrum if I ignore him and keep eating without sharing :(



I think I'd chuck a tanty too :laughing:

If you are having foods like sweets and ice cream that you don't think are appropriate for him to have, could you maybe wait until he's in bed?

I actually think it's a great way for babies/toddlers to try new foods and tastes and textures and I quite happily share what's on my plate :)

[Misschief]

Its npt just junk food. Its EVERYTHING I eat and drink :(

I would have fed him his breakfast, just a few minutes before I have mine, and he still wants some of mine :S
Or I would be eating a sandwich on the lounge and feed him pieces of his sandwich at the same time while he's playing and he still crawls up to me and stands there with a wide open mouth and smacking his lips wanting some of my sandwich.

This morning I gave him a rusk to chew on and he dropped it as soon as he saw me drinking a coffee. He stood in front of me, waving his arms and trying to reach my cup :rolleyes:


So is he the only one who does this? He's 12 months old and has been doing this since he was 10 months

[HELPihavea2yrold!]

DS has been doing this for awhile. I only eat healthy stuff while he's awake so I can share. My mum has often given my ds little tastes of ice-cream though. DS can have just eaten full serve of dinner, dessert (fruit, custard) plus a bottle and he still wants what I'm eating.

[mummaof4]

I think I'd chuck a tanty too :laughing:

lmao! so would i! you cant eat infront of him when he has nothing.. especially sweet things.

i'd wait till he's having a nap :) once he's bigger and can climb cupboards start hiding things at the back lol

[MummyDaddy]

If you don't want your child to have sweets and sugar then perhaps you need to lead by example and cut them out of your own diet. Too much sugar is bad in a diet anyway and detrimental to health in general. Could be a great new years resolution!!

[The Girls Only Club]

DD is only 7 months and always wants what I have.I made her weetbix for breakfast,she ate all of it but as soon as I made my own egg on toast she was after it.And if you don't hand it to her she screams blue murder.
I save treats until all my kids are in bed but everything else I share.

[mummaof4]

it does get any better.. once they're bigger though.

my little ones would still rather take the food off my plate than eat their own that can be EXACTLY the same!

hubs has taken to telling them his meal is spicy and they stay away from him and nag me more lol

[Lillynix]

*sigh* It sucks doesn't it? It's normal stuff and unfortunately it gets worse as they get older :rolleyes:

I just learnt that if I wanted to eat something that wasn't suitable for the children, i'd sneak away and it in peace, because with my lot they weren't happy to have something different to me, so distracting them with other food didn't work, they wanted what I had. If it's something that they could eat, then i'd simply just share it, make a little extra knowing that they'd hound me for it.

If it was just a drink of mine they were after, i'd just pass them their water and if they kicked up a fuss, well too bad on that front, they were not going to get my coffee/whatever and I was not sneaking off to quickly drink it :laughing:

[aLittleLoopy]

My older two are 14 and 12 and still want to eat what I'm eating! :hissy: Even if it's a healthy snack, I always have to share!

Like PPs said, I hide what I want as my own special snacks (normally dark chocolate) and don't eat in front of them :laughing:

[Misschief]

If you don't want your child to have sweets and sugar then perhaps you need to lead by example and cut them out of your own diet.

Yep and I have cut out most sugars already :D I pretty much eat only healthy stuff. Haven't had take away or fast food for about 2 years now.
Just last night I was at my parents place and they offered me an icecream after dinner. So I sneaked into the spare bedroom while he was playing in the livingroom with my parents lol.


I just learnt that if I wanted to eat something that wasn't suitable for the children, i'd sneak away and it in peace

Yep. Im afraid I now have to eat all my food, including breakfast, in my bedroom or some other place away from DS lol :( Dinner I eat after he's in bed anyway. Its just lunch and breakfast that he's always there :rolleyes:

Im lucky that DS doesn't know what fastfood is or takeaway as I dont eat any of that. Last week I saw my neighbours' MIL giving her 2 year old grandson a happy meal (chips cheeseburger and milkshake) and he finished the whole lot in less than 10 minutes :eek: Needless to say that MIL got into a whole lot of trouble with both parents.

[bumMum]

My ds always wanted to eat whatever I had on my plate so we ended up sharing EvErthing. It was bloody annoying but they do grow out of it

[missymoo9]

i find it piggish to eat infront of your chidren if they have nothing and want what you have.


i share anything im eating, if im going to eat something i shouldnt have id wait until hes in bed. ds loves what im eating more then what he does, even if its the exact same thing. i love sharing with him.

[missymoo9]

i also think its silly to sneak away from your child to eat something.

[Boobycino]

I think saying it's 'piggish' is a bit 'catish'

[Boobycino]

i also think its silly to sneak away from your child to eat something.

It may be silly, but it's also tasty!

[missymoo9]

upiggy? how else can i word it?


if someone in your family are eating something and someone else would like some but they dont share, its piggish.

im stating my opinion

[Boobycino]

i also think its silly to sneak away from your child to eat something.

It may be silly, but it's also tasty!

And I choose not to give my toddler chips and chocolate and lollies, but I chose to have Them myself in moderation. So I do either wait till he's in bed, or sneak into the kitchen for a quick bite.

I share most things with him. I'll purposefully eat fruit in front of him and go 'aww, you want to share, oooh okay then' ;) ;)

[missymoo9]

and if you want something all to yourself its greed.

[Boobycino]

and if you want something all to yourself its greed.

No. It's because I'm concerned about my toddlers health.

I choose not to give my 2 year old sugary sweets.

Actually I've probably been able to duet because I can't eat in front of him anymore, so I can't snack as much.

But no. It's not at all greedy to choose not to give my son sweets.

I mean. I drink coffee and alcohol too. Suppose I should share those too?

No. Of course not. Because there are things mummy and daddy can have that baby cannot.

[missymoo9]

i never said anything about sugary foods, a op said it wasnt just junk food she was talking about "everything i eat and drink"

[Boobycino]

i never said anything about sugary foods, a pp said it wasnt just junk food she was talking about.

The OP is talking about ice-cream?

[missymoo9]

if you look on the first page a post made by op says "not just junk its EVERYTHING i eat and drink"

[Boobycino]

Oh and the next one the 'everything I eat' yeah fair enough, Jasper wants to eat his dinner and pick over my plate next, it does get kinda annoying.

I don't think she ever said 'I NEVER SHARE FOOD he can just sit in the corner and starve'

She's saying after he's had his breakfast he wants hers just because she has it, and her coffee etc. Shes asking for advice so he doesn't just want everything she has. (or if other children do the same)

I don't see your issue?

[missymoo9]

i was simply stating my opinion. We can do that right? i said what i said and you keep pulling me up on everything i say, i dont have "an issue". I was simply stating my opinion.


I never said i she was starving her child or anything.

I share everything i eat with my child and i dont eat what i dont want him to have. We dont drink alcohol or coffee so dont have that as an issue. So we simply tolerate different things.


Other people didnt answer ops question but said similar things to me or shared there situation and you didnt pull them up so lay off!

[CazHazKidz]

Hayden does the same, I think it's pretty normal.

I share everything with him. If I'm having chips he'll have a chip, if I'm having icecream he can have a bite. It's only fair.

If I didn't want him having any of these things, I'd stop having them myself.

[mum2bubba]

I can't eat ANY food around the kids these days :rolleyes: they're like seagulls.

[BabushkaMumma]

Same thing here - clicking sounds and all.

I just let her have a little taste if it's a treat - but mainly treats are eaten after DD in bed anyways.

I think it's a developmental fascination at this age and then as they get older - it's just being plain old kiddies :D

I always always want what my DH is having! Surprised he's not started a post about it haha.



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[Boobycino]

My issue was you described it as 'piggish' which is unneccesarily rude.

And then said it was greed.

Anyhow. I'll back down. Maybe you didn't intend 'piggish' how it read.

:shakehands:

[Hannahly]

and if you want something all to yourself its greed.

Nah... You don't have to share everything. Kids need to learn that they don't get a share of everything they want. I don't share my morning coffee or wine (evening). My baby doesn't share his purees. And my daughter doesn't share her favorite blanket and Teddy. Having said that my babies are the same. My son will eat my vegemite sandwich not his own!

[TripleTime]

This lot do the same, always have. We all share everything, saves having 3 tanty throwing toddlers.
If I really, really want to eat on my own in peace, I want till they're in bed.

I have to pick my battles & a battle over food is not worth the stress in my book.

[MummyDaddy]

upiggy? how else can i word it?

Don't really want to get in the middle here - so at the risk of getting myself in trouble - I went and found the definition of 'piggish'

pig·gish   
[pig-ish] Show IPA
–adjective
1.
resembling a pig, esp. in being slovenly, greedy, or gluttonous: piggish table manners.
2.
(of food portions) indecently large.
3.
stubborn.

It's not a compliment to call someone piggish. Oops! I'm sure you didn't mean to offend!

I'm with you on the eating in front of children front. I share with my DD - in fact we have it as a game - i think because i've always shared with her - she's quite happy to not eat what i'm eating or to sometimes want a taste.

To the OP: I like what people have said about waiting until the children are in bed or making sure everyone shares.

Sharing is a great value to have and an even better one to teach children!

[Leisa21]

We taught DS adult foods and childrens food. If we have coffee he has milk, if we have soft drink he has water, if we have a lolly he has fruit etc. We rarely eat junk in front of him but if we want something we get him something else.

I still have morning sickness but I find home made ice blocks help. It's just juice but I don't want him having one at 5am so I justsay here have some cereal and milk and maybe later in the day you can have an iceblock. We try and lead by exapmle mist of the time but we've found by seperating adult foods and childrens foods it's helped.

This way if we're out at a party or a friends house we don't have meltdowns or problems because he knows he can't eat those foods. I don't make a habit of devouring food infront of him often even though I can get away with it because even though he doesn't mind I feel bad!

[Boobycino]

Here look, it goes Both ways !!!

http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=1539116482039

(this was earlier today )

[PurpleStars]

Can you get him a snack he can have and likes?

Jasper is 2 now I can't eat junky food till he's in bed, because he'll fully meltdown if I don't share.

This is me too. If I want something sugary, I wait til the girls are outside, or in bed then have something. They would go spare if I ate a treat in front of them and didn't share it. Or they get something appropriate to them - like myself and Emily might have chocolate, but Sarah wont eat it anyway so will have a rice thin quite happily while we're eating a freddo.

[missie_mack]

I think its a little unfair to eat something like this infront of him. Perhaps you could all have something that he can eat like frozen yoghurts. I imagine having something different to what they have is what makes it so appealing and makes them feel like they are missing out.

But yes my DS does it. If something I have peaks his interest yes he wants to share it but then he is also a great sharer himself and never minds sharing his special treats either, regardless of how special they are to him.

[Misschief]

*Shakes her head* A perfectly normal thread without any provocations and I still get told Im greedy, piggish, silly and selfish. Not cool! :thumbsdown:
But I've been called worse :p

Missymoo: I WOULD share anything and everything I had with him, IF he wasn't just 12 months old! I am not being greedy just because I can.
I keep it for myself because its not suitable for a 12 month old boy to eat!
I always encourage DS to share, even though he has no clue what the word means, as again, he's only 12 months old :rolleyes:

But I dont want to be called "piggish or "greedy" again :no:
Next time Im eating spicy chicken tandoori and hot coffee, I'll just give DS his own cuppa coffee and piece of Tandoori chicken :D

I also dont want to be silly and sneak away and eat something in the kitchen/bedroom :no:
So I wont eat between 6am and noon and between 2.30pm and 7pm. Those are his awake times. I will skip breakfast to prevent myself from being silly and eating it somewhere else because its not suitable for a 12 months old bub.


Now back to being serious....
I think that from now on, I will eat in the loungeroom while DS is playing in his playroom or dining room.
Not sure how Im going to do this when Im visiting other people. As I said before, he does it with my parents too and everyone else who sits near him with food.

[The Girls Only Club]

Unfortunately I think kids will always want what we are eating.
At the present I am lying in my nice hot bath to relax and my 9 year old is in the loungeroom.I am munching on a chocolate Santa someone felt the need to give to my 7 month old for Christmas.
I only wrapped the head and she came in asking me what I was eating.Half my Santa gone and now DH has come in and stolen some.

[Misschief]

Half my Santa gone and now DH has come in and stolen some.

Sorry, I had to giggle when reading that bit.
Im glad I dont have a DH/DF/DP to come in and pinch whatever it is I am sinning on that day.
I dont eat much sweets/choccie, but when I do, I do like to have it to myself.
So if that makes me greedy or selfish, so be it. Im sure, when DS is older, he will end up eating more sweets and choccie than I ever will :)