Dont know what to do..

[2'r'enough]

Hi

well i am new.. looking for some help/advice..

i have a 3yr old DD and 7 month old son..

my problem is that things havnt been right since DS was born..

i get soo frusturated him all the time.. i cant handle it when he sooks or cries.. i loose my temper so quickly and find myself yelling at him.. some days i just wish he wasnt here....

sometime i find my DD is telling me that 'he is only a baby and not to yell'

i feel soo bad because i never felt like this with my dd.. she was such a different baby..


I feel terrible all day long.. until my hubby gets home, then its like it all just magically goes away...

i am soo sick of feeling like a terrible mum.

[FourAngelKisses]

Sounds a LOT like PND to me (I had it for 4.5yrs). Have you talked to your GP about how you are feeling? If not, it might be a good diea. If your bad days outnumber your good days, that is a sign that it could be PND.

I hope things get better for you. :hugs:

[indigoin0z]

oh goodness.... dont feel alone with this prob...

i too agree it sounds like PND... it doesnt just go away after a month or two :no:

i had the same with my #1 & it was still hanging around when #2 arrived...
i didnt know thats what it was, because i already had depression etc, so i was just continuing on as 'im a psycho' sort of feeling..
its really hard without help... the guilt of the behaviour & the behaviour itself is a vicious cycle...

i feel for you...:hugs:
get some help now... you dont have to keep feeling this way... you might be best to speak to a child/baby health centre first,
they should be able to refer/advise you of services that can help in your area...
good luck & take care
& give yourself a pat on the back for letting it out, thats the first step:thumbsup:

[Chickadee]

Taking care of 2 kids can be way more stressful than just 1 child. And maybe there have been other things & changes going on too? You're not alone in feeling how you do, but you don't need to suffer through it. Like the other girls have said, it sounds like PND to me. And even if it isn't exactly PND, I think talking to a professional about it would help a lot.

[Ky]

You sound exactly like I was when I had PND ... take yourself off to your GP or your local child health clinic and answer the standard questions they have honestly. They will tell you if they tink that there is a problem, at no point will they judge you to be a bad Mum and will refer you to a phychologist/psychiatrist (sessions are really relaxed) and maybe prescribe some short term medication jsut until you are feeling more like yourself again!

Do it ... it really helped me. I enjoy my kids now!

[Sholmes]

Hi there and big :hugs: , so glad you found bubhub. We're a supportive bunch and there's always someone to talk to or email! I'm sorry you've been feeling this way. I only have one bub, but I'm sure two can be hard work. Have you talked to your husband about how you've been feeling? Don't take it all on yourself. I'm sure we've all experienced extreme frustration so please don't feel bad or guilty. Do you have friends or family you can see during the day? It may help you to keep your mind busy with company. Maybe join a local playgroup. I find mine invaluable! Phone one of the mum support lines and they can help you get through some of the feelings as well. I hope you get the support you need. I'm here for a chat too so feel free to PM me! I'm an Excellent listener. :wave:

[alanasmum]

Firstly, you need to stop thinking you are a terrible mum. You are not - you are just having a hard time at the moment.

You said that your DD was a very different baby to your DS. I think our experience of motherhood (ie how much we enjoy it) has a lot to do with the temperament of our baby. How we feel depends a lot on how demanding our baby is - ie whether he/she is a good sleeper, eater, how much she cries etc.

In the short term, try and get out and about as much as you can - go for walks, spend time with other mums, visit friends. I find I go a bit crazy if I'm stuck in the house all the time and I have a run of bad days with my DD. And accept offers of help - even if you can get a few hours a week to yourself to take some time out from the children it can make a big difference.

Please also seek some medical assistance in case you are experiencing PND and give yourself the opportunity to make this situation better for yourself and your children. :hugs: