BlakeNatsMum
05-09-2006, 08:35 AM
Hi All,
I felt I would start this thread, to get a little rant off my chest! (I hope you all don't mind and think I'm just whingeing!)
Yesterday afternoon I got a phonecall from my DP saying that his Aunt needed to stay over at our house last night because she had appointments here. That was okay, lucky I was actually cooking a roast anyway!
Anyway Aunt arrives and we were just generally chatting whilst I was serving tea up. I was talking to DP asking him if he was going to inform her of our new arrival as she is the last person now to be told about our new arrival, everyone else knows, including DP's own mother and family, and they were actually very happy for us! Anyway DP said to me that he wanted to find a better time to tell her because this Aunt is very harsh on matters like this and always has something negative to say about it. I suppose in hindsight he was afraid of what she would say. Having said that, this Aunt has never ever had any children of her own due to having been jilted by a boyfriend many years ago, the Aunt is around 67 years old. When he had said something along the lines of that we needed a better time to tell her, I got mad with him as this was the only real opportunity that we would have to tell her because we dont really see her often and she is always very busy. I told him I would rather tell her than have someone else off the street tell her, which would only cause more grief to the situation.
After I got mad, I then got really upset and I burst into tears! I rarely ever cry at all! He had made me feel like we were dirty and to be ashamed of our new arrival because we knew that she would "disapprove" of OUR decision to have another child! So I toddled off to the bathroom to collect myself whilst he just jabbered on normal talk to her.
I came out with red eyes and proceeded to cut the roast up whilst he bought her out to the kitchen.
Anyway he bought it out there and then infront of me that we were expecting a new arrival, and he pointed to my belly. She just stood there, looked at me and said "Oh no"... "No.. No...No.. No.. No" she said. I thought "here we go!".. DP tried to calmly explain to her our reasons for wanting another child, about us not wanting a big age gap between our children and our various other reasons. I was actually upset at her saying all those "No's!" His Aunt was going on about the fact that we haven't bought a house, and the rest of it! Basically, his Aunt is from the old school, everything has to be done as she wishes for it to be done and in her order! So for the next 30 mins to an hour we ended up defending ourselves at the kitchen table over it! :eek:
Also she told us it had better be a girl! She said she didn't want anymore bloody boys!.. We have a boy already, and her nephew who she helped raise, also had a boy early this year! I was feeling abit fragile again over the whole conversation but had to hold myself together, and try and get it through to her that we were very happy with our decision and that we were happy with our new arrival! And so we learnt, that if our poor baby wasn't a girl then she wasn't going to be all that interested in it!..
So that's my rant, I have tried to keep it very short, and I apologise if I have gone on, but that is about the gist of the problem!
I hope that all the other mums out there don't have as bad a time as what we had last night. But I am glad that she now knows that we are happy with our new arrival, and that regardless of what sex bub is, we will love him/her, whether we have her approval or not!... :kiss:
Thanks All for Listening,
Jen. :eek:
I felt I would start this thread, to get a little rant off my chest! (I hope you all don't mind and think I'm just whingeing!)
Yesterday afternoon I got a phonecall from my DP saying that his Aunt needed to stay over at our house last night because she had appointments here. That was okay, lucky I was actually cooking a roast anyway!
Anyway Aunt arrives and we were just generally chatting whilst I was serving tea up. I was talking to DP asking him if he was going to inform her of our new arrival as she is the last person now to be told about our new arrival, everyone else knows, including DP's own mother and family, and they were actually very happy for us! Anyway DP said to me that he wanted to find a better time to tell her because this Aunt is very harsh on matters like this and always has something negative to say about it. I suppose in hindsight he was afraid of what she would say. Having said that, this Aunt has never ever had any children of her own due to having been jilted by a boyfriend many years ago, the Aunt is around 67 years old. When he had said something along the lines of that we needed a better time to tell her, I got mad with him as this was the only real opportunity that we would have to tell her because we dont really see her often and she is always very busy. I told him I would rather tell her than have someone else off the street tell her, which would only cause more grief to the situation.
After I got mad, I then got really upset and I burst into tears! I rarely ever cry at all! He had made me feel like we were dirty and to be ashamed of our new arrival because we knew that she would "disapprove" of OUR decision to have another child! So I toddled off to the bathroom to collect myself whilst he just jabbered on normal talk to her.
I came out with red eyes and proceeded to cut the roast up whilst he bought her out to the kitchen.
Anyway he bought it out there and then infront of me that we were expecting a new arrival, and he pointed to my belly. She just stood there, looked at me and said "Oh no"... "No.. No...No.. No.. No" she said. I thought "here we go!".. DP tried to calmly explain to her our reasons for wanting another child, about us not wanting a big age gap between our children and our various other reasons. I was actually upset at her saying all those "No's!" His Aunt was going on about the fact that we haven't bought a house, and the rest of it! Basically, his Aunt is from the old school, everything has to be done as she wishes for it to be done and in her order! So for the next 30 mins to an hour we ended up defending ourselves at the kitchen table over it! :eek:
Also she told us it had better be a girl! She said she didn't want anymore bloody boys!.. We have a boy already, and her nephew who she helped raise, also had a boy early this year! I was feeling abit fragile again over the whole conversation but had to hold myself together, and try and get it through to her that we were very happy with our decision and that we were happy with our new arrival! And so we learnt, that if our poor baby wasn't a girl then she wasn't going to be all that interested in it!..
So that's my rant, I have tried to keep it very short, and I apologise if I have gone on, but that is about the gist of the problem!
I hope that all the other mums out there don't have as bad a time as what we had last night. But I am glad that she now knows that we are happy with our new arrival, and that regardless of what sex bub is, we will love him/her, whether we have her approval or not!... :kiss:
Thanks All for Listening,
Jen. :eek: